3 thoughts on “Are You In Recovery But Not Really Recovering?

  • January 30, 2012 at 7:28 pm

    I very much agree that it is vital to get the recovering addict moving forward. Without working on their thinking and creating a compelling future, a sober life is not a fun and fulfilling one – and that’s not recovery.

    I like the fundamentals that 12-step espouses – ie the need to look at oneself and one’s thinking, reactions and behaviours. I have found DBT to be really useful for this too and use it with my clients as well as coaching for helping them to believe in themselves again and let go of limitations.

    Thanks very much for this article – it is something that is not clarified as often as it should be.

    Beth Burgess
    Recovery Coach
    Sort My Life Solutions (Smyls)

  • February 1, 2012 at 5:43 pm

    Very true observations and a depressing list of this stages’ characteristics. Would have been nice to have a bit more info on getting through it then just the one paragraph. The title of this article suggested to me there might be more suggestions than I read. Sigh.

  • April 13, 2012 at 11:31 am

    Great article but I really like the above comment that Beth Burgess wrote. She said that one needs to look at oneself and one’s thinking, reactions and behaviors and to believe in yourself. The ‘want to get hi’ vs. ‘no I don’t’ is a mental battle within one mind. When your mind is a boxing ring, who wins and who looses? Whoever it is, you always suffer the fatigue and life seems like it will suck for the rest of your life. It is a continuous mental pressure. I found a way to take this ‘looking at one’s self’ as a second person. You have your ‘sober self’ looking at your ‘I need a drink self’. Now the battle is outside of the mental boxing ring. Now the stronger ‘sober self’ is your spiritual self and the ‘needy weak need a drink self’ is your human self. When you accomplish this and it is not difficult, you actually become two completely separate thought bases. It is like your strong spiritual self is floating above your weak material self and controlling all of its movements through remote control. So when your material body says, “I want a drink,” your strong spiritual self will just say, “screw you buddy, you can’t handle a drink.” The best thing is it actually works. Shoot me an e mail if you want to talk about it and learn how.It’s a simple process. If I can do it, you can do it. We all thought we were all just human/spirit hybrids in our own minds, but we are really two completely separate minds in one body. You just need to know how to manipulate them.


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