You and I know that there are a lot of inside jokes about ADHD that are funny. And if you’re like me, you don’t mind sharing them with people who don’t have ADHD, so long as they are open minded people.
When narrow minded people use ADHD as the punchline of some joke or personal humorous anecdote I start having a problem.
And when the humor comes from a supposition that ADHD is not real or not as invasive or insidious as we know it to be, then I lose my sense of humor really quickly.
It’s not funny being frustrated
You and I know that when we’ve looked everywhere for our keys and find them in the door lock on the outside where they’ve been all night, that’s kind of funny … to us. But we also know when that happens for the third time in a month and it’s only the 12th, the humor loses its cutting edge on the cold hard surface of frustration.
Still, though, we are aware of the humor of the situation. I mean, yeah, it has dulled a lot, but we still know that, out of the context of our frustration, the finding of ones keys where we used them last, or worse, in out right hand while we rifle through drawers and piles with our left hand, is laughable.
What do we want?
There’s a rather clever meme going around the internet that has some entity at a lectern speaking to a crowd. Said entity asks “What do we want?” and the crowd roars back, “A cure for ADHD!!!” The speaker then asks “When do we want it???” Pointing and yelling in unison the crowd yells “SQUIRREL!!!!”
This meme gets shared by everyone. People with ADHD know that it’s funny, because we know that that is how it feels to live in this world with this disorder. People without the disorder share it because it’s funny in that it describes exactly what others think ADHD is.
First impressions …
When I first saw this meme, I laughed. Then I stopped and wondered if I should be offended. Then I laughed again, because it’s pretty funny.
And then I thought about that offense thing. What if, through a series of humorous memes, people could become more acquainted with the impact of ADHD on our lives? And what if that humor approach showed people that, although we are constantly affected by the perpetually frustrating things that dog our days, we are aware that it is easier to live by laughing at the humor of it then to be in constant battle with an enemy we cannot defeat through battle?
And, what if …
What if, through humor, or any other means at our disposal, we all started explaining to people that ADHD isn’t something we do to our lives, and it sure as hell isn’t something we do to them. What if we told them that it is something that we deal with, not something we deal in. What if we told them that they are as powerless to fix it as we are? What if we assured them that their most powerful tool to aid in our quest to live our best with this is their understanding?
What if we, the people with ADHD, and those who support us, were to bring forward to the world the assurance that there is no cure for ADHD as a disorder? Not the latest book or vitamin regimen or collection of activities or diet or thoughtful line of denial.
What if we then told all and sundry that the only cure is for the way it can beat us down and make us pay for a deficit we did not knowingly incur? And what if we told them all, that the cure doesn’t need a book or a fee or a support group or even a pill?
What if we told them in a loud and firm voice, that the cure for the effect of having ADHD, is their understanding and acceptance of our differences?
Wouldn’t that be funny?