It’s easy for us to be down. Part of the diagnosis for ADHD stipulates that there must be evidence that one’s symptoms cause persistent negative interference with regards to school, work, and social interaction throughout one’s life.
We all know about persistent negative interference, right?
A comment by “Anonymous” last week reminded me how easy it is for us to be depressed. I’ve been there. Things that would bother a norman briefly can weigh on us like an anchor. And things that are specific to ADHD are constant burdens. Like compound interest, our ADHD problems make non-ADHD problems worse.
The comment by Anonymous hit the mark. I write this blog for a lot of reasons, but one of the main ones is to share my experiences with my ADHD compatriots in order to foster a community. That means I should be open to hearing about my reader’s experiences.
As I said, Anonymous’ comment hit the mark. My reply, however, fell short. I meant what I said, but I could have said more.
I do understand that there are places so deep that you need to climb quite a distance to see the bottom rung of the ladder.
I was also a little acidic. My blog post was supposed to germinate self esteem for us all, my reply was more defensive than it should have been. I should have mentioned that I understand the frustration Anonymous feels with his/her life, I know from whence they speak. And perhaps I should have said that it’s okay if they’re not in a place where that post was able to help them. I do understand that there are places so deep that you need to climb quite a distance to see the bottom rung of the ladder.
I’ve had an unwritten rule (very flexible) about not approving comments from people who use “anonymous” as a name. Generally speaking, I don’t approve the comment without a lot of consideration. If you’ve got something to say, surely you can come up with a name for yourself … but in this case, I sensed a need to approve this one.
Big news, the bear ain’t that grumpy …
It occurred to me last week, however, that using anonymous might be part of their statement, especially since this particular commenter was calling my positive attitude into question. I assume, if you use anonymous, that you fear retribution. I mean, if you’re going to bait the bear in his den, you don’t want to give him the keys to your house, you don’t want to pave the way for retaliation.
But maybe you just need the security of anonymity from which to state your point. You might be the type of person who can tell me where to go ten times a day, but can’t talk about your feelings openly. So I’m rethinking my policy on anonymous comments.
And just so you know, if you comment on my blog posts, I won’t track you down. I won’t expose you to the world if you wish to be anonymous. And while I will stand my ground and respond, I will not discredit you or your opinions (… much, I sometimes get off a quick snap that can tear at your coat tails as you scamper from my den). And I promise to always try to see your side of the situation, it’s the best way to explain my side adequately.