2 thoughts on “Top 5 Reasons Women Relapse

  • May 17, 2012 at 10:44 am

    This post has a lot of truth in it. however the spin is somewhat pejorative and devoid of consideration of trauma and its impact on women’s recovery outcomes. In studies, up to 48% of women in SUD treatment meet the criteria for PTSD, and failure to provide appropriate recovery supports and treatments that recognize the shared triggers for PTSD and substance use have had an effect on women’s relapse rates.

    Also, the research on gender differences in pre-relapse states actually attributes women’s relapse propensities to multiple stressors and competing demands. Of course the realities of economic marginalization, maintaining child custody and avoiding incarceration, dealing with racial prejudice and disparities, as well as domestic violence dynamics – all play into women’s relationship choices in recovery.

    It will be a great day when providers can first identify their own inadequacies prior to labeling the coping skills of their clients as “inadequate.”

  • August 29, 2012 at 9:31 am

    I echo the statements above and I wish I could do it with a megaphone. I think the new and most common reason for relapse is reading or internalizing any of the garbage David Sacks has written here; and there’s far too much of it out there that traps women into ridiculous attempts at recovery.

    Love relationships early on are not great, however, if you choose a stable partner that is actually capable of support it will make a remarkable difference. And reason two is not that we’re sex addicts, in 9 cases out of 10 it’s because we’ve been sexually abused and pick men who are like the demons that helped us become emotionally traumatized and therefore addicted.

    It’s unbelievable how many women will attend an SLAA meeting, but refuse to go to a Survivors of Incest group. It’s still much easier, and far less shaming to say:”My name is Jane Doe and I’m a sex addict,” than it is to say: “My name is Jane Doe and I’m a Survivor of Incest.”

    There is also an overblown sense of how much the Big Book and related literature will make in a female’s recovery. Sure, the principles are worth intergating, but most women will find they are quite diffeent than the 98 men and it’s author; Bill Wilson.

    We need to introduce literature written by women into our discussion meetings, but most women have had their minds taken over by some A.A. guru and utter panic sets in when you make the suggestion. I think we all need to remember that at one time that same anxiety came up when Black people asked to ride on the same section of the city bus.


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