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Archives for January, 2016


If You Wanna See It, You Gotta Be It

There is a meme going around on Facebook of unclaimed origin, that wishes for the reader:

"I hope you fall in love with someone who always calls you back and never lets you fall asleep making you feel unwanted. I hope you fall in love with someone who holds your hand during the scary parts of horror movies and burns cookies with you while you're both busy dancing around the kitchen. I hope you fall in love with someone...
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The Beauty of Longtime Friendships

One of the most wonderful aspects of Facebook is that it alerts you when friends are celebrating birthdays. One popped up this morning that spread a mile wide grin on my face. Bryan Effron is a friend who grew up on my street- Pheasant Lane in Willingboro, New Jersey and then many years later, ended up at the same college I had been attending for a few years. Many conversations occurred back then that were mental...
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Coming Clean

Since I write a column on relationships, it feels important to be transparent in my own interactions with people in my life, particularly those in my inner trusted circle.

One of the things I value most in my relationships is from-the-heart honesty. It is in that spirit and with not only consent, but go-for-it encouragement from the other person involved, that I write this article. His dare?  "This time you call me out. The snake eating its ...
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Living in Liminal Time

"If you are not trained in how to hold anxiety, how to live with ambiguity, how to entrust and wait, you will run…anything to flee this terrible cloud of unknowing."- Richard Rohr

Betwixt and between the used to be, the no longer and what is to come. That is what it means to live in liminal time. The word 'limens' is translated from Latin as 'threshold'; as in standing in the doorway, waiting to be ushered in.

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Firsts and Lasts

Sleep evades me at times and when it does, after attempting to let it seduce me back into its embrace, I get up to read and write. This morning was no exception as I turned to the Facebook page of my friend Pamela Madsen. She is a sex educator and fertility coach with a stretch to the edges and beyond way of living that inspires me to do so in my own day to...
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Leaving the Building

You need not do anything more than turn on the news, check on line, glance at any social media outlet or open a newspaper to see that many celebrities have died in the past few weeks. The year began with the passing of  performers and authors,  including Alan Rickman, Lemmy Kilmister, David Bowie, David Margulies, Dan Haggerty, Brian Bedford, Rene Angelil, Dale Griffin, Stephen Levine and Glenn Frey. People die daily all around the world and we...
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Cultivating a Mentoring Culture

A person who has a mentor to guide them through various aspects of life is fortunate indeed. I know this from first-hand experience as I have engaged in a mentoring relationship for 25 or so years. Mine is Dr. Yvonne Kaye who (like me) has been an interfaith minister, author, journalist and radio host. When we first met in the 1980's, she was what I aspired to be; outspoken, assertive, accomplished, no nonsense, take no sh*t from nobody no...
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God Loves Stories

I remember hearing this story in my young adulthood and it touches me even more now that I have become a storyteller.
"When the great Rabbi Israel Baal Shem-Tov saw misfortune threatening the Jews it was his custom to go into a certain part of the forest to meditate. There he would light a fire, say a special prayer, and the miracle would be accomplished and the misfortune averted.

Later, when his disciple, the celebrated Magid of...
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Connecting and Relinquishing

People come into our lives, it is said, "For a reason, a season or a lifetime." We never know at the time they enter our awareness how long they will remain. Sometimes it seems as if the random nature of the Universe is at work, other times a pattern can be observed. When we cross paths with new folks, a spark sometimes ignites that says, "Wow! I want to get to know that one better."  Perhaps...
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Love Is Patient

I read something recently which put a new spin on the biblical verse that is familiar to many, even if they have never read The New Testament or don't embrace Christianity as their spiritual tradition. It is often used in wedding ceremonies as a means of setting a tone for the marriage.

Corinthians 13:4-7 New International Version (NIV)

 "Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is...
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