Sometimes I feel like I’m some kind of detective. I’ve puzzled out more than my share of things regarding ADHD, had my share of “A-ha” moments, and busted my share of hoaxes.
Well, okay, I don’t bust hoaxes, I usually just dis them, but they’re good and dissed when I do it.
And like some of the great TV detectives, I’ve done my share of pondering the evidence and I’ve had my share of epiphanies.
Many of those discoveries were personal. I figured out that ADHD was why I had such a hard time in school despite my being considered quite bright. And ADHD is the obvious reason for why I have had so many careers in my life.
And another time I came to the realization that it is because I have ADHD that simple things bore me to tears and make me look incapable because I can’t hold myself to the task of completing said things.
And in light of the fact that many complicated things can hold my attention when I should be doing other things, ADHD clearly makes me look incapable of attention.
The “A-ha” there is that people who know what I should be doing aren’t looking at how well I’m doing at the task I shouldn’t be attending to.
So what’s the Great Detective been up to lately?
Last night I was watching a “Columbo” rerun … hey, don’t judge … and he got a clue from a simple action. A man pushed a bowl of sweetener toward a woman he supposedly didn’t know, without her asking for the sweetener. I saw it at the same time Peter Falk saw it. And I said, “Gotcha!” out loud.
That was all I needed
That clue brought me another ADHD epiphany. I suddenly realized the answer to a question that’s been troubling me for a while.
What’s the question?
The question is this: Why, with all we know about ADHD, are there still so many undiagnosed people in the 40 year old and up sector of the population.
I had been going with the idea that there is a large segment of the population that dislikes the idea of a diagnosis. And another segment that believes all the hokum about ADHD being a “contrived diagnosis” for whatever reason is in vogue this week. And still another segment of the population that is just living under a rock.
But suddenly, in the middle of a TV detective show, Columbo and I were both saying “A-Ha!!!”
The secret is that they know you
That’s right. The secret is that for many people with undiagnosed ADHD, the people in their lives know them … because they are related to them. And since ADHD is heritable, those people with ADHD are likely to be a lot like other members of the family.
So while they might stand out in a crowd of random people, if they hung out with a crowd of random people for any length of time, they probably don’t stand out among the people who might care about them enough to help them seek help.
Some people with undiagnosed ADHD are among other people with undiagnosed ADHD.
Bam! Book ’em, Danno! … oh, sorry, wrong show.