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Archives for February, 2017

ADHD

Circles

Giving myself the run-around

Two of my favorite words are cyclical and reciprocity.

They both have to do with give and take, with going around and coming around, with the wave model of life and reality.

They speak to the way that everything works, the way everything happens, in cycles, repetitively.

And yet, there are circles in my life, in the nature of my life, that drive me to distraction. Well, in truth, they are probably...
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ADHD

Endeavouring To Succeed With ADHD

Even if it means failure ...

Who isn't endeavouring to succeed? Well, who doesn't at least dream of succeeding, right?

And people with ADHD are constantly driven to be doing things. We're busy people. At least those of us with the "H" aspect of ADHD activated are usually on the go.

And while it is true that we often select what we do by how interesting it is, we don't do anything without hoping for...
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ADHD

A Perfect ADHD Day

It's not a distraction if it's on your ta-da list.

Okay, I told you about taking a day off on Monday, right? Told you how to do it. Mentioned that it is a matter of how you approach the day and not what you do or don't do, didn't I?

Yes I did. I know I did. And that's a good kind of day, maybe a great kind of day.

But I don't want to...
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Adult ADHD

Taking The Day Off

Takin' a break

There are things I love. Good books, good movies, casual bowling, shooting pool, playing music and writing are all on the list.

And then there are things I hate. Discovering I've been distracted from something I was supposed to be doing is high up on that list.

But the thing I really love, comes from the thing I really hate. I love taking a day off, because of the way...
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ADHD

Attention Is A Compass

Attentive but fallible

Many people pay attention to what they are supposed to. They find it easy enough to do, apparently.

I am not one of them.

You may not be either, which would explain why you're reading this blog.

For us, paying attention is something we do constantly, but are not able to easily control our attention and make it focus on any one main thing for any length of time.
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ADHD

ADHD Culture

We've got culture

Have you ever heard someone being described as having no culture?

Of course that's idiocy, everyone has culture. The culture that developed during kitchen parties in log cabins in the hills of Kentucky was as valid as the culture that steeped itself in the wonderful palaces and theatres and establishments along Vienna's magnificent Ringstrasse.

Culture is not designed, assessed, or decreed. Culture is what happens when communities are allowed to ferment.
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ADHD

Mind Scattered

Hmmm ... Clean it? Rebuild it? Fold the laundry and think about it?

It's one of those days. One of those glorious days when everything seems like it should be going great. Just right. Perfect!

It seems like that. But it isn't.

I've got a bag full of things I need to get done. I know what they are.

And I've got energy to spare. I have ADHD after all, I have ADHD with the "H"...
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ADHD

A Structured Life

Not routine ...

Last night I was out with some acquaintances and the topic of holidays came up. One person at the table said that when they were on holidays, they hardly got started when they'd commence wishing they were done and returned to work.

The rest of the conversation seemed to indicate that they needed the structure of their job in order to feel comfortable.

I get that.

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ADHD Discussion

Something To Say …

Conversationally exuberant

I seem never to be at a loss for something to say. Have you noticed that about me? Have you maybe noted that about yourself?

And sometimes, I believe, it's a lack of meta-cognition. I suspect that I'm really chatty, but maybe others talk as much as I do. Maybe everyone does.

But I think perhaps the first hypothesis is the truer one. I talk. A lot.
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ADHD

Motivate Me

Rather moving ...

In doing a bit of research on ADHD recently, I came across the phrase "Motivational Deficit." And I didn't like it much.

In fact, like the concept of "Attention Deficit," I think that motivational deficit is a misnomer for something that is not easily explained and certainly not labeled as easily as this.

As you know if you follow this blog, the idea that someone with ADHD has a deficit of attention...
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