So here it is. My last post of 2014. And this is the last day of 2014, New Year’s Eve day.
And today is traditionally the day that New Year’s Resolutions are made.
And boy aren’t we good at making those resolutions. We don’t typically wait until New Year’s to make them, either. If I had a nickel for every time I said “I’ll never do that again!” I’d be somewhat better off than I am today.
Better yet, if I had a nickel for every resolution I’ve made that I wasn’t able to keep, we’d be talking about my new car right now instead of resolutions.
Well, maybe just my new to me car
The point is, until I became aware of my personal set of symptoms, I had aspirations without the benefit of abilities. I’d make resolutions and just assume they’d happen.
I didn’t plan, and didn’t execute. And I was easily distracted from my intentions.
Resolutions require the same skill set as party planning. So resolutions require the same modifications as ADHD party planning. Basically, keep the resolutions simple and make sure they’re something that you’ll stay interested in.
Now I know this sounds like I’m saying you shouldn’t try to better yourself, but I’m not saying that at all.
What are you saying, Kelly?
I’m saying that if you make a resolution you have little hope of achieving, you will make your life worse, not better.
I’m saying, why do that to yourself?
I’m saying let’s take things in stride. Let’s get to the big changes with little steps. Let’s think about the irrelevance of the arbitrary date of New Year’s and make a better plan.
How do we do that?
Let’s say for instance you have thought that you’d like to start eating healthier. And let’s further say that you have decided on a full blown diet change. The most obvious thing to do would be to suddenly start onto the new diet. I mean why waste time, right?
But the sudden and very big change may take so much time out of your day at first that it becomes impossible to stick to. Once you’ve blown it, there goes your resolution.
A little goes a long way
So what about breaking it down into subtle and small changes? Drop one type of food from your diet in January, add a healthy food to your diet in February. Make the steps easy, and make it monthly resolutions, and maybe you’ll make it.
These are my thoughts, this is my plan. I don’t need some huge big resolution failure to tell me that I’m less of a person. But I am willing to have a bunch of small successes spread out over the year to prove to myself that I can be more.
This year I resolve to make things work, even if I do it over a long period of time.