They’re officially adults, and a whole new set of parenting challenges awaits.
The first years of adulthood – the early and mid twenties – are truly confusing and challenging to both adult children and their parents. Here are some things to keep in mind.
It’s hard to fathom the immensity of hurt and agony that one single act of violence can create.
There is the sheer trauma for the victims who were there: physical wounds, emotional horror, heart break and intense fear.
There is also the grief and suffering for the people who loved the victims.
The trauma circle widens even more, to the rescue workers, theater employees, medical staff and neighbors.
More distant but still affected are people in the state, country and the world.
When a rock is thrown into a still pond, the water ripples out far beyond the point of impact. In a similar fashion, a senseless tragedy that occurs in a violent and deadly way affects even people who have little or no connection to the victims.
It happens to everyone.
Sometimes doing something small is enough to break out of the low place, and into a more normal, positive spot.
The key is to do something. Even if you have to force yourself to turn off the TV or get out of bed, small actions can elicit big changes.
Here are 10 easy ways to lift your mood:
For some, it’s remembering problems with their parents, schools, or the police. Others recall the emotional torment that those years entailed.
Teenage years are a time of intense physical and emotional development.
The years from ages 13-19 are a time for pushing limits, for exploring new ways of thinking and behaving. It can be a chaotic, stressful time for both parents and teens.
It’s normal for parents to imagine their own children behaving in the same manner as they themselves did.
While biological children may share half of their parents’ genetics, each child has his or her own way of interacting with the world. Even if a parent could clearly remember their own teenage years, their child’s emotions, difficulties, and stresses are often very different.
Here are some unexpected challenges of parenting teenagers, and some ways to help both parents and teens cope.
Long before there was written language, our ancestors relied on verbal communication to transmit history, values, ethics and beliefs. For thousands of years people have used words to keep memories alive.
Some cultures evolved stories into songs or dances. Others created artwork. Still others relied on written words. Today, these stories are still being created and shared.
In all of its forms, story telling is a way of passing on knowledge, morals, joys and sorrows. Stories are about history, about hopes and fears; they’re windows into a peoples’ inner world.
We have our laptops, our smart phones, our Kindles and Nooks, iPods and iPads.
Technology is often seen as being a way to connect with people: we can Skype with far away friends and relatives, chat on Facebook, find friends we haven’t seen in years.
We can hear in minute detail the daily happenings of near strangers.
But do these things which seem to make us close, actually make us more distant from one another?
I see families out to dinner, and each member is completely engaged with their own electronic device.
Moms and Dads are increasingly using electronics to entertain young children, even infants.
Friends stop mid-conversation to answer their phone, or laugh at a text. Couples on dates are not immune – when conversation lapses, smart phones come out.
Everyone, it seems, is plugged in.
Each person has 24 hours in a day to spend. A certain amount of that is for the basics – sleeping, eating, bathing, dressing. But after those hours are spent, the rest of how you use the time is really up to you.
Throughout the day, you make choices – how long to read Facebook, or how many TV shows to watch, if you take your child to the park, or spend 15 minutes talking with your partner about their day, or weed the garden.
These little bits of time may seem insignificant. After all, how many people add up the minutes they spend online, or consider the small bits of time you use talking to your coworkers, or the time spent cuddling a crying child or loving an animal?
But these small bits are where the time that seems to get away from you goes. It doesn’t disappear. It is used, but often forgotten.