In Facebook IM conversation with a friend yesterday, I made a statement which he cyber-chuckled over; since I suggested something that on the surface could have been taken as silly or wishful thinking. My response was that ” You never know until you ask. Anything is possible,” to which he replied, “With you it is.” I smiled since he knows that is indeed my mindset most of the time. While I do slip into a sleep of forgetfulness, I am reminded that by casting my line out far into the waters, I am more likely to catch a fish than a boot. Why stay close to shore with our dreams and desires when the vastness of the ocean awaits?
Gilda Radner who is best known for her comedic presence on Saturday Night Live, died in 1989 of ovarian cancer. Prior to her passing, she wrote a book entitled It’s Always Something. In it, she made a profound statement that has become good guidance for me.
“I wanted a perfect ending. Now I’ve learned, the hard way, that some poems don’t rhyme, and some stories don’t have a clear beginning, middle and end. Life is about not knowing, having to change, taking the moment and making the best of it, without knowing what’s going to happen next. Delicious Ambiguity.”
When I think about delicious ambiguity, I consider every possibility. How many flavors of ice cream are there? How many stars in the sky? How many ways are there of expressing our individuality?
A few years ago, these words came to me in a dream: “I am not just an optimist. I am an opti-mystic who sees the world through the eyes of possibility.” I have adopted it as my M.O. as I enter into each day. The words, along with a meme created by Teresa J.Phillips with artwork by Beata Bieniak, that included a top hat wearing flying elephant, ended up on Julian Lennon’s Facebook page. Since then it has gone viral on its world wide whirl wind tour. Who woulda thunk?
What would be like for you to see your life through opti-mystic lenses?
- Surround yourself with kindred spirits who embody the life you would like to live, knowing that, according to motivational speaker Jim Rohn, “We are the average of the five people we spend the most time with.” Who is in your inner circle?
- Have a motivational conversation with yourself that could sound like, “Hmmmm….. I wonder if…. I wonder how…. I can find a solution to this situation?” rather than focus on it as problematic.
- Take time each day in your imaginarium where you generate creative ideas for how you choose to live full out, rather than holding back in trepidation and hesitation.
- Listen to speakers who motivate you, read books that inspire you, learn from folks who have ‘been there, done that, got the t-shirt’ as they too have faced their fierce fears.
- Ignore the naysayers who tell you that what you want can’t possibly happen. Blow raspberries, put your finger in your ears and if all else fails, imagine the ‘wah wah wah’ voice of the adults in the Peanuts cartoons.
- Gather together yaysayers who act as cheerleaders and encourage your intentions.
- Use affirmations that reframe your ‘impossible dreams’ into ‘I’m possible realities’.
- Make a list of as many things in your life which once felt like pipe dreams that have come to fruition.
- Create a second one of all of your desires, boldly putting them out there into the Universe as it supports you. Be on the lookout for messages which tell you that you are on the right track.
- If you bump up against that snarky inner voice that attempts to dissuade you, thank it for attempting to keep you safely ensconced in what was and remind it that you have rebounded from everything that has ever happened in your life and if you happen to fall on your tush, you will get back up and continue.
“We have more possibilities available in each moment than we realize.”-Thich Nhat Hanh