I have noticed that I miss things. I’m not oblivious to my obliviousness.
That sounds like a paradox, and maybe it is. Heaven knows we have plenty of those, right?
But I’ve also observed that it’s the boring things that I manage to miss. Those things that seem so much like watching paint dry are the very things I can easily set to one side and, though I swear I’ll get to them in time, they get missed.
Out of sight out of mind, out of existence …
I used to think that the things I was distracted from were the important things. That was a mistake. I realized that some things that were important I managed to address.
It was just that, once addressed, those important things were set aside and forgotten about.
Adding it all up
The unimportant ones were filed with the ones that were done, in the land of forgotten whatchamacallits.
Of the things that were forgotten without being accomplished, the important ones came back to bite me on the conscience. The unimportant ones were filed with the ones that were done, in the land of forgotten whatchamacallits.
So the reality is that I only dwell on the things that were important that I didn’t get around to taking care of. Thus it looked to me like I was being distracted from only the important stuff.
And I don’t have any advice to give that would help you or me to remember to do those things on time. But I do have a suggestion for you regarding how to be a little more capable when you do remember things that need doing yesterday.
What’s the tip?
The tip is this, when you discover that something was left untended to, be calm. Decide if it’s really too late to do it. If it is, take it easy on yourself, but if you still need to do it … then again, take it easy on yourself.
Self-flagellation will slow you down even more. And it won’t turn the clock back and it will make you less able to do your best and it won’t make you feel any better about yourself and it will undermine your self esteem and I don’t think I need to go on, do I?
So, hitting the total key here …
The bottom line is, as I’ve said before, don’t take a judgmental stance on yourself. It offers no advantage, and it will cause more harm than good.
And if you need to hear it another way, think about it like this: You have nothing to tell yourself that you haven’t heard before. And telling yourself that again will do as much good as it ever did. In other words, no good at all.
You see, if it had helped, you wouldn’t be in that situation again. Would you?