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Saturday, April 12th, 2014

Sometimes…IF you’re fortunate, (won’t say lucky cause I don’t believe in luck!).. should say BLESSED…

You meet somebody,

meet or get to know or become alert to or aware of…

a life that affects You or teaches You in ways unimaginable. A life that helps make Your life a better life.

A Life with meaning! A life with purpose! A life with direction……………………………………………………………………………. A life with HOPE!

A conduit..

“a natural or artificial channel through which something (as a fluid) is conveyed”…”water flowed along the conduit to the fountain”

 “Just like the coldness of snow on the day of harvest
Is a faithful messenger to those who sent him,
For he refreshes his master.” Proverbs 25 :13


(For all of us, who at times toil for nothing, we are in need of refreshment.)

“I search for God, I search within myself for myself. God is all-seeing, all-knowing, all powerful a future perfection of intuition as the oeumenical world of supra-reason. I search for God, I search for my face, I have already drawn its outline and I strive to incarnate myself. And my reason serves me as a path to that which is drawn by intuition.” The Artist, Infinity, Suprematism.

Looking for a (your) black square, eh?..(it’s totally tubular and/or  cubicle: for some context see: Shedding Thick Skin)

“Malevich saw the square as being that work that would necessarily maintain a spiraling triad into the fourth dimension by being a painting, by negating painting, by bringing painting into a new context, painting beyond painting. Malevich hung a black square in the centre of the world of meaning.”

Is this it???


3 minutes…what IF 3 minutes was the only amount of time you had?! What would you say? Who would you seek? Who would you want to see? What would you want to see? What would you do? How will you use your 3 minutes???











(FYI: the above-blank space is aka white on white : …

Partners Practicing Peace: Learning War No More

Tuesday, April 8th, 2014

shutterstock_123406648All of us would be SAFE and feel safer IF we could all learn to get along. Simple to say, difficult to practice, eh?!;)

As Partners (in a broader sense) aka caretakers of our beautiful planet earth and all the breathing-fragile-life upon it, can we learn war no more?!

THANKS for reading this blog. Your choice of reading tells me: You probably value wellness and/or partnerships. Or You have nothing better to read -lol:) Please read on: You will find something of value to takeaway.

A timely and thought-provoking Psych Central post by Dr. John Grohol: Military, Media Quick to Report Fort Hood Shooter’s Mental Health Status  helps us all acknowledge that sadly the suffering aka the Mentally Ill are still being stigmatized…and considered as possibly ? the sole perpetrators of mass shootings.

What is this educational platform aka “the media” teaching the general public about those who are sick and in need of help?!

Are we being taught to discriminate? Are we being taught to hate? Are we being taught to wage war against the so-called “enemy” …is the media defining the enemy as the mentally ill?!

How can all of us: the so-called healthy and the so-called ill think “well” of each other IF we are being taught to think negatively of one another? Are we being taught to pursue peace by focusing on positives?

How can we practice peace? How can we think “positively” of one another? What are the wellness benefits of practicing peace and/or finding peace?

For 1: We will all live longer.

For 2: We will elevate our quality of life, relationships and partnerships.

For 3: We will be better/feel better mentally, emotionally, physically and yes, spiritually!

We are multi-dimensional beings and wellness is multi-dimensional being-ness!
Questions for Consideration:
How have I been conditioned to think?

How have I been conditioned to act?



Has my personal “education” taught me compassion and self-control?

Have I learned self-discipline (e.g., exercising self-restraint over emotions both positive/negative before harming myself or fellow-breathing-fragile-life)?

Do I act in ways that endanger or hurt myself or others?

What has …


Friday, April 4th, 2014

shutterstock_84038164Greetings! BBFL: Beautiful-Breathing-Fragile-Life!

Today is April 4, 2014 aka 4.4.14…time passes quickly…before it was:
So, How is Your Time passing now: evaluation is illumination!

“The most wasted of all days is one without laughter.” ~

ee cummings

LOL… lol :)




“How about: the most wasted of all days is one without compassion and understanding???!!!”~jw

Have You observed this: Some of us think we are something when we really are nothing. And… some of us think we are nothing when we really are something? Idiots thinking we are wise and wise thinking we are idiots.

To choose or decide, You have to make a judgment call. Buy or not buy. Believe or not believe.

Think, act or refrain…

(May be confusion and bewilderment are born from presumptuousness??)

It’s beyond me…to judge anyone’s true value/worth/intelligence, etc. For example, any given product, vehicle, jewelry, art work…wouldn’t only the designer, manufacturer, artist be qualified to know with any accuracy the true value?! That’s why You have rare works of art selling at yard sales for .10 cents. The previous owner lacked appreciation or “accurate” knowledge of the “true” value of that particular work of art. (So many lose their sense over making cents! and/or their cents making sense! Sense and cents cost.)

We are all works of art in progress!…unfinished until we die. The following is a profound Biblical thought on value and estimation of ourselves: “For through the undeserved kindness given to me; I tell everyone there among you not to think more of himself than it is necessary to think, but to think so as to have a sound mind, each one as God has given to him a measure […].” Romans 12:3

A realistic assessment of ourselves (not too high and not too low) can help all of us avoid the dangers of immodesty as partners in wellness. Thinking we can handle a difficult situation or chronic illness such as Bipolar Disorder, etc. all on our own. Feelings of superiority …

Partners Communicating: Tactfully

Saturday, March 22nd, 2014

shutterstock_14972281“I much prefer the sharpest criticism of a single intelligent man to the thoughtless approval of the masses.” Johannes Kepler

Kepler’s got a point, eh?!  He had a few. “Galileo, Kepler, and Newton proved that matter is governed by rational laws.”

Scientifically speaking, we use incorrect terms when we refer to “sunrise” and “sunset.” But in everyday speech, these words are both acceptable and accurate, when we keep in mind our terrestrial perspective. ~excerpted Science and The Bible–Do They Really Contradict Each Other?

What is Your Terrestrial perspective as Beautiful-Breathing-Fragile-Life, Friend, Partner, 1 of many Caretakers of this Beautiful Planet Earth??

Humbly, we must admit our perspective on anything or anyone is limited. As Partners in Wellness, as BFL inhabiting our own individualized ecosystem(s), our particular life experience(s) and our particular learning experience(s)…etc. all come together in amazing ways to give us our own unique perspective or our own take on reality. Even people living under the same roof, experiencing together or sharing together similar spaces of time and experience/life will see things/reality differently (even if only slightly)!

To see things differently doesn’t necessarily mean contradiction. It could mean complementary points of view. Accepting that we will see things differently is a good thing! As Partners, let’s not get into a huff just because we don’t see eye to eye on everything. All eyes see differently.

Can’t we let our differences be conciliatory and not inflammatory?!

As Breathing-Fragile-Life, we all have our own set of sensitivities and insecurities.  However, we can choose to be inspired instead of insulted by differing points of view. We can choose kindness and a silent: ‘I forgive You’ by freely giving others the benefit of the doubt instead of making issues out of non-issues. (Being reasonable in our expectations of ourselves and/or others helps promote peace.)

Everyday we promote something. We advertise. Our attitude, our speech, our conduct and our dress choices advertise much. Advertising is communication. Would You describe Yourself as …

Partners Communicating: Commendation and Counsel Compassionately

Tuesday, March 18th, 2014

shutterstock_150058466Communication is essential for life.

Our eyes communicate information, our ears, our nose, our mouth. All senses communicate simultaneously.

Communication is a learning process aka giving and receiving process.

A smile :) or a frown :(  can communicate much to the world/fragile-life around us. When we frown, do we get a frown back? When we smile, do we get a smile back?
Positive Communication Giving is Positive Communication Receiving!
Our brain is in a constant state of communication whether we are conscious/unconscious or fully awake/fully asleep or anywhere (stages) in-between fully awake and/or fully asleep. Yeah, of course, for whatever reason: accident or other or illness or other (brain) communication can be strongly impaired/damaged….it can misfire/misinform.

“When we study human language,” wrote professor of linguistics Noam Chomsky, “we are approaching what some might call the ‘human essence,’ the distinctive qualities of mind that are, so far as we know, unique to man.”

Barbara Lust, professor of linguistics and human development, stated: “Children as young as 3 years of age already possess a remarkable knowledge of language structure and syntax which is so complex and precise that it must challenge any known learning theory to account for its acquisition.”

To me: Intelligence is simply good communication. Perhaps, higher intelligence can simply be viewed as higher communication. Perhaps? Superlative (beyond genius) intelligence is simply (well/not impaired in any manner by fault or filter) fully functioning superlative (beyond genius) communication.

Good, effective communication skills could be called wellness survival skills aka life prolonging/longevity skills.








However you want to record/recode and/or break the chain… to me: life, in simple terms, is all about communication: perpetuating life means perpetuating communication!

Assertive or aggressive, passive or compassionate… seems to me: the way we interact is the way we communicate is the way we live!:)

If we learn to communicate peacefully, will we learn to …

Where are My Reasons for Happiness?

Sunday, March 2nd, 2014

shutterstock_81215629Greetings Beautiful-Breathing-Fagile-Life reading my blog at this moment in time!

Hoping All is Well with You and Yours!

It’s Sunday, March 2, 2014 and where are my Reasons for Happiness??

Where have they gone?? Far, far away??

NO! WAY!;)

For those who follow my blog series: Reasons for Happiness e.g., 200 Reasons For Happiness which began back on August 8, 2013 until my last(est) installment February 16, 2014…you realized, I forgot to record. I sorta got busy and remembered a day late: which broke my c-o-n-s-i-s-t-e-n-t-p-a-t-t-e–r-n of an 8 day cycle. I guess, that’s pretty good consistency: August-February. Plus, I didn’t want this “fun” coping tool turning into a crutch or drudgery.

I wish to write because I want to write and not because I feel forced to write or obligated to record my reasons for happiness. So, I’m at a crossroad. I made it consistently to #200.

What do you, my readers, think? Should I pick up where I left off and continue recording/counting from this point onward? Forget about the 8 day cycle or just write/record my reasons for happiness when inspiration and overwhelming happiness motivates me?! If you wish, please leave me a comment.

(The jury is still out.) May be ? that blog series served its purpose and is now finished. THANKS for reading!

Everyday, we have many reasons for Happiness and #1 Reason is WE ARE ALIVE!!:)

As Partners in Wellness, Friends & Fragile-Life: we are privileged to breathe, be alive and be loved! Share the Peace and appreciate your many personal reasons for happiness. When we dwell on the positives, we thrive and survive!:)

Yes, life is challenging and yes, we have things on our plate, we don’t want to eat…but hey, what’s a little indigestion?! Could be worse, eh?!…could be dead or have no food, etc. There is always a bright side to every coin. And all trials are temporary. It’s all …

A Fun Friday?

Friday, February 28th, 2014

shutterstock_150383150Fun, Fun, FUN…girls just wanna have it. Okay! boys, too. Yeah, my kinda fun and your kinda fun…may need some defining, eh??

Usually fun is something very challenging and being pushed to my ultimate………………………………………………………………..

l-I-m-I-t-…say, for example, to finish a project and/or having a last second deadline…what a rush…epinephrine to be exact! Or fun IS hours of deep study, meditation–when I’m wrapping my brain around some topic of intrigue/puzzle/enigma.

May be, I’m reframing stress as FUN: May be ? that’s a good thing, huh?

The American Psychological Association has noted: “Stress is to the human condition what tension is to the violin string: too little and the music is dull and raspy; too much and the music is shrill or the string snaps. Stress can be the kiss of death or the spice of life. The issue, really, is how to manage it.”

Then, there also is dancing or goofing around/laughing with my kids is always FUN. Anyway…no need to discuss different forms of fun in depth. You know your fun! I know mine.

Oh, this weirdo blogger is not just totally work…okay, may be I am: most days, but I usually LOVE work. It’s been another exhausting/busy week for me. How about You?! GLAD the week-end IS here…YIPPEEE!! Hubby is out on a Daddy Adventure with the Kids…so, I have a:

moment to think uninterrupted thoughts–WOO HOO!! in between phone calls that is.;) I have a moment with my music of my choice.

BTW: off subject a tad…here in FL we have been so enjoying all the variety of birds…tons of birds! that have escaped the bitterly cold and have flown further south to our backyard. The bird song has been great!! Sorry to Everybody who has been slammed by Winter up North. I’m sorta spoiled now not having to shovel, etc. I miss playing in snow. Living in snow…different story.

UGH!…life of the “raw and the cooked” or the fried and the frozen…extreme living: bitterly cold or excruciatingly hot and learning to adapt and be flexible; takes patience and cultivating many positive traits (i.e. forgiveness/endurance).

Especially as Partners living with a loved one who suffers the …

I just…don’t know!

Tuesday, February 25th, 2014

I just…don’t know!

but…that’s OKAY!

I won’t act, move…I’ll just STAY…

put. my mind.

Other thoughts and worries will fill the space…the space I don’t know


I won’t forget YOU


“You” know.

Trust is

my MUST.


how can I understand


and will.

It’s not an either/or



NOW and then and

why? not?

Don’t look! behind

look ahead





thinking and moving…

another day

another shuffle, eh?

learn it/do it!!!


Kick what??

You know!…

representin’…i need the “g”… OH YEAH!!:)

(and/or/maybe? coffee/caffeine for this migraine)

Interesting “new” (perhaps?) passage(s) for meditation(s): THINK about it:

“For he says to the snow ‘Fall to the earth.’ and to the downpour of rain, ‘Pour down mightily.’ God puts a stop to all human activity (puts a seal on the hand of every human) So that every mortal man will know His work. The wild animals go into their dens and remain in their lairs. The storm wind blows from its chamber, And the cold comes from the north winds. By the breath of God, the ice is produced, and the broad waters are frozen solid. Whether it is for punishment (or “of the productive land of the earth”) or for the sake of the land or for loyal love, he causes it to happen. Listen to this, Job; Stop and consider carefully the wonderful works of God. Do you know how God controls (commands) the clouds And how he causes the lightning to flash from his cloud? Do you know how the clouds float? These are the wonderful works of the One perfect in Knowledge. Why does your clothing become hot When the earth is still because of the south wind? Can you, with him, spread out (or beat out) the skies As solid as a metal mirror? Tell us what we should say to him; We cannot answer because we are in the dark. Should he be told that I want to speak? Or has anyone said something that should be communicated to him? They cannot even see the light, (That is, of the sun) Though it is bright in the sky, Until a wind passes by and clears away the clouds. Out of the north comes golden splendor God’s majesty is awe-inspiring. Understanding …

Sick of Numbers?

Monday, January 27th, 2014

shutterstock_168922493I’m sick of numbers (hopefully momentarily)!

I sorta have this love, like, dislike and hate (strong dislike) emotional entanglement with numbers. An attraction, distraction, fascination and aggravation of mind-wrapping relationship with math.

I prefer words. I love words more. Numbers I tolerate. Numbers I like less.

I love facts. Sometimes, brain just jumps to the solution/answer and doesn’t want to bother with calculations, estimations or projections. (Statistics are alright.)

I live in a world of words…numbers try to take up residence, but usually get evicted before long.

Life can be like placement on a timeline and logistics all rolled into one mind-boggling mess to patiently sort out. Give me more patience PLEASE!:)

Math ain’t my thing. (Neither is proper grammar;)

I can’t defy gravity and I can’t defy numbers either. Can I defy time? NO! Compassion won’t let me. Thus, I resist.

Sometimes, math/brain games of life are a matter of chance, sometimes a matter of choice. Sometimes, a matter of survival. Sometimes, a matter of patience and timing and waiting.

In the timeline of my life…I could not help it, who was the first to show up: when and where. For example, my parents in my life and other family members and family friends…each taking their respective place(s) on my individual/personal timeline of life and the influence(s) (positive or negative) that brought whatever/whoever to (into) my existence or within my field of awareness.

{Choice(s) influenced my birth. Covenant/partnership influenced my birth and thus, the mathematical timeline of my life. My married parents chose to be together. Was it mathematical chance I was born in Massachusetts, USA in 1969?! If I was born in another country or culture, my life experiences and belief system may have been written differently/better?! -lol}

Of course, I subtracted some and added others/collected friends and mentors, friends of compassion to my numbered timeline as I progressed and/or as my life matured to adulthood and beyond.

It also reminds me of waiting in line and taking a number, say at a deli…when you approach, most likely there are others already in line waiting longer than You for their turn or …

Agape Autopsy

Tuesday, January 21st, 2014


Dirty, muddy, grassy feet: shoeless running to goodness…over glass.

Clean hands surgically tear inside out…my precious organs: my brain, my heart, my kidneys, my lungs, my muscles, my meat exposed…my true-blue-blood is all splattered bright-wine-red on this (blog/elsewhere/grass) and

dripping wet and fresh for any Irises that see.

A sacrifice..of..

My inner essence–naked and unashamed…tranquil and still: searching for peace (**** * precise *******) .

To be seen “as is”…is…”what it is”…a glorification? or a humiliation? or a justification? or an affection? or a rejection?

Gawkers (onlookers) continue to gawk: at the ugly and the beautiful.

Talkers continue to Talk: about the trivial and important. Walkers continue to Walk: the rocky roads and smooth streets. Whisperers continue to Whisper: truths and Screamers continue to Scream LIES!

Conformers continue to force my boxing. (My punching is not aimlessly striking the air, though.)

(They, the ignorant ones who know no better, (want to) tie my hands, tie my feet and/or gag my mouth. They think helping is stripping others of dignity or taking away choice.)

Doers continue to Do (aka accomplish much) and Hearers continue to Hear (aka listen obediently) to their master’s call.

You may be calling, but you’re not my master! ;)

(No earthly master owns me. Nobody owns those who cannot be bought nor can anyone purchase what is not for sale.)

Master? A master??

Yeah! a master reads your mind, writes your heart and moves your fingers!:)

To one: I am a ring finger. To another: an index. All I can do is point (north).

(Fingers cannot make brains grasp/hold/understand/know or love.) My limitations engulf me; not defeat me.

Life and death continue marching forward and ever onward…(whether I compose/expose/point/cry/laugh/care or die) However, I really don’t mind marching.

Givers continue to give and rapers continue to rape.

Lovers of the macabre may continue to: read/write/watch…on for grotesque entertainment.

Lovers of compassion may continue to: read/help/write…on for a little laugh or a little tear.

Lovers of the Kind may feel…


A piece of  ?…breathing-fragile-life am i:

hurting from the agonizing do-it-yourself-autobiographical-autopsy I perform (while alive and sans anesthesia) each time I honestly self-examine, self-interrogate and poke


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