There is a not so subtle difference that is apparent in comparing the lives of adults with ADHD to those without it.
And that difference may be surprising to people with ADHD, because we don’t really notice it without taking the time to step back and assess our lives.
People with and without ADHD have multiple interests. That’s just a condition of being human. People have the wherewithal and capacity to be interested in multiple things at any given time.
People gathered together in one place to experience a certain activity will, when questioned, yield a multitude of alternate activities that may not be shared with their fellow participants.
Is there a difference?
The thing about being someone with ADHD is that the list of other interests will be yards longer. And many of them will be things that were done for a while, possibly mastered, and then set aside in favor of some other new interest.
Now I’m not saying that wouldn’t happen to anyone else, but it won’t happen with the same frequency, trust me. It’s a thing with us.
I knew before I knew …
And I’ve been aware of this in myself for a lot longer than I’ve been aware of my ADHD.
I’ve done a whole lot of things in my life. Some things I’ve done for longer than others. Many of them required equipment that now sits idle and gathers dust while I move on to the next shiny thing that has attracted my attention.
And there was a time when this bothered me. Not the moving on to new things, but the leaving other things behind.
You see, I assumed when I started these things that my passion would continue. So when it waned, I felt bad, like I’d let someone down, maybe myself? And I had a hard time giving up or getting rid of the accoutrements that the activity required.
Hurray for diagnosis
My diagnosis brought many revelations, and among them was my eventual acceptance of my skipping from vocation to vocation and from hobby to craft to art form to activity and back to hobby again.
And now that that acceptance has been gained, I’ve realized that, rather than me letting myself or anyone else down, I am actually keeping myself active. And that is not a bad thing.
It doesn’t matter who you are …
Whether you are neuro-typical or the person suffering with the worst case of ADHD or any other mental health issue, there is a universal truth that, put simply, says that happy people function better. And what makes me happy is to be learning new things, trying new activities, experiencing new stuff.
And what makes me even happier is to not feel guilty about the hobbies I’ve left behind. So for my sake and the sake of those around me, I have sworn off commitment to hobbies.
As a bonus, that means I can go back to one I’ve left behind without worry too. And like my thoughts, my life can be a series of random activities in an unconnected string of adventure.
I’m good with that