5 thoughts on “Grieving the Loss of Addiction

  • July 16, 2014 at 1:34 pm

    In my book, Figure it, Face it & Fix it – Your surprising solution to substance abuse and addiction, I correlate the 7 stages of grief to an alcoholic’s need to grieve the idea of moderation. Everyone who drinks wants to be a moderate drinker. However, studies show that at least 33% of all drinkers are not moderate and experience problems with their drinking. Therefore, an alcoholic in recovery battles with accepting that they are part of the 33% and not part of the larger percentage of moderate drinkers. That realization, once received, will need to be grieved as well.
    Mark Turansky, President, New Horizons Counseling in Hawaii

  • July 29, 2014 at 10:55 am

    Grief is also part of letting go for partners of alcoholics and their families in recovery. They’ve been addicted to the addict, who has been the focus of their energy and attention. Codependents worry, “What if he or she slips?” In recovery, they should be shifting their focus away from their loved one. Both addicts and codependents experience anxiety and emptiness – the emptiness they were trying to escape through addiction. To fill it, they often turn to another different addiction. Both must learn to face their emptiness. I devote an entire chapter to this in my book on Conquering Shame.
    Darlene Lancer, LMFT
    Author of “Conquering Shame and Codependency: 8 Steps to Freeing the True You” and “Codependency for Dummies”

  • August 17, 2014 at 6:42 pm

    Great topic and information…Will absolutely share and thank you for posting…

  • September 2, 2014 at 7:27 am

    Grief can affect yourself hugely when in recovery and so can it affect the family and friends of an addict. Suddenly we lose sense of purpose.

    I found this recovery map which I think your readers would enjoy, http://sobercollege.com/addiction-treatment-phases/road-to-recovery/ – plan for the future and how you want to be in yourself when you reach a goal e.g. 3 months clean and look back and reflect at how far you have come. Focus on something new and avoid the grief.

  • October 30, 2014 at 3:30 am

    Dealing with an addict is very excruciating and very distressing. I agree that addiction is a family disease that needs to be stopped. As a Family member all you want is to help your loved ones overcome their addiction and start a new life. The very hard thing to do is to ask the addict to undergo treatment recovery because most of the addicts don’t know that they are already experiencing substance dependency.


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