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ADHD For Valentine’s Day – Part II

Don't worry, all part of the plan ...
Don’t worry, all part of the plan …

I know. Even later now than on Wednesday. Again, I’ve been busy. Cray-cray busy. But I explained all that in the already late ADHD For Valentine’s Day. And I did promise to address this issue.

What issue?

The issue is that Valentine’s day is a powder keg waiting to blow up in your ADHD face. And when it does, you’re going to sit there with a look of confusion on that face and you’re going to think just one thought: “How did I not see this coming …?” And then you’re going to think just one more thought: “Why are people still expecting me to see these things coming?”

And both those thoughts would be valid. Valentine’s day is a little blip on that thing that the neuro-typicals call “the time line.” (Did you hear lots of reverb there when you read “the time line?” You should have.)

A blip?

That’s right, it’s a little blip that comes along once a year. It’s not even a whole day really. The day dawns and you don’t notice anything unusual. It’s not until it’s over, or almost over, that you figure out that you’ve missed something.

Now, the deal is that for some reason, remembering what day it is, apparently, is an indication that you care for someone. Because nothing says “I love you” like being aware of the date and the requirements of bolstering up the economy by the purchase of a token of your esteem in order to help manufacturers and marketers pay the advertising bills they’ve run up in the making of notices that tell everyone else that it’s Valentine’s day. (Yes, I know, I have issues with marketing pressure. Meh.)

So what do we do about this?

My advice to you is this, start today to drop subtle hints for the next year that you know Valentine’s day is coming … and you’re probably going to forget it again. But instead of forgetting it, go out today and get something really and wildly wonderful. Hide it in a safe place. No, not the safe place you’ve put all the stuff you’ve never seen again, a better safe place. Now enter in that safe place in your phone, tablet, or PDF, on the calendar for February 13th of next year. While you’re at it, enter a biweekly notification to yourself to remind the object of your affection that you will probably forget Valentine’s day again.

Come February 13th, your PDA or phone or whatever will remind you to go find the gift. Thank it nicely and set it to snooze for 24 hours or you’ll forget to give the thing to the person the next day.

Do not move the gift to another safe place

So now, the next day when you get the notice, you’ll be ready, just go get the thing and hand it over.

Why did you have to remind the person that you’d probably forget for the entire year? You might have lost your phone, moved to another house and forgotten the gift, gotten the notification … twice …. and still forgotten it was Valentine’s day. These things happen. But I got your back.

Happy belated Valentine’s day.

ADHD For Valentine’s Day – Part II

Kelly Babcock

I was born in the city of Toronto in 1959, but moved when I was in my fourth year of life. I was raised and educated in a rural setting, growing up in a manner I like to refer to as free range. I live in an area where my family history stretches back 6 or more generations. I was diagnosed with ADHD at the age of 50 and have been both struggling with the new reality and using my discoveries to make my life better. I write two blogs here at Psych Central, one about having ADHD and one that is a daily positive affirmation that acts as an example of finding the good in as much of my life as I possibly can.

Find out more about me on my website: writeofway.

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Babcock, K. (2015). ADHD For Valentine’s Day – Part II. Psych Central. Retrieved on November 18, 2019, from


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