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Archives for November, 2015


Fast Food Communication

Once upon a time, people sent handwritten letters, thank you notes and greeting cards as a practice. For those reading this who are under 20, you might be scratching your head, thinking, "Huh?  What is she talking about?" Many even made phone calls to keep in touch with friends and family. The sound of someone's voice (no pun intended) speaks volumes about what they want you to know. Facetiming and Skype are technological advances that would have been...
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Compersion As Part of A Poly Lifestyle

Compersion is a word not found in the mainstream vernacular. You will come across it in the urban dictionary as it describes a feeling of joy and pleasure in that of a partner, even in the face of him or her being emotionally and/or sexually intimate with someone else.

It is a concept in the relationship paradigm of polyamory; the definition of which is a mash-up of Greek (many) and Latin (loves).

According to the Polyamory Society,...
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Am I My Mother?

Have you ever seen the meme that says "Sometimes I open my mouth and my mother comes out."? I had always viewed that as a glorious thing since I adored my mother and we had a close relationship. She was my role model for so many things, including an enduring marriage of nearly 52 years that ended when my father died at 84. She joined him 2 1/2 years later. She was the rock of the...
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Truth Telling In Relationships

"Assumptions are the termites of relationship."- Henry Winkler

Communication is central to a thriving relationship. Subversiveness and shame are plagues. They prevent us from getting closer, despite our best intentions. When we make assumptions about the way someone may be feeling or thinking, we are often at odds with reality. When we act on those assumptions, we may live to regret it.

Telling the truth may bring with it, heart-thumping, palm sweating trepidation. On the other side of...
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Dealing With Our Own Stuff

My friends are often stand-ins for the Muse as they suggest writing prompts. A conversation with one such inspirational soul offered wisdom too good to pass up. We were speaking about a long term relationship he had been in which recently ended. It brought with it understandable pain, sadness and the detritus left behind when that happens. What occurred to me after the fact was that he was leaning against a parking meter as we were saying goodbye...
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Releasing Resentments

“Holding a grudge & harboring anger/resentment is poison to the soul. Get even with not those who have hurt us, forget them, instead get even with those who have helped us.”
― Steve Maraboli, Unapologetically You: Reflections on Life and the Human Experience

Although I don't like to admit it, I have allowed anger and resentment over slights (real or imagined) to keep me imprisoned in a cage of my own making. Recently,...
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Airport Encounters

I am a consummate people watcher and connector. Everywhere I go, I meet folks from all of the world with stories to share. As I am writing this entry, I am sitting on the carpeted floor of terminal D3 in the airport in Las Vegas en route to my home in the Philadelphia area. My back is supported by a pole while my computer is charging. I came to this city where it is said that what...
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