It’s December the 11th. You know what that means, right? We’re deep into the so called “festive season.”
Are you keeping up? Are you on schedule with all your plans and schemes for the holidays? Don’t worry if you aren’t, the season will come, and go, no matter.
That which you didn’t get done will be remembered only by you and those who choose to remind you of those things. And they’ll do that because they believe they are helping you by so doing, or they believe they are taking attention away from their own shortcomings.
Take a lesson here
I don’t do the holiday season anymore. Not really. Sure, I go to my brothers for Christmas day. Yes, I’ll be celebrating the Solstice with friends. But not many presents will be exchanged.
… and other things
There will also be concerts, shows and evenings with friends. And though they will occur more frequently than they do at other times of the year, I’m not going to get worried or worked up about it. I’ll get to the ones I can, I love my friends. And I’ll miss the ones I have to, those friends will understand, that’s why I love them.
I’ve learned a lesson too
And I’ve learned something about who I am and the way I’m wired. I no longer volunteer to do those long term things. And I don’t feel guilty about not signing on for that stuff, because I know something about myself.
Man of distrasction … in action
If I’m unstressed, and unburdened, I can be the one who will step in when something goes wrong, and right it. I can put out the fire, I can run and pick up the relatives whose car has failed them, I can go get the forgotten rolls off of someones counter, while everyone else does the things they volunteered to do a year ago.
That sounds pretty calm …
Now don’t be thinking that I’m not busy. I’ve discovered there’s always a fire to put out or an errant errand to run. And when that isn’t happening, I can always find something to busy myself with. I like to fix things for people. A light switch in a basement for a friend to be able to turn on the Christmas lights outside, a repaired kitchen faucet for another friend, stuff is always popping up to be done.
It’s not all roses and sunshine, but …
And it will get more hectic the closer we get to the holidays, ending in a colossal culmination of Christmas feasts, frivolities and festivities. But I will not have run head long into the brick wall of the holiday season. Nay, not I. I will have slipped into it and worked my way into the proper pace of the thing.
Stay tuned in January when I’ll be letting you know if I figured out a way to wind down again.