2 thoughts on “Addiction and Person-Centered Therapy

  • May 18, 2018 at 4:23 am

    Shame often is a real emotion on the addicts part & rightfully SHOULD be.
    many addicts have robbed family members of their resources, ie money
    without regard or consideration for many many years. if not family anyone.
    so its disingenuous to NOT allow an addict to feel his/ her shame & begin to realize
    their choice of escapism & coping hurt financially many important family members
    utilizing their masterful manipulation of everyone around them…

    Shame & regret show they arent sociopaths. On their journey to wellness they will have to prove they are reformed & not whine that noone trusts them anymore either.
    Keep it real because what Im sharing IS Reality that must be accepted. Trust must be earned & it may take OVER a year of persistent arduous work rebuilding….Trust.

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    • May 18, 2018 at 3:08 pm

      Susan, thank you for reading and for commenting. Your comment calls to mind the difference between guilt and shame. To paraphrase Brene Brown, Guilt is: “I feel bad because I did X, Y, and Z.” Shame is: “I am bad. Who I am, my essence, is bad.” So, while healthy guilt has place in recovery, shame does not. The realization that we’ve made poor choices can motivate us to change and make better choices in the future … but believing that we are bad doesn’t do anything but harm us and hinder our recovery.

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