10 Life Lessons to Teach Your Child

Recently, I had an interaction with a friend that showed me some areas where we parent quite differently.

The conversation brought to light the fact that, although we parent differently, we both want to raise our kids in the best way possible and we both want to teach our children valuable life lessons.

So here are ten life lessons that I believe our children should learn. Please add your own in the comments below!

Friendships take work. Friendship is...
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Understanding Defense Mechanisms

Growing up in the Northwest, I was an excellent tree climber.

I'd climb up trees to put on Christmas lights, I'd climb trees to get away from my three sisters, I'd climb trees to experience silence.

In my mind, trees have always been benevolent, safe  creatures that shelter birds, squirrels, and children. At least, that's how I saw it before I encountered a tree with...
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10 Communication Skills You Can Use Right Now

When my daughter was 2 ½, she was a biter. And by biter I don’t mean that she bit into bagels or apples.

She bit kids. Small kids, bigger kids. I watched her like a hawk but she continued. I had no idea why until she started attending speech therapy when she was three. Almost immediately, she was able to ask for what she wanted, and found that people responded. The biting ended.

Because of speech therapy,...
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Feeling S.A.D? How to Battle Seasonal Affective Disorder.

Autumn and winter are beautiful seasons. The  leaves changing colors, the air grows sharp and crisp, snow and frost and ice appear. It sounds lovely, doesn't it?

Except, for some people, it's not great. The reduction in daylight hours can bring on seasonal depression. For people who struggle with SAD (Seasonal Affective Disorder), autumn and winter harken days of depressed moods, weight gain or loss, periods of withdrawing from the world, and increased sleep.

People who struggle...
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Healing After the Affair: 4 Things to Expect

Infidelity is a topic that few of us discuss openly. When a couple splits up, they're often hesitant to reveal the reason that their relationship ended, especially if it's due to cheating.
Infidelity is like a wrecking ball on a relationship. When a person finds out that their partner has been unfaithful, many areas of their life are impacted. Here are four  changes to expect when your partner has been unfaithful.

Sexuality: When your partner...
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Tracking Your Mood? There’s an App for That!

As a therapist, I know how important understanding your moods are is. I will often ask the people I work with how their mood has been.

Usually people will give a one or two word answer that mainly represents how they’re feeling now rather than thinking through their whole week. Sometimes someone will say that the beginning of the week was rough, but they feel better now. What I'm really curious to know is how their...
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6 Things You Probably Don’t Know About Bipolar Disorder

According to NAMI (the National Alliance on Mental Illness) more than 10 million people have bipolar disorder .

How much do you know about it?

If you’re like most people, you probably assume that you have a basic idea of what the disease is about. You've seen or read about celebrities who have acknowledged their illness.

Some of  you may know that Demi Lovato learned in 2010 that she is bipolar. Ms. Lovato also has struggled with an...
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5 Easy Ways to Improve Self-Esteem

Do you struggle with negative self-talk? Do you compare yourself to others and reprimand yourself for not measuring up to what you think you see? Do you believe that you are inherently worse than others? If so, you may struggle with poor self-esteem.

Self-esteem is defined as: a feeling of having respect for yourself and your abilities. I'm not talking about an inflated self-esteem, narcissism, or self-centeredness. Self-esteem is about knowing who and what you are,...
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The Power of Kindness

"No act of kindness, no matter how small, is ever wasted. "Aesop
I was a new mom, trying to manage a crying infant and two grumpy stepsons at the library.
One of my arms held the baby; the other balanced a stack of children's books and two DVDs. We were all tired and frustrated and ready to get out of there, and the kids were eager to watch their movies.
The librarian scanned my...
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Mental Health

10 Tips for Finding a Great Therapist

Making the choice to begin counseling can be difficult; finding a therapist that you connect with and can help you is challenging.
Google will gladly overwhelm you with thousands of counselors or therapists in less than a second.
Therapy sites such as or Psychology Today offer search tools for specific cities and states.
As a therapist, I've had people find me through my blog, a friend, newspaper articles or a TV appearance, and...
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