Archives for Shame
As many of you know, I joined a gym earlier this year, and one of the perks I listed for joining my particular gym was the manager’s promise to personally assist me whenever I asked. Well, because my beau is a bit of a workout junkie and set up a few fairly awesome routines for me, I never had any questions. Until a few weeks ago.
A few weeks ago, I published a post on my thoughts about before-and-after pictures of our bodies. Since then, I've been thinking about how that idea relates – perhaps more positively – to before-and-after pictures of our minds. I've always dabbled in exercise and healthy eating, but it wasn't until a few years ago that I got serious about it; not just for my body, but also for my mind. My "before picture" was horrendous, to say the least. I was extremely out of shape, both physically and mentally. I couldn't stand to look at it, much less let others see it. Now that I'm more serious about how I treat my body, I have a healthier, more glowing "after picture." I feel a sense of pride when I step back and look at all the positive changes I've made in my life (again, both physically and mentally), and I don't mind showing others and helping them work toward beautiful after pictures, too (hence, the birth of "Your Body, Your Mind"!). So, if you could take before-and-after pictures of your mind, how would they look? I'll go first!
I hope you’ve excused my absence, sweet readers. I’ve spent the last week trying to organize a move, which has taken most of my time. As anyone who’s moved can imagine, a lot of things get put on the backburner when a move takes place!
I have to admit: I love before-and-after pictures off all kinds. Home renovations, furniture restorations, even makeup transformations -- you name it, chances are I love looking at it. Except when it comes to before-and-after pictures of our bodies. I’m a bit on the fence about those. On the one hand, it’s inspiring to see someone get in great shape; it can make you feel like you, too, have the power to be your fittest self (not to mention, it makes you feel all warm and fuzzy inside for the person who’s succeeding his or her goals). On the other hand, it could make you feel as if you’re not measuring up. If this person can look this way after this period of time, why can’t I?
Wait, what? How to stop feeling guilty over others' accomplishments? Aren't we more commonly jealous, envious, or resentful over other people's success? Maybe. However, when we see others succeeding while we're NOT succeeding, we feel a little guilty, too -- especially if we feel there's something we can do about it. After all, if that person makes the time, energy, and determination to accomplish their goals, well...why aren't we? Well, there is something we can do about it, but we have to get rid of the guilt, first.
Happy Monday, Your Body, Your Mind readers! Today (October 15, 2012) is Blog Action Day 2012! (If you’re not familiar with Blog Action Day, it’s an event that "brings together bloggers from different countries, interests, and languages to blog about one important global topic on the same day." You can learn more at www.blogactionday.org, as well as keep up with the Blog Action Day 2012 live coverage feed.) Because this year’s Blog Action Day theme is “Power of We,” I thought Your Body, Your Mind had to get involved. After all, when it comes to eating well, exercising, and all those other outside factors that help our insides, it’s easier when you have some help! So, for Blog Action Day 2012, I decided to talk about how the Power of We applies to adopting a healthier lifestyle; namely, how getting other people involved helps!
Earlier this week I talked about releasing guilt and harnessing the power of tomorrow. You know the kind of guilt I'm talking about, too. You're trying to eat healthier foods to boost your energy and you make a midnight run to McDonald's. You're doing pretty well at your new daily jogging routine but you miss a day due to work, but then another due to being a little sore, and then another because, well, you really should use the extra time to reorganize your closet instead... You get the idea. You're make a mistake here and there, and suddenly you're so overcome with guilt and shame that you start to think there's no point in going forward with what you've started because, hey - you've already ruined it, right? Wrong.