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ADHD ~ It Just Seems Wrong

Pondering the possibility of the cursed gift
Pondering the possibility of the cursed gift

I know some of you are determined to view ADHD as a gift. And I’m not going to argue with you.

I’ve also heard from some folks who say thinking of ADHD as a gift is being delusional. I can’t really argue with that either.

But the truth, as far as I’m concerned, is very different. I look at it like this. This quirky, far ranging, rapid firing, often absent, wickedly misbehaving, thrill seeking, bicycle on a bobsled track without brakes brain of mine is what I get to work with.

Time to get to work

And as this is the case, I choose neither to view it as dysfunctional or caste it as gifted.

There have been times in my life when I’ve been in work situations where more than one person was doing the same job. Often there would be a collection of tools required to perform the job we had, and often those tools would be in varying states of wear and disrepair.

The tools that were newer were almost always sought after and if one wanted to use them one sometimes would have to wait.

The alternative was to learn the quirks of the older tools and figure out how to compensate for their inadequacies.

Sound familiar?

We aren’t older, well not all of us, and I would never refer to our differences from those without ADHD as inadequacies, but the truth is that the usual instructions don’t always work for our brains.

Pass me that wrench

Your brain and mine are tools that we have access to, and we’ve had our whole life so far to learn how to use them.

But if we haven’t been paying attention all that time, if we’ve been just doing the same things and hoping that will work differently, then we aren’t going to do any better than we’ve done so far.

So the trick is neither to say that our ADHD minds are a curse or a gift.

Say what?

When we say they’re a curse we’re saying they’re broken and won’t work.

When we say they’re a gift, we’re saying they are perfect and there’s no need to try harder or do better.

Let’s just see them for what they are, the tool we were given to work with. Let’s pay some attention to how they work, and how best to use them. Then lets make them work to the best of our abilities.

We’ve been looking at this wrong

You see, the curse isn’t our ADHD, it’s the situations that unchecked ADHD causes in our lives.

And the gift isn’t our ADHD either. Our gift is our lives. And we get to spend them using these funky brains and figuring out how to make them go like lightning, snap and pop and sizzle.

Gift? Curse? Those terms just seem wrong when used to describe ADHD. That’s my thought.

ADHD ~ It Just Seems Wrong


Kelly Babcock

I was born in the city of Toronto in 1959, but moved when I was in my fourth year of life. I was raised and educated in a rural setting, growing up in a manner I like to refer to as free range. I live in an area where my family history stretches back 6 or more generations. I was diagnosed with ADHD at the age of 50 and have been both struggling with the new reality and using my discoveries to make my life better. I write two blogs here at Psych Central, one about having ADHD and one that is a daily positive affirmation that acts as an example of finding the good in as much of my life as I possibly can.

Find out more about me on my website: writeofway.

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Babcock, K. (2015). ADHD ~ It Just Seems Wrong. Psych Central. Retrieved on November 18, 2019, from https://blogs.psychcentral.com/adhd-man/2015/01/adhd-it-just-seems-wrong/

 

Last updated: 15 Jan 2015
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