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ADHD – Define Day Off

... except when I can
… except when I can

I have no idea what a “day off” actually is. I just realized that.

Yes, I’ve had days off from jobs I’ve held. It’s true. And I always looked forward to them.

And now that I work mostly for myself, and especially now that I’m winding that work down, I’ve been declaring that this day or that one is a day off.

But I really haven’t got a clue what that could possibly mean.

For one thing, these so called days off seem to be full of me doing all kinds of little things I’d set aside as being unimportant enough to take up time on work days.

And, additionally, I often see things that could be done and say to myself, “Hey, you could do that today. It’s your day off. You can do whatever you want.”

Busy needs

ADHD makes me need to be busy. I need to be doing something all the time. It is said that nature abhors a vacuum and I guess I’m as natural as I could possibly be, because I can’t tolerate sitting still.

Wait, what? Can’t sit still?

When I write, I have to admit that I’m sitting still. Well, I’m sitting in one place for an extended period of time. But my hands are fidgeting. They’re fidgeting purposefully I’ll grant you, writing all those words, but they are fidgeting none the less.

And my mind is also busy when I write. Writing fiction is most relaxing for me because, in my mind I’m up and gone, moving around a world that I’m completely in control of.

But days off?

Yes, right, I was talking about days off. But did you see what I just wrote about writing fiction? It’s relaxing. The truth about ADHD and days off is that, like anyone else, we want to relax on our days off.

And the truth about those of us for whom being active is mandatory is that we do not relax sitting while still.

No stopping for the next sixty years

We need movement, need to fidget, need to be doing. And so when we get a day off we find … something to do. Or some things to do. And if we run out, we find more.

If we’re in a place that is not our domain, we will pace. We will wander around looking here and there and itemizing the things we would do, given the liberty to make changes.

Perceive this!

So when I have a day off, and it seems to you that I may just have wasted it by doing a bunch of things I could have continued to put off, trust me to have done the right thing.

I mean, I just want to relax, and that cannot be accomplished for me in the screaming, raucous silence of being still.

I just want to relax on my day off, like anyone else would.

So, I’m good thanks.

ADHD – Define Day Off

Kelly Babcock

I was born in the city of Toronto in 1959, but moved when I was in my fourth year of life. I was raised and educated in a rural setting, growing up in a manner I like to refer to as free range. I live in an area where my family history stretches back 6 or more generations. I was diagnosed with ADHD at the age of 50 and have been both struggling with the new reality and using my discoveries to make my life better. I write two blogs here at Psych Central, one about having ADHD and one that is a daily positive affirmation that acts as an example of finding the good in as much of my life as I possibly can.

Find out more about me on my website: writeofway.

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Babcock, K. (2016). ADHD – Define Day Off. Psych Central. Retrieved on November 18, 2019, from


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