From the moment we are born, we are once-upon-a-time, living, breathing story beings. Most children like to hear about their birth and recollect fun memories about their childhood. Tales that shape our lives. They evolve as we do. In my family, we delight in telling stories that get more laughter inducing each time they are shared. The elder generation is mostly gone, so I need to rely on my own sometimes spotty memory and that of my sister about whom I sometimes say, “we grew up in different families together,” since her perceptions are sometimes dramatically different from mine.
Stories can entertain us and enhance our lives. They can also limit us if they are fraught with pain and trauma. Consider the things you believe about yourself and the world based on what you have experienced in earlier years. Even though we have stories, they need not label us.
Choose an area or two in your life in which you feel stymied or stuck. Perhaps it is in the realm of finance. If that is so, you may be telling yourself this tale:
Money is for other people.
Money is dirty or the proverbial root of all evil.
I will never make enough to support myself.
I am always in debt.
I can’t break with family tradition.
I don’t have the education to be wealthy.
Rich people are greedy.
If you were to believe these thoughts, what might your back account look like? Chances are, there wouldn’t be many zeros on your check register. Keep in mind that many of your thoughts are not conscious. They are like computer programs that are running in the background while a window is open on the screen.
If you want to re-write the story that not only has you feeling better, but improves the quality of your life, you are always free to do that. Keep in mind that you may not be able to make a leap from where you are to where you want to be. That’s where a transitional or bridge story comes into play.
That may look like this:
I am willing to consider that having money is a good thing.
I am open to changing my mind about money.
I see that having a stable income would benefit me in many ways. (and then list the ways)
From that point, you may feel ready to springboard to:
I have plenty of money to save, spend and share.
My bank account is filled to overflowing.
I am a money magnet.
Money is coming to me easily and effortlessly.
This can be applied to the areas of relationship, health, career and recovery. Have fun re-writing your life story.
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