You’ve met them. You may even know some of them quite well. Those people who, unencumbered by any valid instruction in the concepts of mental health issues or disorders, are perfectly happy to dismiss ADHD as fake. Maybe you are one of them.
I love the line, “Well, I have a [brother in law, gas station attendant, hairdresser, paper delivery boy, or other valid source of scientific gossip] who says that ADHD is [made up, something everyone has, what was the question, caused by diet soft drinks] so I know enough not to give it any credence.” Large sigh – yep, I never get tired of hearing that one.
As if someone else saying it first makes it somehow less imbecilic or more acceptable.
Nope, if you’re going to dismiss this disorder without benefit of an education in the field of mental health, or at the very least, some valid experience in something other than chronic gullibility, have enough strength of your convictions to keep to your own opinions and observations.
Don’t know what those might be? Well, below are the five most common dismissive statements regarding ADHD. Read these and see if they might be close to your own original opinion. Try not to be influenced by them though, they’re pretty powerful arguments, this is potent stuff here.
And here they are …
- You’re just not trying hard enough. This is perfectly valid. Don’t let the fact that there is no way that a human could try hard enough to overcome these symptoms influence you, that’s hardly the point. The point is that every shortcoming that has plagued humanity is the result of not trying hard enough. If we could just flap our arms hard enough we could attain unpowered flight you know. I would estimate that overcoming ADHD is on par with that.
- Paying better attention would fix your problems. True. It totally would. In fact, paying better attention is half of our problem solved already. Why didn’t we think of that before? Pay better attention, pay better attention, pay better …. wait a minute, wasn’t I in the middle of a list?
- Everyone has those symptoms. This is also true. Everyone has them … maybe not twenty times a minute, but everyone has them.
- You can’t have ADHD, you’re too smart. Ah, well, I may not be … I can’t seem to think up a way that this might be a real issue for the person with ADHD. I guess I’m just not as smart as you seem to be. So this might totally be true.
- ADHD is actually just a phase you’re going through. And true again. I know this one is true, for me at least, it’s a 56 year long phase so far. But I’m sure it will be over soon. Give it another 30 to 60 years and it should just vanish. Then I can get on with my life.
So, did any of those ring any bells for you? If so, you can either fob them off as your opinion, or, (and I personally think this is the best idea…) you can simply repeat the one you like the best and say that someone you know with ADHD says it’s so. That will convince them all.