While talking about some relationship angst with my friend Kathleen – married eight years to her loving husband Jay – she tossed a film quote my way. Now Kathleen has been known to cite quips from Jane Austen to punctuate a conversation, but I’ve never known her to quote a cartoon.
She said, “You two can be ‘independent together’.” As it has been about 25 years since I’ve watched the “Rudolph the Red-nosed Reindeer” cartoon, I had to be reminded of the context of the line … complete with a video clip from You Tube (just search for “independent together”). The elf Herby says to Rudolph, “What do you say we both be independent together?” acknowledging that their unique qualities can exist mutually and respectfully in a friendship. Now I’m not usually one to take advice from elves however, I think this guy might be on to something.