I’m designing a poster today. Actually, I’m shifting a couple of trailers around and designing a poster. Okay, I’m helping move some tables and chairs and shifting a couple of trailers around and designing a poster.
You know what though, I’m actually having a practice session with my musical partner and helping to move some tables and …
Okay, I’m busy. But in addition to the things on my list, there are things that just come up. And I can’t walk away from them for some reason.
And I’m pretty sure that reason is ADHD
The big things are jobs that need doing. They are important. And when you have ADHD, the importance of a job magnifies its size, throws it way out of proportion from reality.
The next size down are the things that crop up as a result of the big things. They are smaller things that are identified as needed in order for the big things to be done. You can recognize them by the phrase “Well, in order to do this big thing, we’ll first have to do this seemingly unrelated smaller thing because the stuff is in the way of the plan for the other stuff.” or something of that nature.
And those smaller things, once their association with the big things has been established, take on the same importance and the same unrealistically perceived size as those big things they are associated with.
Next comes the real ADHD things
Smaller than the big things and the smaller things that are related to the big things are the still smaller things that are not associated with any importance. And that lack of importance is important to our discussion.
These “still smaller things” take on an unrealistically perceived size as well. But it is the opposite of bigger than they really are.Yep, it’s “smaller than they really are.”
And that’s a problem. Because they aren’t important and because I see them as insignificant as a result of that, I will assume that they can just be “handled” quickly. I’ll almost always decide that I’ll just “quickly take care of that.”
That usually ends up the wrong
And last, but not least, due to the number of them, if not the actual significance or size, are the things that don’t actually need doing at all. They may be things that would be nice to have done, or they may be things that would be fun to do. But they are always there and I choose to do so many of them on what would best be referred to as a “lark” or on a “whim.”
And is that bad? Well, because very little thought goes in to deciding to do these things, the results of doing them are usually unknown until they are done.
“Clean up in aisle four …”
And sometimes that involves cleaning up, and sometimes it involves undoing the done thing. Sometimes it involves replacing some damaged thing after the deed is done.
Sure, sometimes what ever it is is okay to do and sometimes it is even an advantage to have done. But I don’t usually know that until I do the thing. Because I don’t take the time to think it out in advance.
And that’s usually because I don’t have the time. I mentioned that I’m busy, right?