There is a concept called synergy. Synergy: The interaction of two or more agents or forces so that their combined effect is greater than the sum of their individual effects.
Synergy is generally understood to occur in an interaction of two or more people or groups of people. But I think the same concept applies within ourselves. I think that life is a synergism of the various components of our being.
I believe that if any part of us is struggling, it holds the whole of us back to a slower schedule. And I believe that of all our parts, self esteem is one of the more important ones.
If you subscribe to the Freudian “Ego, Super Ego & Id” concept of ourselves, then you believe that our egos may be at the mercy of our critical super egos.
Those of us with ADHD often suffer from low self esteem and turning that self esteem back up is a difficult task. It’s too easy to believe our critical selves when we inventory our short comings and observe how they could be blamed for anything that goes wrong in our lives.
It takes a lot of effort to follow up the thought that our scattered and distracted ways may have caused everything wrong with the thought that we may not have.
And even if we can get our poor egos to admit that we might not be to blame, we still haven’t proven that we weren’t to blame for … everything that has gone wrong. Both observations are possible, but we hold the negative one to be true until proven false.
It’s too damned easy to judge ourselves, isn’t it?
So what can positive thoughts do about this? Can they change this train of thought? No. No they can’t. But they don’t need to. They, and we along with positive thinking, can derail the whole negative/blame train of thought. We’re good at that derailing thing, right? We get distracted from what we’re doing and thinking all the time. Lets use that. We can’t make ourselves think positively about our flaws so lets think about other things instead. Don’t worry, our flaws won’t get any worse while we ignore them.
A new thought
I have a friend who’s life has been shaken up rather dramatically. Caitlin has had some health issues that have left her with a different view of her world.
If she didn’t have an old soul before this, her soul has aged appreciably in recent times. She is wise beyond her young years, she is a beautiful spirit.
As a way of affirming that she, and her life are awesome (her word), she began listing what she loved each day on Facebook for all her friends to see.
Every day, whether she felt like it or not, she would start a post with these three words: “Today I love …” and go from there. Before too long, some of us, her friends, took up the practice. And we learned something from our young friend Caitlin.
I often stop and consciously say “I love that, I have to remember that for tomorrows “Today I love …” Sadly, I never remember what it was. Maybe I should write it down? But I’m never at a loss for things to write, and yes, I’m one of the more verbose practitioners.
The “Damned Good Reason” to think good thoughts is something I’ve already said. I find myself thinking consciously about the things I love.
It’s easy to be negative when you think nothing but negative thoughts. It’s not so easy when you spend part of your day considering things you love.
And another thing …
I’ve had friends start doing “Today I love …” because my positivity has affected them. Now they’re having that effect on their friends as well. There’s a good feeling that comes with having influenced a friend positively.
This is Synergy from the inside. This is synergy affecting the outside. This is synergy gone wild.