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anxiety

10 Steps to Overcoming Frustration

Frustration. It happens to everyone at one time or another. It can make you angry, feel anxious, and be very overwhelming.

When you're frustrated, it can feel like nothing is under your control and everything is chaos. It's hard to know where to begin. When you're flooded with emotion, it's difficult to think straight.

How do you calm down and begin to tame those feelings when they come up? Where do you begin?

Here are ten steps to help you...
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Family

7 Tips to Make your Holidays (Mostly) Peaceful

Whether you celebrate Christmas, Hanukkah, Kwanza, or other winter holiday, there's probably a thing or two that you're dreading. Despite all the songs about peace and harmony, love and joy, family and friends, holidays can be rough on relationships.

Sounds lovely, doesn't it?

Be it your temperamental aunt on your father's side, your sister-in-law who always has a bit too much to drink, or even your children who have not yet learned to accept a present they...
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anxiety

Healing From Trauma and Mental Illness

In June of this year, I dislocated my pinky. It was x-rayed to make sure it wasn’t broken. Because it was "just" a dislocation, I thought that in a couple of weeks it would be healed and back to normal. I had no idea that healing could take much longer than that.
It’s been five months, and my finger is still crooked and swollen. It still has a limited range of motion....
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Family

10 Communication Skills You Can Use Right Now

When my daughter was 2 ½, she was a biter. And by biter I don’t mean that she bit into bagels or apples.

She bit kids. Small kids, bigger kids. I watched her like a hawk but she continued. I had no idea why until she started attending speech therapy when she was three. Almost immediately, she was able to ask for what she wanted, and found that people responded. The biting ended.

Because of speech therapy,...
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Depression

Feeling S.A.D? How to Battle Seasonal Affective Disorder.


Autumn and winter are beautiful seasons. The  leaves changing colors, the air grows sharp and crisp, snow and frost and ice appear. It sounds lovely, doesn't it?

Except, for some people, it's not great. The reduction in daylight hours can bring on seasonal depression. For people who struggle with SAD (Seasonal Affective Disorder), autumn and winter harken days of depressed moods, weight gain or loss, periods of withdrawing from the world, and increased sleep.

People who struggle...
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Relationships

Healing After the Affair: 4 Things to Expect

Infidelity is a topic that few of us discuss openly. When a couple splits up, they're often hesitant to reveal the reason that their relationship ended, especially if it's due to cheating.
Infidelity is like a wrecking ball on a relationship. When a person finds out that their partner has been unfaithful, many areas of their life are impacted. Here are four  changes to expect when your partner has been unfaithful.


Sexuality: When your partner...
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General

Tracking Your Mood? There’s an App for That!



As a therapist, I know how important understanding your moods are is. I will often ask the people I work with how their mood has been.

Usually people will give a one or two word answer that mainly represents how they’re feeling now rather than thinking through their whole week. Sometimes someone will say that the beginning of the week was rough, but they feel better now. What I'm really curious to know is how their...
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Depression

6 Things You Probably Don’t Know About Bipolar Disorder


According to NAMI (the National Alliance on Mental Illness) more than 10 million people have bipolar disorder .

How much do you know about it?

If you’re like most people, you probably assume that you have a basic idea of what the disease is about. You've seen or read about celebrities who have acknowledged their illness.

Some of  you may know that Demi Lovato learned in 2010 that she is bipolar. Ms. Lovato also has struggled with an...
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General

5 Easy Ways to Improve Self-Esteem


Do you struggle with negative self-talk? Do you compare yourself to others and reprimand yourself for not measuring up to what you think you see? Do you believe that you are inherently worse than others? If so, you may struggle with poor self-esteem.

Self-esteem is defined as: a feeling of having respect for yourself and your abilities. I'm not talking about an inflated self-esteem, narcissism, or self-centeredness. Self-esteem is about knowing who and what you are,...
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Family

The Power of Kindness

"No act of kindness, no matter how small, is ever wasted. "Aesop
I was a new mom, trying to manage a crying infant and two grumpy stepsons at the library.
One of my arms held the baby; the other balanced a stack of children's books and two DVDs. We were all tired and frustrated and ready to get out of there, and the kids were eager to watch their movies.
The librarian scanned my...
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