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ADHD Without The “H”

Some of us go unnoticed
Some of us go unnoticed

I’m not a calm person. In fact, I’m a bit bouncy. I’m about to turn 57 and I still get the urge to climb trees, fences, buildings, things.

In my town there are raised flowerbeds on the sidewalks of main street. They have stone walls with nice wide capstones on the tops of those walls. They’re only raised 12 to 15 inches I’d guess. And I can’t walk by them without acknowledging the urge to jump up on that capstone and walk the length of the raised bed.

Sometimes the urge wins. Sometimes I keep myself from jumping up there. And sometimes both the urge and I win, ’cause sometimes I don’t give a damn about what it looks like for a man nearing his sixties to be bouncing on top of a raised flower bed.

So what’s this got to do with the “H?”

Oh, right, I was supposed to be talking about hyperactivity. Actually, I was supposed to be talking about the lack of hyperactivity.

And I guess I disqualified myself … sort of. But hang on a minute, just because I have the “H” gene doesn’t mean I can’t talk about not having it.

Here’s my take on not having hyperactivity in your cocktail mix of symptoms. It must be hard, in general, because .many people with what is sometimes referred to simply as ADD don’t get recognized as being in the club. They are considered inattentive at best, and dull or slow witted at worst.

And in fact, we know that they are anything but. Odds are that when they are daydreaming in a class or at work, it’s because they are bored, not because they are incompetent or incapable.

And if your job is to try to get the best out of them, then you need to realize that they need to be challenged, not labeled and set aside.

I’m a squeaky wheel

You know that old saying, the squeaky wheel gets the grease? Well the hyperactive ADHDers get diagnosed first. And the non-hyper ones are often lucky to get diagnosed at all. That means they don’t get the opportunity to benefit from treatments such as they are until after we wild ones have been dealt with.

Hell, given that it took fifty years for me to be tracked down, and in the end I had to do a lot of the work myself, what chance do the “daydreamers” have?

Now I don’t have a lot of clout, if I did, if I had the power to make policy or pass laws, I’d decree that every child should be tested three times in their academic life. And the results of those tests be used to determine if the child had the potential to be on the ADHD spectrum. Not a diagnosis, but determination of potential.

Then, if any child performed outside the norm, and that potential marker was there, there would be a solid footing, a real starting place to determine if they could use some help to achieve their full potential.

And in the end…

Yes. Absolutely. It’s all about the results. In the end, the point is to help every person achieve their full potential.

Especially the ones who might be missed, our calmer sisters and brothers.

ADHD Without The “H”

Kelly Babcock

I was born in the city of Toronto in 1959, but moved when I was in my fourth year of life. I was raised and educated in a rural setting, growing up in a manner I like to refer to as free range. I live in an area where my family history stretches back 6 or more generations. I was diagnosed with ADHD at the age of 50 and have been both struggling with the new reality and using my discoveries to make my life better. I write two blogs here at Psych Central, one about having ADHD and one that is a daily positive affirmation that acts as an example of finding the good in as much of my life as I possibly can.

Find out more about me on my website: writeofway.

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Babcock, K. (2016). ADHD Without The “H”. Psych Central. Retrieved on October 20, 2019, from


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