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I Have ADHD, I Don’t Need Your Help

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I’m serious about this …

There are things I don’t do well. And there are reasons for that.

No, I’m not talking about paying attention … well, not just that.

I don’t do well at running a nuclear reactor. Or, at least, I imagine I wouldn’t. I’ve never really tried, because I’ve never had any training. I suspect that it involves more than just flipping a switch.

I don’t do all that well shifting gears in big trucks and tractors that require double clutching. It’s not that I don’t know how, it’s that I don’t practice much.

So many things …

There are millions of things I’m not good at. And most of those deficits are the result of lack of information or experience.

Yes, I’m not good finishing things, or even starting some things. And yes, that would be the old ADHD issues that cause that.

But, just as there is so much more to my life than just the ADHD, there is also more to my lack of accomplishments than just ADHD problems.

I can’t play the fiddle (or the violin) to save my soul. I can find the notes on the fret-less neck of the thing, and I know to rosin the bow. I understand the general mechanics of the thing and I know the technique of bowing the string … but whenever I try, I have to stop and join in the hunt for the cat that is howling in pain. And yes, as soon as I put away that bow the noise stops.

That’s a relief!

So you see, I’m saying that ADHD is far from my only limitation in life. And yet, lately, I think I’ve been giving it way more credit than it deserves.

Yes, it is with me every day. Yes, it affects my mind in that there are parts of it that work differently, more effectively in some respects and less so in others. Yes, my life would be different in every moment if I did not have ADHD.

But I am still capable of so many things. And incapable of so many others. And many of those things that I am capable of and incapable of are so because of other abilities and other limitations that are just part of being a human being.

So if you’d like to help me with running a nuclear reactor, or if you were thinking you shouldn’t invite me to drive your 18 wheeler, you are so right in doing just exactly what you think you should.

But if you want to help me procrastinate like I did most of yesterday, don’t bother.

I have ADHD, I got this one. Thanks for the offer though … no seriously, thanks.

I Have ADHD, I Don’t Need Your Help

Kelly Babcock

I was born in the city of Toronto in 1959, but moved when I was in my fourth year of life. I was raised and educated in a rural setting, growing up in a manner I like to refer to as free range. I live in an area where my family history stretches back 6 or more generations. I was diagnosed with ADHD at the age of 50 and have been both struggling with the new reality and using my discoveries to make my life better. I write two blogs here at Psych Central, one about having ADHD and one that is a daily positive affirmation that acts as an example of finding the good in as much of my life as I possibly can.

Find out more about me on my website: writeofway.

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Babcock, K. (2015). I Have ADHD, I Don’t Need Your Help. Psych Central. Retrieved on June 2, 2020, from


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