People with ADHD are a group that share a cluster of symptoms and traits. That means we have lots in common with each other. And while no two of us have all the same symptoms, we can usually recognize our strengths … okay, maybe not, but we can understand why other people with ADHD are good at some things and not at others.
Why? Because there are things we’re good at. And things we’re not so good at.
What are we good at?
Problem solving? Got that. Rapid response? Got that too. Being creative? Yep, that also, though often I have to use that to explain to myself and others just what exactly it was that went wrong.
Umm, okay … what are we not good at?
Well, in all honesty, we’re not good at things that are boring to the point of being mind-numbing. I can’t sort through random stacks of paper without taking a 15 minute break every ten minutes.
And while there are many things I can organize, keeping them organized doesn’t work so good for me.
It’s not a good idea for me to be a bus driver, though I might be okay as a taxi driver.
I probably would go mad as an accountant, but that might just be me. I actually was pretty good as a computer programmer and I love maths, but something about tracking dollars on paper through imaginary places like accounts just starts me yawning.
But there’s more …
Another thing I’m not great at, taking a back seat. I don’t enjoy playing second fiddle. I don’t mind drama, but I like it to be positive. And I like to be part of it, not just watching it.
If there’s a conversation going on, I have to work pretty hard to let it flow and just listen. I much prefer to generate them. And yes, if I’m being honest, I’m more comfortable monopolizing them.
If we’re going to use the analogy of taking a backseat, I prefer to drive myself. If we’re talking about playing second fiddle, I’ll play a different instrument, or I’ll join a different band.
And it’s not that I’m full of myself
The truth is that I’m not thinking I’m all that, I’m just not happy following because if I’m not leading, then I’m seeing all kinds of side tracks go by that I’d like to explore.
So when I say I can’t play second fiddle, it’s because I have my own song to play.
I don’t think I’m better than everyone else, I just know I’m at my best when I’m following my own dreams.