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My Stay At The Best Exotic Marigold Hotel

Last night was movie night ...
Last night was movie night …

I just watched the movie: The Best Exotic Marigold Hotel. What a wonderful movie. And of course, since it was me watching it, I couldn’t help but think of the parallels between the story and my life.

In the movie, the characters found themselves in a place foreign to most of them for various reasons. In my life, I was thrown into a conundrum of confusion by being made aware that I have ADHD and have been affected by it all my life.

In the movie you are expecting things to work out for at least some, if not all of the characters. At the beginning I caught myself wondering what change to make this possible for them. I also wondered if anything like that would ever happen for me.

The plot thickens

As the movie progressed it became more and more apparent that the change that would make things better was each characters perception of their situation and location. And damned if that isn’t something I’ve thought about in my own life.

I’m thick in my own way …

I may never be famous, and I’m not likely to be rich, financially, but who ever really is? I’m not really unhappy about any of that.

In truth, I’m financially stable enough that, though I have to watch my budget, I’m not going to go hungry anytime soon. And I’m as good as rich in that I am surrounded by friends and culture. Lastly, I’m known for my eccentricities here in my community among friends and acquaintances, and that’s famous enough for me.

The movie progresses …

In the movie, in the end, the characters found their way. And to tell us that the movie was going that way, repeated several times through the show was the phrase “Everything will all work out fine in the end, and if it’s not yet fine, it is not yet the end.”

And so do we …

We know it’s too much to hope that everything will be perfect, but maybe, like the move, we should change our perspective.

And maybe we should be thinking about the difference between the end, and right now. It may all work out fine in the end, but I don’t want it to be the end just yet, I want it to still be the journey.

On the road

And I want the journey to be good. And I’ve realized that a good journey is not one of constant success, but rather one of constant interest. It doesn’t mean a life that is stress free, it means one in which the stress is manageable.

I just watched The Best Exotic Marigold Hotel, and I’ve decided that everything will all work out fine in the end, and if it’s not yet fine, it is not yet the end, and I am thankful.

My Stay At The Best Exotic Marigold Hotel

Kelly Babcock

I was born in the city of Toronto in 1959, but moved when I was in my fourth year of life. I was raised and educated in a rural setting, growing up in a manner I like to refer to as free range. I live in an area where my family history stretches back 6 or more generations. I was diagnosed with ADHD at the age of 50 and have been both struggling with the new reality and using my discoveries to make my life better. I write two blogs here at Psych Central, one about having ADHD and one that is a daily positive affirmation that acts as an example of finding the good in as much of my life as I possibly can.

Find out more about me on my website: writeofway.

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Babcock, K. (2013). My Stay At The Best Exotic Marigold Hotel. Psych Central. Retrieved on May 31, 2020, from


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