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Out Of Control With ADHD

Bet on it!

That could be a misleading title, couldn’t it? Who or what is out of control? Is it a result of the ADHD? Or is it just circumstance occurring parallel to ADHD? Or is it the ADHD itself that is out of control?

When I wrote the title, I thought I would be talking about the first two things. Well, actually, I thought I’d be talking about “circumstance occurring parallel to …”

But then before I even got the title written out I realized it covered situations that were “a result of …” as well. And before I started writing those two thoughts down I realized that the title could also apply to my ADHD being out of control.

And then I became aware that all of those things could happen simultaneously.

First things first

So, things happening to people with ADHD. Stressful things happen. And they have to be dealt with. And we can’t just set aside our ADHD while we go on a mission to clear up some thing that’s occurred.

Additionally, we can’t even counteract the effect of stress on our ADHD. Stressful things happening make our ADHD worse. There’s the first part of the triple play.

Two’s company …

Once the stress exacerbates the ADHD, more stressfull things are going to happen. That’s not a maybe, because we’re not now talking about random circumstance. Once exacerbated, ADHD symptoms cause more stressful circumstances to occur. I’ll just boil that down and say it again, “Increased symptoms cause stressful circumstances!”

And what did we learn in the first part about what stressful circumstances cause? That’s right, increased symptoms.

They always come in threes

So if increased stress and circumstance exacerbate ADHD and exacerbated ADHD cause increased stress and circumstance, where does it end? Well, it doesn’t, but it culminates in out of control ADHD. There’s your “out of control trifecta!”

So that’s your life now?

No. Of course not. The situations, the stressful circumstances eventually collapse under their own weight. Often we lose a bit of our heart when we give up on a bunch of things we were trying to accomplish.

But sometimes, especially as we get older, we begin to recognize the pattern of stress and circumstance and symptom coming on and we recognize that it’s time to rein ourselves in.

I wish I could say this works every time, but that would be a lie. I’m happy to say that it does eventually work more often for me. I’m in the middle of some heavy stuff right now and I am refusing to take on anything more until next week.

I just hope I survive to next week.

Out Of Control With ADHD

Kelly Babcock

I was born in the city of Toronto in 1959, but moved when I was in my fourth year of life. I was raised and educated in a rural setting, growing up in a manner I like to refer to as free range. I live on the traditional lands of the Chippewas of Nawash in an area where my family history stretches back 6 or 7 generations and my First Nations friend's families go back hundreds of generations. I was diagnosed with ADHD at the age of 50 and have been both struggling with the new reality and using my discoveries to make my life better. I am a freelance writer and I write two blogs here at Psych Central, one about living with ADHD and one that is a daily positive affirmation that acts as an example of finding the good in as much of my life as I possibly can.

Find out more about me on my website: writeofway.

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APA Reference
Babcock, K. (2016). Out Of Control With ADHD. Psych Central. Retrieved on July 14, 2020, from


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