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Archives for April, 2016

addiction

Fear Forward

In my recent Blog Talk dialog with Cyrus Webb who hosts a show called Conversations Live, and is one of the best interviewers I have ever experienced, he asked me about being afraid AHA (After Heart Attack), which occurred on June 12, 2014. I was 55 years old at the time, with a passion for life that inspires others and a level of energy that has them shaking their heads in disbelief that I can...
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childhood

Why Is Listening Such An Important Relationship Skill?

"You never listen to me," is a common complaint in relationships. When asked what people desire more than anything in their interpersonal interactions, most have indicated that they want to be seen, heard, known and loved for who they are. If someone grew up in an environment in which communication was sparse, inappropriate, aggressive or dismissive, they are not likely to have learned the skills necessary to effectively communicate needs, nor will they...
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attracting what you desire

Anam Cara

"In Celtic Spiritual tradition, it is believed that the soul radiates all about the physical body, what some refer to as an aura. When you connect with another person and become completely open and trusting with that individual, your two souls begin to flow together. Should such a deep bond be formed, it is said you have found your Anam Cara. Your Anam Cara always accepts you as you truly are, holding...
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communication

How To Be ‘Vulnerageous’ In Relationships


 

As a writer, I love word mash-ups. Some will never be found in a standard dictionary, but speak to the onomatopoetic nature of language. One such fun fusion is 'vulnerageous.' My friend Maureen offered it as a way of expressing that in our interactions, there is a need for vulnerability, which increases intimacy (described as into-me-see) and takes the ultimate sense of courageousness.

According to Etymology Dictionary, the origin of that word is "1300, from...
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I Know This Relationship Is Healthy For Me, Because…

"Let there be spaces in your togetherness. And let the winds of the heavens dance between you."

-Kahlil Gibran, from The Prophet

Sometimes I poll my friends and ask what topics they would like me to cover. It meets my need to be a psycho-spiritual Dear Abby and answers some of their most pressing queries. When I tossed out the line, my friend Maren grabbed a hold of it and...
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addiction

Take Your Hand Off the Hot Stove

Yesterday, I received a call from a friend who was clearly in distress over a recent experience that brought back painful memories of events from her childhood and late adolescence. She had had been watching a movie the night before in which there was a gang rape scene. Although that particular experience blessedly had not occurred for her, there was an incident of molestation by a neighbor when she was...
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addictions

Gotta Get It Right

A long standing pattern in my life that harkens back to my childhood is the feeling of 'gotta get it right.' I never heard those words uttered by my parents, never felt inadequate in their eyes and in fact, was told, "Whatever you do will be good enough."  Who hears that growing up?  It implied a sense of trust that I would set and maintain high standards. To this day, the first statement...
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Ways To Recreate Relationships With People From Your Past

Relationships are fluid entities. Some are with family of origin; others family of choice. As much as we might want them to follow linear, logical lines, with predictable outcomes, quite simply, they don't. Each carry with them lessons and help to shape the evolution of our choices and the stories we come to believe that are displayed across the movie screens of our minds. Sometimes we have the opportunity to...
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