Archives for Self-help


10 Communication Skills You Can Use Right Now

When my daughter was 2 ½, she was a biter. And by biter I don’t mean that she bit into bagels or apples.

She bit kids. Small kids, bigger kids. I watched her like a hawk but she continued. I had no idea why until she started attending speech therapy when she was three. Almost immediately, she was able to ask for what she wanted, and found that people responded. The biting ended.

Because of speech therapy,...
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Feeling S.A.D? How to Battle Seasonal Affective Disorder.

Autumn and winter are beautiful seasons. The  leaves changing colors, the air grows sharp and crisp, snow and frost and ice appear. It sounds lovely, doesn't it?

Except, for some people, it's not great. The reduction in daylight hours can bring on seasonal depression. For people who struggle with SAD (Seasonal Affective Disorder), autumn and winter harken days of depressed moods, weight gain or loss, periods of withdrawing from the world, and increased sleep.

People who struggle...
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Healing After the Affair: 4 Things to Expect

Infidelity is a topic that few of us discuss openly. When a couple splits up, they're often hesitant to reveal the reason that their relationship ended, especially if it's due to cheating.
Infidelity is like a wrecking ball on a relationship. When a person finds out that their partner has been unfaithful, many areas of their life are impacted. Here are four  changes to expect when your partner has been unfaithful.

Sexuality: When your partner...
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Tracking Your Mood? There’s an App for That!

As a therapist, I know how important understanding your moods are is. I will often ask the people I work with how their mood has been.

Usually people will give a one or two word answer that mainly represents how they’re feeling now rather than thinking through their whole week. Sometimes someone will say that the beginning of the week was rough, but they feel better now. What I'm really curious to know is how their...
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6 Things You Probably Don’t Know About Bipolar Disorder

According to NAMI (the National Alliance on Mental Illness) more than 10 million people have bipolar disorder .

How much do you know about it?

If you’re like most people, you probably assume that you have a basic idea of what the disease is about. You've seen or read about celebrities who have acknowledged their illness.

Some of  you may know that Demi Lovato learned in 2010 that she is bipolar. Ms. Lovato also has struggled with an...
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5 Easy Ways to Improve Self-Esteem

Do you struggle with negative self-talk? Do you compare yourself to others and reprimand yourself for not measuring up to what you think you see? Do you believe that you are inherently worse than others? If so, you may struggle with poor self-esteem.

Self-esteem is defined as: a feeling of having respect for yourself and your abilities. I'm not talking about an inflated self-esteem, narcissism, or self-centeredness. Self-esteem is about knowing who and what you are,...
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The Power of Kindness

"No act of kindness, no matter how small, is ever wasted. "Aesop
I was a new mom, trying to manage a crying infant and two grumpy stepsons at the library.
One of my arms held the baby; the other balanced a stack of children's books and two DVDs. We were all tired and frustrated and ready to get out of there, and the kids were eager to watch their movies.
The librarian scanned my...
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The Power of “NO”

My mother says that my first word was no.

I’m not surprised that this was the first true word that came out of my  mouth.

Many children sing out the joys of no regularly and with enthusiasm. "Would you like more potatoes?" "NO!" "Put on your shoes please." "NO!" "Time for a nap." "NO!"

And why not? Children learn very early on that when they say no, something big and important happens. It could be that the food they dislike is...
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10 Things to Say to a Loved One Who Struggles with Depression

If you’ve ever been depressed, you know that awful feeling when well meaning people give advice that simply makes things worse.

There are lots of blogs that talk about what not to say to someone who is depressed.

Here are 10 positive things to say to help.

I’m sorry you’re struggling, and wish I could make it better for you. This phrase doesn’t imply that you understand what they’re going through or that they need to do something. It...
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True Greatness: The Pain of Hidden Illness

I had a very good friend named Mary who suffered from a disease called Lupus.

Lupus can be a mild disease, or it can be horrific and fatal. It can go from mild to severe, back to mild again.

My friend was very sick, and we’d often talk about how she looked fine on the outside, but her body was waging war on itself.

She was yelled at for parking in a handicapped space although she could barely...
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