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If This, Then That Thinking

Humans are meaning making creatures who read all kinds of intention and motivation into what other people do. A glance or a word, can make or break our day or a relationship. We often base our judgments on history; our own with people from our past or with the person sitting in front of us. That type of what I call 'if this, then that,' thinking is at the root of it....
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Social Media: A Window Into Others’ Worlds

I am a social media queen.

It is a mainstay of my life; where I go to promote my work, including this column. It provides entertainment and education. Since I rarely watch television, it is where some of the news I need filters through. It opens the door to far flung friends who become cherished family of choice. More importantly, it affords me the opportunity to stay aware of what is...
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Random or Meant to Be Connections?

Do you believe that major events in our lives are random or foretold?

There is a Yiddish beshert, that translates as 'meant to be,' as in preordained. As a therapist and minister, as well as someone who has always been curious spiritually, I have long pondered this question.

I think back to the moments when I have encountered those people whom I call kindred spirits. That instantaneous recognition that tells us serendipity has just occurred,...
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You’ve Got To Have Friends: Part Two

After my article entitled You've Got To Have Friends was published, I received feedback from two readers whose reactions took me by surprise, but had me re-evaluate my perspective. For that, I thank them. They each took a similar stance, which was that they were uncomfortable and admittedly triggered by what they perceived was bragging about having many friends, when they and countless others, do not. That was not my intention;...
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You’ve Got To Have Friends



I often say that I am a wealthy woman, since I have an abundance of friends and consider them my treasures. From the time I was a child, I had fun playmates with whom I would ride my bicycle, go swimming, swing on the monkey bars, making up all sorts of creative games. I was taught to share, take my turn, let someone else be the leader sometimes, not to...
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I Know You By Heart

A few days ago, I had written an article for Beliefnet, called What Is Intimate? It was prompted by a quote from spiritual teacher Ramana Maharshi:

“Why do you leave out what is intimate and go in for what is external?” -(Bhagavan in ‘Talks with Sri Ramana’ 106)

It set me to thinking about the subject, since my work in the world (as indicated in the title of my column) is...
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Oversharing: How Much is Too Much?

Social media has replaced the talking over the fence activity that neighbors would do when wanting to spill the beans about what was going on in their lives. I remember my Russian immigrant Yiddish speaking (although she could hold her own in Russian accented English)  Bubbe chatting with the primarily Polish speaking Babci (both meaning grandmother) who lived next door. Although I couldn't tell you the content of their communication, it seemed quite lively at times as they...
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