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Friday, April 4th, 2014

shutterstock_84038164Greetings! BBFL: Beautiful-Breathing-Fragile-Life!

Today is April 4, 2014 aka 4.4.14…time passes quickly…before it was:
12.12.12
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So, How is Your Time passing now: evaluation is illumination!

“The most wasted of all days is one without laughter.” ~

ee cummings

LOL… lol :)

HA!

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HA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!Funny???

“How about: the most wasted of all days is one without compassion and understanding???!!!”~jw

Have You observed this: Some of us think we are something when we really are nothing. And… some of us think we are nothing when we really are something? Idiots thinking we are wise and wise thinking we are idiots.

To choose or decide, You have to make a judgment call. Buy or not buy. Believe or not believe.

Think, act or refrain…

(May be confusion and bewilderment are born from presumptuousness??)

It’s beyond me…to judge anyone’s true value/worth/intelligence, etc. For example, any given product, vehicle, jewelry, art work…wouldn’t only the designer, manufacturer, artist be qualified to know with any accuracy the true value?! That’s why You have rare works of art selling at yard sales for .10 cents. The previous owner lacked appreciation or “accurate” knowledge of the “true” value of that particular work of art. (So many lose their sense over making cents! and/or their cents making sense! Sense and cents cost.)

We are all works of art in progress!…unfinished until we die. The following is a profound Biblical thought on value and estimation of ourselves: “For through the undeserved kindness given to me; I tell everyone there among you not to think more of himself than it is necessary to think, but to think so as to have a sound mind, each one as God has given to him a measure [...].” Romans 12:3

A realistic assessment of ourselves (not too high and not too low) can help all of us avoid the dangers of immodesty as partners in wellness. Thinking we can handle a difficult situation or chronic illness such as Bipolar Disorder, etc. all on our own. Feelings of superiority …


Don’t Judge this Blog by its Title!

Thursday, March 27th, 2014

shutterstock_161486987I have roughly/approximately 75+ drafts in limbo*…waiting to be published, deleted, or edited. I WISH…oh, that would be a FUN game!

You like games, right??

How about I randomly list some blog titles and You, Dear Reader:)…can choose which one(s) You like. Then, according to Your preferences/responses, I will tweak/work the “specified” draft-post(s) and publish.

Mind You: some of the draft titles were just “quick” brain bubbles/ideas/thoughts. (Some needing popping.)

IF You choose NOT to participate, this bleeding heart may just cry -lol:) THANKS for leaving a comment/participating aka helping me organize and decide which blog(s) You would like to read!! I say: Give the reader power over what they want to read, eh?!
Power to The Readers!:)
AND remember, don’t judge unjustly any bfl: Breathing-Fragile-Life by outer appearances and THANKS for not judging any blog by its title!;)

Here’s my draft-blog random list:

 I’m NOT rolling my eyes!

15 Things I learned as a Parent for 15 Years!

Accountability–a Dirty Word?

Listen, Believe, Do, Ignore, Avoid, Go

12 Ways to Help a Bipolar Loved One Cope

My Gratitude List #25-37

The Humble Wife

Multi-Level Learning Smart(s) Broad & Granular

45 Things I learned in 45 Years of Living!

2 Partners on the Road of Relationship: Pave & Pace

Loving Someone with Bipolar Disorder

Homeless & Honest

Caregiving & Coping with Disturbing Behavior: NSSI: Part 3

Neem Tree

Feeding My Animals

No Ogling Objects Here: Keep Your Eyes & Comments to Yourself: PLEASE!

Coping with Emotional Pain

Green Tea Therapy TV: Q & A with Joan Winifred

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PEACE & THANKS again for Reading & Choosing! :)

P.s. Here’s why I don’t like limbo*…(aka don’t believe in unscriptural doctrine: made-up stuff designed to scare/manipulate):

In 2007, the Catholic Church officially signed Limbo’s “death certificate” in a document mentioning “theological and liturgical reasons to hope that infants who die without baptism may be saved and brought into eternal happiness.”–International Theological Commission.

 Why this change in position, this theological U-turn? Basically, it allowed the church to free itself from what French columnist Henri Tincq …


Where are My Reasons for Happiness?

Sunday, March 2nd, 2014

shutterstock_81215629Greetings Beautiful-Breathing-Fagile-Life reading my blog at this moment in time!

Hoping All is Well with You and Yours!

It’s Sunday, March 2, 2014 and where are my Reasons for Happiness??

Where have they gone?? Far, far away??

NO! WAY!;)

For those who follow my blog series: Reasons for Happiness e.g., 200 Reasons For Happiness which began back on August 8, 2013 until my last(est) installment February 16, 2014…you realized, I forgot to record. I sorta got busy and remembered a day late: which broke my c-o-n-s-i-s-t-e-n-t-p-a-t-t-e–r-n of an 8 day cycle. I guess, that’s pretty good consistency: August-February. Plus, I didn’t want this “fun” coping tool turning into a crutch or drudgery.

I wish to write because I want to write and not because I feel forced to write or obligated to record my reasons for happiness. So, I’m at a crossroad. I made it consistently to #200.

What do you, my readers, think? Should I pick up where I left off and continue recording/counting from this point onward? Forget about the 8 day cycle or just write/record my reasons for happiness when inspiration and overwhelming happiness motivates me?! If you wish, please leave me a comment.

(The jury is still out.) May be ? that blog series served its purpose and is now finished. THANKS for reading!

Everyday, we have many reasons for Happiness and #1 Reason is WE ARE ALIVE!!:)

As Partners in Wellness, Friends & Fragile-Life: we are privileged to breathe, be alive and be loved! Share the Peace and appreciate your many personal reasons for happiness. When we dwell on the positives, we thrive and survive!:)

Yes, life is challenging and yes, we have things on our plate, we don’t want to eat…but hey, what’s a little indigestion?! Could be worse, eh?!…could be dead or have no food, etc. There is always a bright side to every coin. And all trials are temporary. It’s all …


A Fun Friday?

Friday, February 28th, 2014

shutterstock_150383150Fun, Fun, FUN…girls just wanna have it. Okay! boys, too. Yeah, my kinda fun and your kinda fun…may need some defining, eh??

Usually fun is something very challenging and being pushed to my ultimate………………………………………………………………..

l-I-m-I-t-…say, for example, to finish a project and/or having a last second deadline…what a rush…epinephrine to be exact! Or fun IS hours of deep study, meditation–when I’m wrapping my brain around some topic of intrigue/puzzle/enigma.

May be, I’m reframing stress as FUN: May be ? that’s a good thing, huh?

The American Psychological Association has noted: “Stress is to the human condition what tension is to the violin string: too little and the music is dull and raspy; too much and the music is shrill or the string snaps. Stress can be the kiss of death or the spice of life. The issue, really, is how to manage it.”

Then, there also is dancing or goofing around/laughing with my kids is always FUN. Anyway…no need to discuss different forms of fun in depth. You know your fun! I know mine.

Oh, this weirdo blogger is not just totally work…okay, may be I am: most days, but I usually LOVE work. It’s been another exhausting/busy week for me. How about You?! GLAD the week-end IS here…YIPPEEE!! Hubby is out on a Daddy Adventure with the Kids…so, I have a:

moment to think uninterrupted thoughts–WOO HOO!! in between phone calls that is.;) I have a moment with my music of my choice.

BTW: off subject a tad…here in FL we have been so enjoying all the variety of birds…tons of birds! that have escaped the bitterly cold and have flown further south to our backyard. The bird song has been great!! Sorry to Everybody who has been slammed by Winter up North. I’m sorta spoiled now not having to shovel, etc. I miss playing in snow. Living in snow…different story.

UGH!…life of the “raw and the cooked” or the fried and the frozen…extreme living: bitterly cold or excruciatingly hot and learning to adapt and be flexible; takes patience and cultivating many positive traits (i.e. forgiveness/endurance).

Especially as Partners living with a loved one who suffers the …


Parenting in Wellness (Part 1)

Saturday, February 15th, 2014

shutterstock_102815882Being a Partner in Wellness is no easy task. Being a Parent in Wellness is no easy task!

(For related context, please read: LOVE: a 4 Letter Word Mothers (Should) Use!)

Any TRULY WORTHWHILE COMPASSIONATE Endeavor is no easy task!:)

Let me preface this post by openly acknowledging: I highly value Education. I highly value Literacy. I highly value Teachers. I highly value the Classroom. (THANK YOU TO ALL TEACHERS working very hard to educate! Where would any of us be without your love, dedication and hard work. We would be no where well.)

Over the years, the notion of  literacy has evolved. The conventional concept limited to reading, writing and numeracy skills is still in wide use, as well as the notion of functional literacy which links literacy with socio-economic development. But other ways of understanding “literacy” or “literacies” have emerged to address the diverse learning needs  of individuals in knowledge-oriented and globalized societies. ~www.unesco.org

A superlative education (in my view) involves *agape (unselfish) love literacy as well as compassion literacy.

*Here is 1 description of the Greek term Agape Love contrasted with Phileo Love:

“The definition of agápe, as given in Strong’s concordance, contrasts it with the verb philéo, which is affection as for friends. Then it says that philéo is “chiefly of the heart,” but agápe chiefly “of the head,” and defines agápe as, “the judgment and the deliberate assent of the will as a matter of principle, duty and propriety.” “So it is love based on principle, involving primarily the mind, not one’s emotions. It may or may not include affection and fondness. It is not unfeeling and cold. Yet it is not ruled by feeling or sentiment, but is guided or governed by principle.”

I also understand agape application to mean: a person does good (well) to the object of his love because it is the right (correct) and (well) good (unselfish) thing to do.

This superlative agape education (literacy) equips us to make sound, logical, intelligent, evidence-based, compassionate, non-selfish decisions that …


The Game of Life

Friday, January 10th, 2014

shutterstock_151135412HELLO-O-O-O-O-O-O-O-O…any body out there?????

Greetings. Fellow-Breathing-Fragile-Life. Hope all is WELL!

Life. Love. Living. Dieing. Is it all just a game??!

Somebody out there has got to be laughing-lol…and not just me. Correct??..I can’t cry all the time.

Life:It’s more than an intellectual exercise for some of us. (It’s a compassionate one.)

I’m giggling to myself. I’m finding the funny in the irony of my little, puny existence in the Universe here on planet Earth…specifically, here in Florida. And the compassion intrigues in which I find myself enmeshed…within my own neighborhood and elsewhere.

Never judge a book by its cover; nor a neighbor by his/her appearance, cats, dogs, overgrown or pristine yard.

For example, recently learned our neighbor recluse behind the jungle..,who has since started chopping it down including a (small) tree in my yard!…Oh NO!!…oh YES!…Hey, I’m not upset, his gardening work has improved the landscape somewhat. And peaceful co-existence calls for forgiveness, understanding and putting up with whatever, eh?

Turns out, after compassion communication/interaction/inquiry…aka figuring out why? this so-called strange-old-guy is chopping away in my yard and putting up pink measuring string everywhere?…he’s actually chopping away at/managing the overgrowth of his own yard…over time, the property boundary has blurred and he’s exercising his ownership aka sovereignty and putting up a fence. Hey, I respect ownership. I respect boundary. I respect someone’s property.

Neighbors, neighbors, neighbors near and far and behind the brush, jungle of my backyard, elsewhere and globally. Seriously, I don’t have to go far, leave home to find many opportunities to express a value: compassion culture.

Actually, get this: This older neighbor is highly intelligent, highly educated, anti-war, anti-fake-religion, a history/bible scholar of sorts. He’s studied Koine and classic Greek, Hebrew, likes cats, etc.

Go figure?!…LOL So, you see, we may have more (interests) in common with our neighbors, who we (initially) may think we don’t because we find them doing something shocking (aka different then how we may do something). Taking the time to get to know someone/fragile-life can …


Swimming the Ocean of Emotion

Thursday, December 26th, 2013

shutterstock_24687391How do you find contentment in despair?

How do you stay afloat in an ocean of emotion?

How do you find relief when you cannot spell it? or define it?

How do you think clearly when your head is aching-throbbing-with-unbearable-pain?

Letting temporary, fleeting feelings, deceptive emotion(s) rule thought(s) and action(s)/choice(s) is unstable, dangerous living!  Stability is found in logic. Stability is found in self-control.
Emotions: Positive or negative are Contagious!
Some of us are very sick with them, in particular, the negative kind (oxymoron?).  Some are bullied, beaten and overpowered by their emotions to the degree of (seemingly) helplessly throwing all reason, sensibleness and wisdom to the wind.

Chasing after wind…it tosses you here, there and everywhere. It tosses You against rocks….against sharp objects, etc. Don’t lose respect for wind. Gentle breezes quickly whip up into destructive tornadoes. Self-regulation or self-control is VITAL for wellness. Controlling one’s thoughts, emotions and actions is critical. Without any self-control one is ultimately drowning in the ocean of emotion.

(Water is power…The more you drink…The more you know. Salt? or Fresh? Contaminated? or Pure?)

Spirituality and faith: can serve as an anchor.

My faith is:

Freedom from

Affliction caused by lies

Integrity to

Truth based on reasonable, clear, intelligent evidence/ progressive, practical facts

that bring

Healing!:)

Faith takes WORK. Not everybody likes work.

Faith is acquired. Faith is trust. Faith is earned.

Nobody makes you faithful or faithless.

Actual faith is not credulity. (That would be stupidity-lol:) Faith is organization of beliefs.

Excerpt from my post Plat-”O”…didn’t know!:

Everybody lives their faith…whether one is religious or not! You have faith, the sun will come up tomorrow. You have faith, at Starbucks–you’ll find coffee. You have faith, the daily news will be shocking and sad. You have faith, you do your job, you’ll be paid. You have faith, if you cross the street at a green light–you’ll get hit by a car…

What kind of faith, IF any, are You building?!

As Partners in Wellness, achieving “wellness” whether that is mental, physical, emotional or spiritual involves a measure of Faith aka “accurate knowledge.”  IF our information/knowledge on any subject is misinformation that is misleading us into poor choices…we …


Effective Communication: ‘Liar, Liar Pants on Fire’ ?

Saturday, December 7th, 2013

shutterstock_110616782Happy Saturday to YOU!

(This is my second attempt to write this post. My first attempt was erased/not saved due to a techno/human glitch….mine: Uggh!

My early morning work is lost…doesn’t practice make better?? Will this post be different/better?…one can wonder: a 1 hit wonder?)

This past week I spent some time with some friends. Different friends of mine on Tuesday, Wednesday and Friday. It was just what I needed (time with close friends here in Florida).

Doesn’t everybody need time with friends that are uplifting, encouraging and educating? Friends that know you well enough. Well enough to understand. True Friends that care enough NOT to exploit your weaknesses, circumstances or tears for their own advantage(s)…actually, isn’t that what so-called enemies do?!

The kind of Friends that don’t care about what you look like on the outside and are not swayed by appearance, money, possessions, prestige or bribe. They don’t care if you’re broke…(not just talking money). The kind of friend(s) that just genuinely like You for you…the inside (authentic) you.

(I’ve been thinking about a goofy social experiment: what it would be like to walk around/live life with a bag on my head with eyes cut out…so I could see. You know: see and perceive. Seriously. Would people talk to me? Or take the time to get to know me? Would they talk to me IF they couldn’t see my face? or avoid me? Just wondering: how I would be treated in person IF my face was invisible: would I be treated differently than I am now? Just wondering out loud via this post…IF an invisible face would give others an accurate, honest look at who I am? Would I get an accurate honest glimpse of a person by their treatment of me with an invisible face?! Would friendships/relationships/partnerships in real time/real life be cultivated?)

OOPS! BACK to topic:

Friends that I “highly value” and “appreciate”…(terms that mean attachment/love/preference) have wonderful inner qualities such as honesty. What qualities do You look for in a friend?  or in a partner? What do you prefer?
Pleasant moments with friends I trust.
They have earned my trust over …


So What, So What, So WHAT!

Thursday, December 5th, 2013

shutterstock_164821118SO: How many times have you said that before? 10,ooo times?!

(and how many times has it proved true? IF ever?)

A thinker of human thoughts…and why should I listen to YOU??

Can You cause a cloud to rain?

Can You quiet the wind with a shhh or hush of your lips?

“Is it by your understanding that the falcon soars, spreading its wings to the south?”

“Or is it at your order that an eagle flies upward and builds its nest high up” ??

So what!…pride talks lots.

but it’s Humility that walks/delivers/rescues/helps compassionately……….

(my) h***: (IS) like a bird

As Partner, Friend, Caregiver, Breathing-Fragile-Life, “Bird” (whatever description you choose)…”these” wise words (of a Master-Designer) are worth our “thinking”-”reading”-”listening” time:

“Before a crash the heart of a man is lofty, and before glory there is humility.” Proverbs 18:12

Patience is a positive quality closely related to humility…patience and humility promote peace, wellness and unity in all relationships.

For example: When a partner is sick and the healthy partner humbly helps and the sick partner humbly accepts, unity and cooperation exists. Instead of battling one another, we battle the illness together; each in their rotating roles of receiver and giver.

THANK YOU my READERS for pursuing PEACE and WELLNESS by acquiring wisdom!:)

To be reasonable is knowing/recognizing wisdom. To be reasonable also means: “not to insist on the perfect letter of the law.”

“The wisdom from above is…reasonable.” James 3:17

I LOVE that quality: Reasonableness…and strive to display it…(trying to reason/communicate/discuss any topic with someone who is haughtily unreasonable is a waste of energy/time.)

Recently read an insightful article full of wildlife wisdom: “The Energy-Efficient Flight of the Wandering Albatross”

“Birds that soar can stay airborne with minimum effort. The wandering albatross is an outstanding example. With a wingspan of 11 feet (3.4 m) and weighing nearly 20 pound (8.5 kg), this bird can fly thousands of miles using very little energy! Its secret lies in both its anatomy and its soaring technique.”

“During flight, an albatross engages special tendons that lock its wings in place when fully extended, thus allowing the muscles to …


Honoring the Duty of Compassion

Friday, November 15th, 2013

shutterstock_116561050(2)“Uh-Huh! Oh-Yeah! I’m off the hook! Oh YEAH! Oh YEAH!”

“Uh-Huh! Oh-yeah! I’m off the hook, Oh YEAH, Oh YEAH!”

Explanation: a little victory song by juror #722. Good thing You can’t see my goofy dance! -lol

What a relief: big SIGH! Yes, I was summoned for jury duty. Ended up being on standby all week and today, I’m off the hook (for now).

Honestly, I wanted to honor the summons, but hopefully not have to report! Last night when calling for my daily instructions and dress code (no shorts, no flip-flops, appropriate attire for court required) reminders, the juror numbers called to report for Friday were  jumping all over the place and got me nervous. When I hung up the phone, all I could do was the above-mentioned song and dance…(YAY#722 not needed–WOO-HOO)!:)

(Have You been called for jury duty?) Duty in one form or another calls everyday, eh?!

Compassion Duty calls me all the time -lol:) The dance of compassion is strange indeed.

Honoring the Duty of Compassion takes various forms in life.

Every day all of us have to make decisions or choices aka preferences or judgement calls of one sort or another. Personally, I don’t feel too comfortable or too adequate in the role of judging someone’s choices or actions. I’m not a mind reader, heart reader, motivation reader. (Nor do I feel the need for a power trip of lording/holding authority (and/or punishment) over somebody.)

Yes, I believe in Justice! (Yes, I believe in the superlative law of Agape love and the spirit of that law.) That living law is written on my heart and preoccupies my mind. (And I hope daily expressed in all my choices and interactions.) I bow to compassion.

We all pay in one way or another for our choices big and small including wise or poor decisions. (We pay now or later! We all owe. We are all in debt of some kind and to someone.)

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You reap what you sow. You sow orange seeds…no big guess, you’re …


 

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