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When you have a partner with mental illness, you are likely always on alert for behaviors that might indicate the illness is progressing. Was that laugh too loud, and a sign of impending mania?...Does the fact that he doesn't want to go to the party mean his depression is coming back?...Did he forget to pick up the dry cleaning because he didn't take his ADHD meds?...Did she skip dessert because she's full or because her eating disorder is telling her she should?...Is he jumpy because of his PTSD or did he just have too much coffee this morning? As the supportive partner, it can be exhausting to have these thoughts all the time. You have likely been through the mill with your partner's behaviors that are due to their illness, and having these kinds of thoughts are a defense mechanism to protect yourself from being caught off guard again. But there's a flip side to this story, too: your partner may not be feeling as if it is okay to be themselves.
Today's post is Part 2 on how to help kids who have a parent with a mental illness. In Part 1, we discussed how kids think about and react to having an ill parent. This post will address how to talk with kids when their Mom or Dad has a mental illness, and provide helpful resources. Talking with kids about mental illness Experts recommend that you address these main topics with kids when Mom or Dad have a mental illness: What is it?, Will I get it?, and Will Mom/Dad get better?: Obviously, this will take a little research on your part ahead of time so that you can accurately answer your child's questions. It is okay to say, "I don't know, but I will find out," instead of lying, stretching the truth, or ignoring your child's question if you aren't sure of the answer. See the next topic for more on that...
When a parent is mentally ill, children are often confused, scared, angry, and/or worried. Depending on their ages, how long the parent has been symptomatic, and experiences with Mom or Dad being sick, children need appropriate levels of education and support. Children of parents with mental illness are at risk a range of mental health problems, including depression and anxiety, alcoholism, and personality disorders. In this two-part blog, we'll first look at how kids perceive, react to, and think about having a parent with a mental illness. In Part 2, we'll discuss how to best help kids and offer resources.
It's no secret that health insurance is expensive, and paying for mental health services can be outrageous as well. When you and your partner have a large pile of bills to pay, it can make a difficult decision to forgo mental health appointments and psychiatric medications appear--on the surface--to be easier. No money = No care, no meds. Period. End of story. Right? Unfortunately, you and your partner may have already discovered what happens when mental health treatment is stopped abruptly. Or if you are considering this possibility, you may be in for an unpleasant surprise. The ramifications of not getting appropriate treatment go much further than just a depressed mood or anxious thoughts and feelings. It could result in an untimely death.
Bringing up the topic of a partner's mental illness with family and friends can feel tricky. In some cases, it might be obvious that there is something wrong, but many mental illnesses can't be detected from the outside. However, that doesn't mean you and your partner don't need and deserve support from understanding family and friends. Asking for that support can feel uncomfortable, though, given the stigma that still exists around mental illness, and cultural perceptions that we should keep personal problems to ourselves.
Every so often, I like to share with my readers resources that I have found elsewhere on the Internet. Today I'd like to introduce you to "Patient Voices," a New York Times online resource that highlights multiple patient stories for myriad illnesses, including ADHD, bipolar disorder, eating disorders, OCD, PTSD, and schizophrenia. If your partner has one of these illnesses, or perhaps another type of physical illness, these interactive clips may...
Jim's drinking was clearly out of control...he had been up for over 24 hours, and the beer bottles lying around numbered over thirty. Yet he refuses to see a counselor, saying that he "doesn't have a problem and doesn't need help!" Jane's mother, Sally, age 76, can barely make her way through her own house because of the clutter and items she has accumulated. Jane is concerned for her mother's safety, but Sally will not allow Jane to clean the house or throw anything away. The more Jane insists, the stronger Sally's resistance. It's gotten to the point where Sally has told Jane she is not welcome to visit anymore, and Jane cannot figure out how to help. Josh has not been feeling like himself for a long time now: he lost his job six months ago and his girlfriend of two years broke up with him a few weeks ago. He's finding himself sleeping through the day and staying up all night, gaming online and looking at porn. He knows he should be job hunting, but really, he doesn't care anymore. He's lost 20 pounds, and when he does see his friends, they are shocked at the changes. But when they ask questions, Josh blows them off and says, "I'm fine." All three of these people are great candidates for therapy, but none of them will go. Why?
The American Psychological Association released its annual Stress in America report earlier this month, and the findings were clear: those caring for people who are aging and/or chronically ill (including those having a mental illness) are under more stress than the average American. According to estimates from the National Alliance for Caregiving, 65.7 million Americans served as caregivers for an ill or disabled relative in the past year. Not only that, caregivers reported that they are less successful in making changes that could improve their quality of life, such as eating well, exercising, managing stress, and getting enough sleep. If you read this blog regularly, you know that I often reinforce the importance of these strategies, but the results show this is still difficult to put into practice.
You may have told your partner during your time together that he or she is "one in a million," but if they also have a mental illness, they are more like 1 in 5 Americans, according to a recent report from the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMSHA). According to the report: A new national report reveals that 45.9 million American adults aged 18 or older, or 20 percent of this age group, experienced mental illness in the past year. The rate of mental illness was more than twice as high among those aged 18 to 25 (29.9 percent) than among those aged 50 and older (14.3 percent). Adult women were also more likely than men to have experienced mental illness in the past year (23 percent versus 16.8 percent). The Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration’s (SAMHSA) National Survey on Drug Use and Health also shows that 11.4 million adults (5 percent of the adult population) suffered from serious mental illness in the past year. Serious mental illness is defined as one that resulted in serious functional impairment, which substantially interfered with or limited one or more major life activities. As the well partner, what does this mean for you?
Last Friday's post discussed how stigma is--unfortunately--still a major force in mental health. Today, I want to share with you something you can do about it. Many positive things in the world have happened because someone has had a loved one go through a negative experience, and decided to instigate change. The National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) has just the thing: Become a StigmaBuster!