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Saturday, April 12th, 2014

Sometimes…IF you’re fortunate, (won’t say lucky cause I don’t believe in luck!).. should say BLESSED…

You meet somebody,

meet or get to know or become alert to or aware of…

a life that affects You or teaches You in ways unimaginable. A life that helps make Your life a better life.

A Life with meaning! A life with purpose! A life with direction……………………………………………………………………………. A life with HOPE!

A conduit..

“a natural or artificial channel through which something (as a fluid) is conveyed”…”water flowed along the conduit to the fountain”

 ”Just like the coldness of snow on the day of harvest
Is a faithful messenger to those who sent him,
For he refreshes his master.” Proverbs 25 :13

 

(For all of us, who at times toil for nothing, we are in need of refreshment.)

“I search for God, I search within myself for myself. God is all-seeing, all-knowing, all powerful a future perfection of intuition as the oeumenical world of supra-reason. I search for God, I search for my face, I have already drawn its outline and I strive to incarnate myself. And my reason serves me as a path to that which is drawn by intuition.” The Artist, Infinity, Suprematism.

Looking for a (your) black square, eh?..(it’s totally tubular and/or  cubicle: for some context see: Shedding Thick Skin)

“Malevich saw the square as being that work that would necessarily maintain a spiraling triad into the fourth dimension by being a painting, by negating painting, by bringing painting into a new context, painting beyond painting. Malevich hung a black square in the centre of the world of meaning.”

Is this it???

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3 minutes…what IF 3 minutes was the only amount of time you had?! What would you say? Who would you seek? Who would you want to see? What would you want to see? What would you do? How will you use your 3 minutes???

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

(FYI: the above-blank space is aka white on white : …


4.4.14

Friday, April 4th, 2014

shutterstock_84038164Greetings! BBFL: Beautiful-Breathing-Fragile-Life!

Today is April 4, 2014 aka 4.4.14…time passes quickly…before it was:
12.12.12
1313 
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So, How is Your Time passing now: evaluation is illumination!

“The most wasted of all days is one without laughter.” ~

ee cummings

LOL… lol :)

HA!

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HA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!Funny???

“How about: the most wasted of all days is one without compassion and understanding???!!!”~jw

Have You observed this: Some of us think we are something when we really are nothing. And… some of us think we are nothing when we really are something? Idiots thinking we are wise and wise thinking we are idiots.

To choose or decide, You have to make a judgment call. Buy or not buy. Believe or not believe.

Think, act or refrain…

(May be confusion and bewilderment are born from presumptuousness??)

It’s beyond me…to judge anyone’s true value/worth/intelligence, etc. For example, any given product, vehicle, jewelry, art work…wouldn’t only the designer, manufacturer, artist be qualified to know with any accuracy the true value?! That’s why You have rare works of art selling at yard sales for .10 cents. The previous owner lacked appreciation or “accurate” knowledge of the “true” value of that particular work of art. (So many lose their sense over making cents! and/or their cents making sense! Sense and cents cost.)

We are all works of art in progress!…unfinished until we die. The following is a profound Biblical thought on value and estimation of ourselves: “For through the undeserved kindness given to me; I tell everyone there among you not to think more of himself than it is necessary to think, but to think so as to have a sound mind, each one as God has given to him a measure [...].” Romans 12:3

A realistic assessment of ourselves (not too high and not too low) can help all of us avoid the dangers of immodesty as partners in wellness. Thinking we can handle a difficult situation or chronic illness such as Bipolar Disorder, etc. all on our own. Feelings of superiority …


Partners Communicating: Tactfully

Saturday, March 22nd, 2014

shutterstock_14972281“I much prefer the sharpest criticism of a single intelligent man to the thoughtless approval of the masses.” Johannes Kepler

Kepler’s got a point, eh?!  He had a few. “Galileo, Kepler, and Newton proved that matter is governed by rational laws.”

Scientifically speaking, we use incorrect terms when we refer to “sunrise” and “sunset.” But in everyday speech, these words are both acceptable and accurate, when we keep in mind our terrestrial perspective. ~excerpted Science and The Bible–Do They Really Contradict Each Other?

What is Your Terrestrial perspective as Beautiful-Breathing-Fragile-Life, Friend, Partner, 1 of many Caretakers of this Beautiful Planet Earth??

Humbly, we must admit our perspective on anything or anyone is limited. As Partners in Wellness, as BFL inhabiting our own individualized ecosystem(s), our particular life experience(s) and our particular learning experience(s)…etc. all come together in amazing ways to give us our own unique perspective or our own take on reality. Even people living under the same roof, experiencing together or sharing together similar spaces of time and experience/life will see things/reality differently (even if only slightly)!

To see things differently doesn’t necessarily mean contradiction. It could mean complementary points of view. Accepting that we will see things differently is a good thing! As Partners, let’s not get into a huff just because we don’t see eye to eye on everything. All eyes see differently.

Can’t we let our differences be conciliatory and not inflammatory?!

As Breathing-Fragile-Life, we all have our own set of sensitivities and insecurities.  However, we can choose to be inspired instead of insulted by differing points of view. We can choose kindness and a silent: ‘I forgive You’ by freely giving others the benefit of the doubt instead of making issues out of non-issues. (Being reasonable in our expectations of ourselves and/or others helps promote peace.)

Everyday we promote something. We advertise. Our attitude, our speech, our conduct and our dress choices advertise much. Advertising is communication. Would You describe Yourself as …


Partners Communicating: Commendation and Counsel Compassionately

Tuesday, March 18th, 2014

shutterstock_150058466Communication is essential for life.

Our eyes communicate information, our ears, our nose, our mouth. All senses communicate simultaneously.

Communication is a learning process aka giving and receiving process.

A smile :) or a frown :(  can communicate much to the world/fragile-life around us. When we frown, do we get a frown back? When we smile, do we get a smile back?
Positive Communication Giving is Positive Communication Receiving!
Our brain is in a constant state of communication whether we are conscious/unconscious or fully awake/fully asleep or anywhere (stages) in-between fully awake and/or fully asleep. Yeah, of course, for whatever reason: accident or other or illness or other (brain) communication can be strongly impaired/damaged….it can misfire/misinform.

“When we study human language,” wrote professor of linguistics Noam Chomsky, “we are approaching what some might call the ‘human essence,’ the distinctive qualities of mind that are, so far as we know, unique to man.”

Barbara Lust, professor of linguistics and human development, stated: “Children as young as 3 years of age already possess a remarkable knowledge of language structure and syntax which is so complex and precise that it must challenge any known learning theory to account for its acquisition.”

To me: Intelligence is simply good communication. Perhaps, higher intelligence can simply be viewed as higher communication. Perhaps? Superlative (beyond genius) intelligence is simply (well/not impaired in any manner by fault or filter) fully functioning superlative (beyond genius) communication.

Good, effective communication skills could be called wellness survival skills aka life prolonging/longevity skills.

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However you want to record/recode and/or break the chain… to me: life, in simple terms, is all about communication: perpetuating life means perpetuating communication!

Assertive or aggressive, passive or compassionate… seems to me: the way we interact is the way we communicate is the way we live!:)

If we learn to communicate peacefully, will we learn to …


Trapped by Trajectory

Tuesday, March 11th, 2014

Trapped by time, trajectory and limited math…No numbers is a triangular prison (or protection)!

(yeah, you do need protection: be positive)

Trapped by time, tidal (wave) directory and limiting words. No letters is ? a triangular prison…(to some? or sum? Unsolvable by me!)

A prison with no equal sides and no equal angles and no easy escape…(waiting for a 180 that will “probably” NEVER appear: a waste of time? Sure.)

(Remember, you don’t care about appearances joanie) That’s a good thing.

Yoked!

yet not boiled hard.

Chafing.

The rash is raw. (awww, too bad)

OUCH times 3

For free??

Nah!

Is gangrene? (ever)

Amputating my mind…

By brain fryin’

and tryin’ to forget

Aka trusting forgiveness…(and the infinite wisdom!)
EVAPORATE already!!
just an oops

and

a

p.s…cript that cannot be written nor understood with no beginning (yet the ending already exists)

it’s dark baby

it’s dark

don’t worry, don’t cry

it’s nighttime during daytime…(nighttime: a daily occurrence, right?)

at least stars twinkle…hope!

but You,

YOU

don’t see

any stars

do ya???

And WHY is that?!…your eyes? (blind)

Your ears (deaf)??

No…

Oh, you only like jazz?!

For healthy mind/body image: read below:

The eye cannot say to the hand, “I do not need you,” or again, the head cannot say to the feet, “I do not need you.” On the contrary, the members of the body that seem to be weaker are necessary, and the parts of the body that we think to be less honorable we surround with greater honor, so our unseemly parts are treated with greater modesty, whereas our attractive parts do not need anything. Nevertheless, God has so composed the body, giving greater honor to the part that had a lack, so that there should be no division in the body, but its members should have mutual concern for one another. If one member suffers, all the other members suffer with it; of if a member is glorified all the other members rejoice with it.

For healthy mutual concern for bfl: breathing-fragile-life/partners/friends/family: rejoice together and suffer together = compassion/empathy/fellow-feeling!:)


Opening Up Options

Sunday, March 9th, 2014

shutterstock_161086148Exploring options is comforting (to me). Sometimes we are faced with seemingly either/or choices.

When we take the time to fully think things through and explore options, we may learn we are not as limited as we may initially think.

Our minds must dilate like our eyes. Depending on light and darkness… based on accurate knowledge or misinformation, we act accordingly or we think accordingly. We can be trapped in one way of doing things or one way of thinking or one way of seeing. We get comfortable working in our comfort zone. Learning to work outside our comfort zone may enable us to explore various options and choices we didn’t know existed!

1 description I read of:

The opening in the colored Iris of the eye. It appears black because behind the pupil is the dark interior of the eye. The pupil changes in size as the iris adjusts to existing light conditions. Light enters the clear cornea, passes through the pupil and into the eye’s lens.

Of course, I’m not encouraging anyone to endanger his/her/it life in any manner. I’m just encouraging learning to be flexible and adjustable. Explore and discover. Learn and live. (You have a pupil, but are you a pupil?!)

I was reading/highlighted/bolded this “insight” on ancient Biblical Wisdom: ‘I.shin’ when used with ‘a’ yin (eye) in Hebrew, literally means “little man of the eye” (Deuteronomy 32:10; Proverbs 7:2), similarly, bath used at Lamentations 2:18 with the idea “daughter of the eye,” both expressions referring to the pupil. The two are combined for emphasis at Psalm 17:8 (‘I.shin’ bath-’a'yin), literally, “little man, daughter of the eye” (“pupil of the eyeball,” NW). The reference is evidently to the tiny image of oneself that can be seen reflected in that part of another’s eye.

Open Eyes/Open Minds…Learn!:)

Pursuing compassion fully forces me to constantly face things I wouldn’t otherwise. For example, here in Florida there are countless, millions of bugs. Through exposure and education, I’ve come to appreciate bugs even spiders. There are various methods of ridding or removing them from your field of vision or from your house.  …


A Fun Friday?

Friday, February 28th, 2014

shutterstock_150383150Fun, Fun, FUN…girls just wanna have it. Okay! boys, too. Yeah, my kinda fun and your kinda fun…may need some defining, eh??

Usually fun is something very challenging and being pushed to my ultimate………………………………………………………………..

l-I-m-I-t-…say, for example, to finish a project and/or having a last second deadline…what a rush…epinephrine to be exact! Or fun IS hours of deep study, meditation–when I’m wrapping my brain around some topic of intrigue/puzzle/enigma.

May be, I’m reframing stress as FUN: May be ? that’s a good thing, huh?

The American Psychological Association has noted: “Stress is to the human condition what tension is to the violin string: too little and the music is dull and raspy; too much and the music is shrill or the string snaps. Stress can be the kiss of death or the spice of life. The issue, really, is how to manage it.”

Then, there also is dancing or goofing around/laughing with my kids is always FUN. Anyway…no need to discuss different forms of fun in depth. You know your fun! I know mine.

Oh, this weirdo blogger is not just totally work…okay, may be I am: most days, but I usually LOVE work. It’s been another exhausting/busy week for me. How about You?! GLAD the week-end IS here…YIPPEEE!! Hubby is out on a Daddy Adventure with the Kids…so, I have a:

moment to think uninterrupted thoughts–WOO HOO!! in between phone calls that is.;) I have a moment with my music of my choice.

BTW: off subject a tad…here in FL we have been so enjoying all the variety of birds…tons of birds! that have escaped the bitterly cold and have flown further south to our backyard. The bird song has been great!! Sorry to Everybody who has been slammed by Winter up North. I’m sorta spoiled now not having to shovel, etc. I miss playing in snow. Living in snow…different story.

UGH!…life of the “raw and the cooked” or the fried and the frozen…extreme living: bitterly cold or excruciatingly hot and learning to adapt and be flexible; takes patience and cultivating many positive traits (i.e. forgiveness/endurance).

Especially as Partners living with a loved one who suffers the …


A Partner In Pain: How To Help Two

Monday, September 23rd, 2013

shutterstock_135280343Greetings Psych Central and Beyond! I wish You PEACE.

Peace of Mind and Peace of Heart; that’s a wellness start!:)

On the 18th of this month, I said “goodbye” to the 17th tooth in my mouth. A wisdom tooth that has been bothering me for a while.  (What’s been bothering You?? and for a while??) Hope You get relief.

For context IF You wish, You can check out: A Partner in Pain: How to Help!

Though what’s a wisdom tooth problem, when so many are suffering needlessly with bigger bothers/problems in other places like: US, Syria or Kenya, etc! :( All are in my thoughts and prayers!

Everyone needs peace, compassion and healing of one kind or another. We all need Doctors, Dentists, Leaders that truly care and are willing to help us: All Beautiful-Breathing-Fragile-Life. It’s sad that in many places people are not getting the medical care, mental care or pain management they desperately need.

Truly hope YOU get what You need. Need a laugh?! :)

At least, I was able to find (with help/empathy from: Hubby Chato Stewart and Friends) a reputable oral surgeon (close by) who cares more about my well-being than my money.  She extracted my tooth for 1/4th of what another surgeon wanted. Her and her Staff were Kind. I thanked her for her work of compassion and she hugged me as I left her office.

Naively, I was hoping that goodbye would mean “Hello!” to No more immediate bothers/concerns/pains associated with #17 and that I would be feeling pretty good right away! Guess, I still have LOTS to learn -lol especially about recovery

Time has been a topic of intrigue for me for years…always learning timing and patience. (That’s probably 1 reason why I value the written word/poetry/books…because they transcend time. This blog …


A Partner in Pain: How to Help!

Friday, September 6th, 2013

shutterstock_135280343#17, Yep that’s the one: “giving you trouble.” #17??  Left-side, bottom, wisdom.

On the 17th of July, my tooth #17 was bothering me! (Curious, eh? 717) Ended up at a dentist that afternoon. What brought me there? Pain.

Interestingly, to me anyway, this same tooth served as the “physical”/partial/smidgen/twinge of pain inspiration for post: -Pain-the-common-shared-human-experience-connecting-us-to-each-other- the major “emotional” pain inspiration for that post: (will keep to myself).

Now, I need oral surgery to remove this tooth, UGH!…cause I put off taking care of it. Actually, other things had to be taken care of in my life; other responsibilities that I deemed more of a priority than tooth #17.

Doesn’t every parent or partner do this?! Put the needs of Family, Partner, Child first. Of course, at the time, didn’t think I would eventually lose this tooth. Guess that’s not too bad, at 44, to lose 1 tooth…it’s not a limb or an eye or a vital organ; THANKFULLY!:) 

Too bad it’s a wisdom tooth–need ALL the Wisdom I can get! -lol:) Of course You agree, You read my ramblings -lol

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At the library, met a man missing limbs. Struck up a conversation–brief…tried to be encouraging. Seeing him and meeting him put my pain in proper perspective. I wonder what choices (may of or may not of) contributed to his loss?! Isn’t that what life and choices do: bring gain or bring loss, bring pain or bring peace. Long-sighted choices can bring peace and less pain.

Sometimes, it’s impossible to see the full scope of small, immediate choices (the trickle effect). It’s been trickling…

Fast forward to this present first week of September and guess what? Yep, #17 at it again! Lessons in pain–excruciating pain. No eat, No sleep, No writing, No talking! Actually, I experimented with ways of managing my pain.

How do You manage Your pain? In what ways do You help Your Partner who may be in pain?

  • acknowledging your partner’s pain
  • comforting words
  • comforting hugs
  • making appointments for treatment
  • bringing your partner to appointments
  • picking up the slack with household …

Geek Speak: Say WHAT?

Friday, August 23rd, 2013

shutterstock_116997754Geek speak can be a conundrum. Geek speak or oblique speak…can make it challenging for some relationships to thrive (e.g., Doctors and Patients, Caregivers and Care-Receivers, Parents and Children, Teachers and Students, Partners and Friends, Me-Tarzan, You-Jane or joan -lol and So-called Leaders and So-called Followers, etc.)

In case You need to know, i have nothing whatsoever against geeks (aka Super-Smart and/or Experts in their given field)…i use this term “geek” endearingly!..i’ve known (appreciated, liked very much) many geeks in my life and consider myself…a wannabe lol:) Hey, don’t we all wannabe…something?! giggle, giggle:)

Yes, some subjects are ineffable. Personally (don’t mind), i prefer terse verse. i “attempt” pellucidity! Though, my ebulliently discursive posts..may speak/tell/shout/whisper/reveal otherwise. ;)

Deep comprehension and clear understanding in communication is crucial to wellness. When an atmosphere of trust, dignity, respect, mutual understanding, love exists, communication is open and free. Pride, haughtiness and sometimes…big words-lol…can cause confusion, misunderstanding or be damaging/lethal to any relationship (and/or post/communication/conversation)!

Humility is a key component to compassionate communication and word choice. i’m always working on this quality (humility) or (the quality of this positive trait) because i don’t want my (attempts of) so-called “aiding” any Beautiful-Breathing-Fragile-Life to be (and/or come off as) officious or presumptuous.

Don’t all of us want to be understood?? To be heard?? or be helped when needed??…IF You’ve ever been ignored, misunderstood or misjudged–you get–you know–you understand–it can be life-threatening depending on context/circumstance! To be fully understood means to be fully appreciated. To be fully appreciated means to be fully valued. (To be fully valued means justice.) Justice takes time to unfold. Same with appreciation. Same with comprehension. Ah, patience…(i need more!)

Who doesn’t want to be fully appreciated and fully valued and fully heard or have your words, thoughts and feelings matter??  Then, perhaps, we need to modify our speech. Change our language to better suit our hearing or unhearing audience…

Take for example, the juxtaposition of a timid whisperer and a bold shouter. May be, IF we are timid whisperers, we need to become bold …


 

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