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Partners, Plagues, Passover (Part 2)

Monday, April 14th, 2014

shutterstock_134651360(1)We covered a lot of ancient history in: Partners, Plagues, Passover (Part 1)  THANKS for reading Part 2.

Ra.cham’ is a Hebrew verb rendered “show mercy” or “have pity.” According to a reference work: “expresses a deep and tender feeling of compassion, such as is aroused by the sight of weakness or suffering in those that are dear to us or need our help.”

Wouldn’t partnerships work well IF we all expressed deep, tender compassion?! All of us regardless of nationality, background, age, gender NEED tenderness, mercy and compassion for one another!:)

Imagine living under a government where the ruler(s) actually expressed ra.cham’ in all thinking, decision-making and personally cared about You (individually) and Your family! What a beautiful world that would be, eh? “Good” (aka compassionate) leadership/government and education teaches and expresses ra.cham’.

For related context please read: Hooray, It’s MAY!

Ra.cham’ is 1 reason why the Passover is of interest to me and should be of interest to You, whether You are Jewish or not, (even so-called Christians) benefit much from the history of Passover. The Passover marks the liberation of the Israelites from slavery.

(Many millions and counting…breathing-fragile-life have been enslaved and oppressed and even now suffer for many reasons including corrupt government.) Perhaps You, Dear Reader, are sadly suffering or oppressed by something or someone (i.e. lousy boss, difficult circumstances, chronic illness, cruel treatment, financial woes, etc.:(

Don’t we need a deliverer, a liberator, too?! (We all do!) But who??

 “By the end of the 16th century B.C.E., millions of Israelites were enslaved in ancient Egypt, where they were severely oppressed. The Egyptians “kept making their life bitter with hard slavery at clay mortar and bricks.” (Exodus 11:1,14) In their distress, the Israelites cried out to the Almighty God Yahweh for help.”

“Unquestionably I have seen the affliction of my people who are in Egypt, and I have heard their outcry as a result of those who drive them to work; because …

Partners, Plagues, Passover (Part 1)

Sunday, April 13th, 2014

Partners can be loving. Partners can be cruel. Partners can be healthy. Partners can be sick.

Some partnerships are warm. Some partnerships are cold. Some partnerships are balanced. Some partnerships are off balance. Some partnerships flourish. Some flounder. Some partnerships are loving and friendly with a working atmosphere of love and respect. And other partnerships are like master and slave of domination and submission.

(How do You differentiate and how do you know: let it go?! or make your exodus?! Many partnerships are plagued or troubled by something. Sovereignty? Who reigns? Who concedes?)

Which reminds me of the “timely” ancient history of the Egyptians and the Israelites. (There is much for us to learn as modern partners from ancient partnerships.)

I’ve highlighted the following points read:

  “As Professor J. A. Wilson states: “A warning should be issued about the precise historical value of Egyptian inscriptions. That was a world of . . . divine myths and miracles.” Then after suggesting that the scribes were not above juggling the chronology of events to add praise to the particular monarch in power, he says: “The historian will accept his data at face value, unless there is a clear reason for distrust; but he must be ready to modify his acceptance as soon as new materials put the previous interpretation in a new light.”—The World History of the Jewish People, 1964, Vol. 1, pp. 280, 281.

Please read on! This “quick” (in-depth) ancient history lesson has modern-day application for Partners and Others.

I will “try” to sum up as concisely as I am able. (THANKS for bearing with me and my abilities; though painfully limited.) You will takeaway points of value for application/practice for wellness. (Please read the forthcoming Part 2 as well!)

When Egypt Ruled the East says that to the Egyptians, he [Pharaoh] was greater than any other earthly creature “in wisdom and power.”

The pharaoh ruling at the time of the Exodus is not named in the Bible; hence, efforts to identify him are based on conjecture. This partly explains why modern historians’ calculations of the date of the …

A Life

Saturday, April 12th, 2014

Sometimes…IF you’re fortunate, (won’t say lucky cause I don’t believe in luck!).. should say BLESSED…

You meet somebody,

meet or get to know or become alert to or aware of…

a life that affects You or teaches You in ways unimaginable. A life that helps make Your life a better life.

A Life with meaning! A life with purpose! A life with direction……………………………………………………………………………. A life with HOPE!

A conduit..

“a natural or artificial channel through which something (as a fluid) is conveyed”…”water flowed along the conduit to the fountain”

 “Just like the coldness of snow on the day of harvest
Is a faithful messenger to those who sent him,
For he refreshes his master.” Proverbs 25 :13


(For all of us, who at times toil for nothing, we are in need of refreshment.)

“I search for God, I search within myself for myself. God is all-seeing, all-knowing, all powerful a future perfection of intuition as the oeumenical world of supra-reason. I search for God, I search for my face, I have already drawn its outline and I strive to incarnate myself. And my reason serves me as a path to that which is drawn by intuition.” The Artist, Infinity, Suprematism.

Looking for a (your) black square, eh?..(it’s totally tubular and/or  cubicle: for some context see: Shedding Thick Skin)

“Malevich saw the square as being that work that would necessarily maintain a spiraling triad into the fourth dimension by being a painting, by negating painting, by bringing painting into a new context, painting beyond painting. Malevich hung a black square in the centre of the world of meaning.”

Is this it???


3 minutes…what IF 3 minutes was the only amount of time you had?! What would you say? Who would you seek? Who would you want to see? What would you want to see? What would you do? How will you use your 3 minutes???











(FYI: the above-blank space is aka white on white : …

a day with-OUT

Friday, April 11th, 2014

shutterstock_143105233A day with-OUT


a day with-out


a day with-out


my last chance,

my last straw

2 draw


NOPE!!!…actually, gnaw.

and Y

i want to cry..have shed all the tears?!…you wouldn’t hear them;                             any                                                                       way

do you even ask…no care?

you won’t give them to me!!

how cruel (it feels to a sensitive/loving heart) with a capital CRUEL..

too unfair

to the fair










a soothing

harp; tight


when i am gone (forever out of sight and no translation for my wordless words)

and gone

for good…(this body dead) and the song is sung (don’t they say: the good die young?) and it’s paid….(and paid WELL)

don’t try then

it’s understood: remember

(the stomping will be


i want NOTHING

no flowers from u then

it will be



“GREAT!”…it will be over.

the pain, the suffering of with and with-OUT and of what is and what is not


my conscience clear

here…NO FEAR.




running dry? sigh, sigh, sigh



it’s heavenly!

tell me

what’s life with-OUT any

flowers at all?

no consolation, no comfort

no empathy (for me: a little pity?)


in my hand

the power




how come



OUCH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!……………………………………………………………………………………………………….healing heart(s)…

“You have examined my heart, you have inspected me by night; You have refined me, You will find that I have not schemed anything bad, And my mouth has not transgressed.” (Psalm 17:3)





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Taking Your Q

Thursday, April 10th, 2014

Waiting. Waiting. Waiting.


To take Your Q (quiet) IS giving Your Cue. Or IGNORING A (answer)…


whY (?) Yes. (A)





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Partners Practicing Peace: Learning War No More

Tuesday, April 8th, 2014

shutterstock_123406648All of us would be SAFE and feel safer IF we could all learn to get along. Simple to say, difficult to practice, eh?!;)

As Partners (in a broader sense) aka caretakers of our beautiful planet earth and all the breathing-fragile-life upon it, can we learn war no more?!

THANKS for reading this blog. Your choice of reading tells me: You probably value wellness and/or partnerships. Or You have nothing better to read -lol:) Please read on: You will find something of value to takeaway.

A timely and thought-provoking Psych Central post by Dr. John Grohol: Military, Media Quick to Report Fort Hood Shooter’s Mental Health Status  helps us all acknowledge that sadly the suffering aka the Mentally Ill are still being stigmatized…and considered as possibly ? the sole perpetrators of mass shootings.

What is this educational platform aka “the media” teaching the general public about those who are sick and in need of help?!

Are we being taught to discriminate? Are we being taught to hate? Are we being taught to wage war against the so-called “enemy” …is the media defining the enemy as the mentally ill?!

How can all of us: the so-called healthy and the so-called ill think “well” of each other IF we are being taught to think negatively of one another? Are we being taught to pursue peace by focusing on positives?

How can we practice peace? How can we think “positively” of one another? What are the wellness benefits of practicing peace and/or finding peace?

For 1: We will all live longer.

For 2: We will elevate our quality of life, relationships and partnerships.

For 3: We will be better/feel better mentally, emotionally, physically and yes, spiritually!

We are multi-dimensional beings and wellness is multi-dimensional being-ness!
Questions for Consideration:
How have I been conditioned to think?

How have I been conditioned to act?



Has my personal “education” taught me compassion and self-control?

Have I learned self-discipline (e.g., exercising self-restraint over emotions both positive/negative before harming myself or fellow-breathing-fragile-life)?

Do I act in ways that endanger or hurt myself or others?

What has …


Friday, April 4th, 2014

shutterstock_84038164Greetings! BBFL: Beautiful-Breathing-Fragile-Life!

Today is April 4, 2014 aka 4.4.14…time passes quickly…before it was:
So, How is Your Time passing now: evaluation is illumination!

“The most wasted of all days is one without laughter.” ~

ee cummings

LOL… lol :)




“How about: the most wasted of all days is one without compassion and understanding???!!!”~jw

Have You observed this: Some of us think we are something when we really are nothing. And… some of us think we are nothing when we really are something? Idiots thinking we are wise and wise thinking we are idiots.

To choose or decide, You have to make a judgment call. Buy or not buy. Believe or not believe.

Think, act or refrain…

(May be confusion and bewilderment are born from presumptuousness??)

It’s beyond me…to judge anyone’s true value/worth/intelligence, etc. For example, any given product, vehicle, jewelry, art work…wouldn’t only the designer, manufacturer, artist be qualified to know with any accuracy the true value?! That’s why You have rare works of art selling at yard sales for .10 cents. The previous owner lacked appreciation or “accurate” knowledge of the “true” value of that particular work of art. (So many lose their sense over making cents! and/or their cents making sense! Sense and cents cost.)

We are all works of art in progress!…unfinished until we die. The following is a profound Biblical thought on value and estimation of ourselves: “For through the undeserved kindness given to me; I tell everyone there among you not to think more of himself than it is necessary to think, but to think so as to have a sound mind, each one as God has given to him a measure […].” Romans 12:3

A realistic assessment of ourselves (not too high and not too low) can help all of us avoid the dangers of immodesty as partners in wellness. Thinking we can handle a difficult situation or chronic illness such as Bipolar Disorder, etc. all on our own. Feelings of superiority …

Multi-Level-Learning Smart(s) Broad & Granular (aka Partners Rocky & Sandy)

Thursday, April 3rd, 2014

shutterstock_158985110“What sculpture is to a block of marble, education is to the soul.”—Joseph Addison, 1711.

Partners, Parents, Children, Neighbors, Communities, Ecosystems, Globe/Universe = multi-purpose and multi-level multi-dimensional learning interdependence.

For further context please read: Parenting in Wellness (Part 1) International Literacy Day: What are You Reading Today?

I’m doing some reading/researching on African Tribe(s) (among other things) including their secret societies, etc…not finished… hopefully: I will make (aka put forth effort/create) an opportunity to write up an essay, perhaps. A friendly reminder: “Perhaps” is not “precisely” nor an “exactly” please, don’t hold me to the essay. (However, as noted in a previous post, Don’t Judge this Blog by its Title! I have many drafts already on various topics requiring finesse aka finishing first.)

Where will I find the time?!? Maybe, it’s all in “how” I package it?
One way, personally, I feel maximizes learning is: multi-level learning through multi-level example, demonstration and natural interaction/conversation/association/organization. Let me try to explain what I mean: Please: Check out this point I bolded:

In intelligence research, the Kpelle people perform differently from Westerners on sorting tasks. While Westerners tend to take a taxonomic approach, the Kpelle take a more functional approach. For example, instead of grouping food and tools into separate categories, a Kpelle participant stated, “The knife goes with the orange because it cuts it.” (Glick 1975)

Some of us out there organizing our kitchen drawers (aka life) put all knives together, spoons, forks, etc. together in the same place. Common sense/logic/experience tells you: with important things, the taxonomic approach to organization and learning can be flawed. Some of us see things in a broader vs. granular sense or granular vs. broader sense. Or a mix of both. Thus, our differing organizational skills and/or learning or educational skills manifest as such.

According to material scientist Patrick Richard, “Granular materials are ubiquitous in nature and are the second-most manipulated material in industry (the first one is water), …

A Quiet Down

Tuesday, April 1st, 2014

is a quell.  A quenched thirst?






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45 Things I learned in 45 Years of Living

Monday, March 31st, 2014

shutterstock_154213475How old are You?

Loaded question, huh??

Some do not feel comfortable divulging this kind of information.

Personally, I don’t mine. I turned 45 on the 25th. (That’s my calendar age/chronological age.)

What’s my biological age?

What age is my life experience?

Emotional, mental, spiritual or intellectual age/experience: how do you put an age to any of that?!?

Age is tough to measure like inner person growth. One can “approximately” measure (aka guess) with some accuracy my height: 5’7.5-8″ or estimate my weight:110-112 lbs or less/more. Actually, these sorts of measurements mean little to me…

I find it both sad and comical that some put extremely high value on size and shape, height and weight. Yeah, it’s important to be well, but inner/spiritual/mental and emotional health is very important to overall wellness!

Of course, at one time in my younger life experience, I very much hated to be judged (valued/devalued) by outward appearances/height/weight/age/looks, etc. I still don’t like it, but I’ve accepted that this outer skinny frame does not measure entirely what I am or what I value: (i.e. the inner person of any frame)…aka The “secret person of the heart.”

Nor do my freckles and/or any wrinkles tell the whole story of me. I’ve earned these laugh lines and it’s a gift to have lived long enough to laugh as much or be considered older or aging. (Maybe ? at 45, I should now discover wrinkle remover?! -lol)

To age is privilege of life and longevity! It’s sad that some cultures do not value older ones and their wisdom. We can learn lots from the older life…

“Let age speak, and let a multitude of years declare wisdom.” (Job 32:7)

Sadly, many have not lived long enough to complain about aging. Personally, I feel every breath…I’ve ever taken is a privilege and an undeserved gift/blessing…so, I’m HAPPY to say: I’m now 45!

Would it be nice to look like I’m still 25…may be? may be not?

We live in a pop culture that idolizes youthful skin/beauty and muscle. Guess, it would be cool to look like I did at 25, (Hubby might like that ? maybe ?) yet …


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