This post is a kind of “week after Christmas” meal of the things that are left over in tin foil covered bowls and on plastic wrapped plates. Many of these bits could be full posts, but I’m feeling like having fried leftovers today.
What’s in this bowl?
I’m in a unique situation. I’ve put myself out there in the virtual world of the internet as an ADHDer. I’ve obsessed, professed and confessed in public. I’ve shared, joked, and even ranted a bit. But the deal is … I want to help.
I’m working hard to keep my personal life in my blog without dwelling on things that are very unique to me, things that have little to do with most others and their ADHD. There are times when this isn’t possible. And frankly, while parts of my life are unique to me, stress is stress. If you can learn from the ways in which I deal with mine, great. If not, I tried.
Is this squash or turnip?
And speaking of dealing, I once told fellow blogger, Zoë Kessler, that I thought there seemed to be a slide switch like a balance control inside every ADHDer. Instead of left and right it would slide back and forth between whine and deal.
I noted at the time that some folks have there switches firmly stuck on whine while others seemed to be pushed way over to deal. Still others seem to move the slide back and forth based on stress and circumstance.
I said I’d be checking my control regularly to make sure that it stays on the deal side of center, but then I started blogging seriously.
Does this smell alright to you?
In my search for subject material I often end up finding things that upset me. Also, as I explore and probe inside my head, I observe things about myself that cause frustration. The result is that my posts sometimes sound like whining, at least to me.
I try to write them as statements of fact or opinion, I try very hard. If you think that I’m whining at any time, let me know … please.
I’m sure I saw some desert in here somewhere …
Okay, let’s move from whining to praise. Here on the internet, this virtual mirror of the real world, I’ve made quite a few friends, friends I may never meet in real life. But, should I ever meet them, they will have had a place in my heart in advance of having a chair and a cup of coffee on my deck.
One of these friends got married on December 18th. Congratulations Pertobello, Marriage is an institution that is not enjoying the longevity it used to, and having ADHD in a marriage makes it even more challenging. Lucky you, you’ve found someone who cares, and you’re both going in with your heads up and your eyes open. I’m cheering for you.
On a sad note, one of my virtual friends is experiencing dark times these days. She is a leader in mental health advocacy and has given so much to the virtual mental health community.
She has found herself struggling of late with her own demons. She has been fighting this for several weeks, yet she took the time last week to wish me peace of mind and heart. She is strong and wise and kind, and if you are able, please say a little prayer or make a little wish for her to find peace in her own heart and mind.
Time to clean up
I know others are needing our well wishes for many reasons. The world is a wonderful place with some awful attributes. Let’s end the year in celebrating the wonders and steeling ourselves to wage war on the awful parts. My target is ADHD stigma, my goal is ADHD self esteem. My weapons will be words, information, anecdotes, humor and research. And my biggest weapon will be you, my readers. The more we know, the more the rest of the world will find us to be educated, confident and competent, and the more they will be made aware that we are valid members of the human race.
‘Cause, dammit, we are!