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Saturday, April 12th, 2014

Sometimes…IF you’re fortunate, (won’t say lucky cause I don’t believe in luck!).. should say BLESSED…

You meet somebody,

meet or get to know or become alert to or aware of…

a life that affects You or teaches You in ways unimaginable. A life that helps make Your life a better life.

A Life with meaning! A life with purpose! A life with direction……………………………………………………………………………. A life with HOPE!

A conduit..

“a natural or artificial channel through which something (as a fluid) is conveyed”…”water flowed along the conduit to the fountain”

 “Just like the coldness of snow on the day of harvest
Is a faithful messenger to those who sent him,
For he refreshes his master.” Proverbs 25 :13


(For all of us, who at times toil for nothing, we are in need of refreshment.)

“I search for God, I search within myself for myself. God is all-seeing, all-knowing, all powerful a future perfection of intuition as the oeumenical world of supra-reason. I search for God, I search for my face, I have already drawn its outline and I strive to incarnate myself. And my reason serves me as a path to that which is drawn by intuition.” The Artist, Infinity, Suprematism.

Looking for a (your) black square, eh?..(it’s totally tubular and/or  cubicle: for some context see: Shedding Thick Skin)

“Malevich saw the square as being that work that would necessarily maintain a spiraling triad into the fourth dimension by being a painting, by negating painting, by bringing painting into a new context, painting beyond painting. Malevich hung a black square in the centre of the world of meaning.”

Is this it???


3 minutes…what IF 3 minutes was the only amount of time you had?! What would you say? Who would you seek? Who would you want to see? What would you want to see? What would you do? How will you use your 3 minutes???











(FYI: the above-blank space is aka white on white : …

Don’t Judge this Blog by its Title!

Thursday, March 27th, 2014

shutterstock_161486987I have roughly/approximately 75+ drafts in limbo*…waiting to be published, deleted, or edited. I WISH…oh, that would be a FUN game!

You like games, right??

How about I randomly list some blog titles and You, Dear Reader:)…can choose which one(s) You like. Then, according to Your preferences/responses, I will tweak/work the “specified” draft-post(s) and publish.

Mind You: some of the draft titles were just “quick” brain bubbles/ideas/thoughts. (Some needing popping.)

IF You choose NOT to participate, this bleeding heart may just cry -lol:) THANKS for leaving a comment/participating aka helping me organize and decide which blog(s) You would like to read!! I say: Give the reader power over what they want to read, eh?!
Power to The Readers!:)
AND remember, don’t judge unjustly any bfl: Breathing-Fragile-Life by outer appearances and THANKS for not judging any blog by its title!;)

Here’s my draft-blog random list:

 I’m NOT rolling my eyes!

15 Things I learned as a Parent for 15 Years!

Accountability–a Dirty Word?

Listen, Believe, Do, Ignore, Avoid, Go

12 Ways to Help a Bipolar Loved One Cope

My Gratitude List #25-37

The Humble Wife

Multi-Level Learning Smart(s) Broad & Granular

45 Things I learned in 45 Years of Living!

2 Partners on the Road of Relationship: Pave & Pace

Loving Someone with Bipolar Disorder

Homeless & Honest

Caregiving & Coping with Disturbing Behavior: NSSI: Part 3

Neem Tree

Feeding My Animals

No Ogling Objects Here: Keep Your Eyes & Comments to Yourself: PLEASE!

Coping with Emotional Pain

Green Tea Therapy TV: Q & A with Joan Winifred


PEACE & THANKS again for Reading & Choosing! :)

P.s. Here’s why I don’t like limbo*…(aka don’t believe in unscriptural doctrine: made-up stuff designed to scare/manipulate):

In 2007, the Catholic Church officially signed Limbo’s “death certificate” in a document mentioning “theological and liturgical reasons to hope that infants who die without baptism may be saved and brought into eternal happiness.”–International Theological Commission.

 Why this change in position, this theological U-turn? Basically, it allowed the church to free itself from what French columnist Henri Tincq …

Shedding Thick Skin

Monday, January 13th, 2014


When grass is tall, you cannot easily spot a snake. Time to cut some grass?? Short grass protective.

I don’t particularly like snakes, I respect All fragile life. Snakes fall in that realm of existence.

I’m careful to avoid them, though. Are You? I’ve learned over time to appreciate certain things about snakes. (Doesn’t make them my preference, however.)

Over the years, by exposure, I’ve shed my phobia. Can You blame me for not liking them so much when as a young preschooler, almost had a rattler bite me in the face. During my formative years, my family moved from the city to the country, though I spent my schooling years in the city. Growing up in Somerville, MA, then we would vacation/camp in the mountains of NH during the Summer. (Best of both worlds?!)

I have vivid memories of playing in the woods (of Virginia) out in the boonies as a small child. Mostly of warm sunshine filtering down upon me through the shadows of leaves from beautiful, big trees or memories of a horse named “Molly!” …and a scary snake -“unnamed” lol:) (Oh, and the red clay dirt and making many mud pies.)

I picked up a round abandoned container in the woods behind my house, curiously put my face close to see what was inside and out pops a mad snake! Dropped container and remembering seeing a snake slither out and away while hearing a noise.

See, outgoing-friendly-curiosity aka fearlessness or lack of scary experience can get ya in trouble, eh?;)

Guess, years later, I haven’t completely learned my lesson?? Being a friendly outsider looking curiously into containers…watch out, joanie.

I’m exhausted (not defeated: BIG difference) trying to expand the non-thinkers. The boxers keep boxing. The conformers keep conforming… (aka Close-Minded-Thinking-Claustrophobia-Sufferers who keep on resisting new thoughts!)

Obviously, I’m suffering too…THANK God not from that!!

The beaters of a different drum keep beating… away and the non-hearers just don’t wanna listen, no matter how loud or beautiful the sound cause to them: it’s just NOISE!!! To me, it’s MUSIC. (i love pure music.)

Instead of learnin’ to listen–they tell ya to STOP! …

Swimming the Ocean of Emotion

Thursday, December 26th, 2013

shutterstock_24687391How do you find contentment in despair?

How do you stay afloat in an ocean of emotion?

How do you find relief when you cannot spell it? or define it?

How do you think clearly when your head is aching-throbbing-with-unbearable-pain?

Letting temporary, fleeting feelings, deceptive emotion(s) rule thought(s) and action(s)/choice(s) is unstable, dangerous living!  Stability is found in logic. Stability is found in self-control.
Emotions: Positive or negative are Contagious!
Some of us are very sick with them, in particular, the negative kind (oxymoron?).  Some are bullied, beaten and overpowered by their emotions to the degree of (seemingly) helplessly throwing all reason, sensibleness and wisdom to the wind.

Chasing after wind…it tosses you here, there and everywhere. It tosses You against rocks….against sharp objects, etc. Don’t lose respect for wind. Gentle breezes quickly whip up into destructive tornadoes. Self-regulation or self-control is VITAL for wellness. Controlling one’s thoughts, emotions and actions is critical. Without any self-control one is ultimately drowning in the ocean of emotion.

(Water is power…The more you drink…The more you know. Salt? or Fresh? Contaminated? or Pure?)

Spirituality and faith: can serve as an anchor.

My faith is:

Freedom from

Affliction caused by lies

Integrity to

Truth based on reasonable, clear, intelligent evidence/ progressive, practical facts

that bring


Faith takes WORK. Not everybody likes work.

Faith is acquired. Faith is trust. Faith is earned.

Nobody makes you faithful or faithless.

Actual faith is not credulity. (That would be stupidity-lol:) Faith is organization of beliefs.

Excerpt from my post Plat-”O”…didn’t know!:

Everybody lives their faith…whether one is religious or not! You have faith, the sun will come up tomorrow. You have faith, at Starbucks–you’ll find coffee. You have faith, the daily news will be shocking and sad. You have faith, you do your job, you’ll be paid. You have faith, if you cross the street at a green light–you’ll get hit by a car…

What kind of faith, IF any, are You building?!

As Partners in Wellness, achieving “wellness” whether that is mental, physical, emotional or spiritual involves a measure of Faith aka “accurate knowledge.”  IF our information/knowledge on any subject is misinformation that is misleading us into poor choices…we …

A little Music–Transform Your Mind

Tuesday, April 9th, 2013

shutterstock_121740856Being transformed…Many exercise/diet frequently spending a good portion of their time on their bodies. Some care a lot about: size, shape, health.

Why can’t people transform…their minds?…change your eating habits–change/transform your mind. People sculpt their bodies…why not mold/sculpt your brain?? Some go to great lengths to protect their health, their life. Why not protect your brain/mind?! What are you choosing to feed your mind? Junk food?! i hope NOT.
Eat Well. Live Well.
Read this interesting article (highlighted points): The Amazing World of Insects –METAMORPHOSIS—A New Look, a New Life-Style:

“Some insects totally revamp their appearance through a process called metamorphosis—literally, “change in form.” The changes can be quite dramatic. Maggots change into flies, caterpillars into butterflies, and aquatic larvae into airborne dragonflies. Hundreds of thousands of insects undergo metamorphosis. To produce such a transformation—comparable to converting a train into an airplane—huge modifications must take place inside the insect’s body. Consider the butterfly, for example. While the caterpillar is dormant in the chrysalis, most of its previous tissues and body organs break down and a whole set of new adult organs—such as wings, eyes, and antennas—develop. Often, the transformation involves taking on a new life-style. For example, while in the larval stage, the dragonfly captures small fish or tadpoles; but when it becomes a free-flying adult, it changes its diet to insects. This is the equivalent of a man spending his first 20 years swimming in the sea and the rest of his life flying around like a bird.”

“Could evolution orchestrate these incredible transformations? How could a caterpillar simply appear on the scene, programmed to transform itself into a butterfly? For that matter, which came first—the caterpillar or the butterfly? One cannot exist without the other, for only the butterfly breeds and lays eggs….Surely, the process of metamorphosis gives convincing evidence of a Master Designer.”
Points for Pondering:
IF there is a Master Designer: why not draw close to this Designer? Talk about neurons, intelligence-way-beyond-genius and then some. Couldn’t the Master Designer of the Brain…know how to transform the brain/mind/body? (Who wouldn’t want …

Boyle, Sagan: Scientific and Spiritual “Understanding” of Life Interdependency Part 3

Tuesday, February 12th, 2013

Listen! It’s beautiful! Don’t You want to hear? Share?…You care…enough to know.Large Group of Happy People standing together. Royalty Free Stock Photo

Do You tolerate people with a different point of view?! (Well, as long as i “remain” right or come off “correct!”-lol…some “may” feel deep down!:)

F~l~e~x~i~b~i~l~i~t~y is a sign of physical health as well as emotional, mental…i’ll throw in spiritual health, too. Our range of muscle motion is indicative of our wellness. When it comes to your compassion, what is your personal range of motion?! Are you flexible? or ridgid? Can you bend and stretch a little or are you too stiff?…stiff in your thinking and actions?!

Can you o-p-e-n-y-o-u-r-m-i-n-d and s   t   r   e   t   c   h further by “trying” to “understand” others and their beliefs? Whether you’re into science or spirituality or not…many among our global-family of beatiful-breathing-fragile-life…are! Just because something doesn’t matter to you or me doesn’t mean it isn’t important to someone somewhere!:) What matters to you? Don’t you appreciate when others take your feelings/thoughts into consideration…like you matter!:)

“As far as scholars have discovered, there has never existed any people, anywhere, at any time, who were not in some sense religious.” ~The New England Britannica

“To study different religions need not imply infidelity to one’s own faith, but rather it may be enlarged by seeing how other people have sought for reality and have been enriched by their search.”~World Religions–From Ancient History to the Present.”

For me, i may not personally (adhere to) “believe” in your particular religion/belief system, but i RESPECT your right of choice. I may not totally agree with your take on reality, but i RESPECT it’s your take and you have the right to reality! We all make choices. We live with the results of those choices. Will i exhibit compassion toward my Fellow-Breathing-Fragile-Life by trying to understand/comprehend you better and “your reality” in which you choose to live…SURE!..i will!:) My personal quest for truth behoves me. My personal quest to live love/compassion/truth behoves me. What behoves You?!

“If I as a geologist were called upon to …

Peakaboo — Eye See You!

Sunday, January 13th, 2013

Peak-a-BooPeak-a-boo! Eye See You! “May You Be Well and also Your household Be Well and All that You Have Be Well!” :)

Every baby loves the game Peak-a-boo…(and some adults, too!:) an early game of early, morning trust and early, morning (new) relationship building…between mother and child, etc. The game/fun never gets old! Whether you’re hiding behind a pair of binoculars, a telescope or computer screen…an “early”/encrypted form of communication, language, laughter and learning. Fun! (who…m–doesn’t enjoy some…fun! No matter what your age!:)

Peak-a-boo–the (young) game of innocence and learning…the game between teacher and student…

Is it A or B or an Enigma?! Mystery…s…olved:

An experimenter hides an attractive toy under box “A” within the baby’s reach. The baby searches for the toy, looks under box “A”, and finds the toy. This activity is usually repeated several times (always with the researcher hiding the toy under box “A”). Then, in the critical trial, the experimenter moves the toy under box “B”, also within easy reach of the baby. Babies of 10 months or younger typically make the perseverance error, meaning they look under box “A” even though they saw the researcher move the toy under box “B”, and box “B” is just as easy to reach. This demonstrates a lack of, or incomplete, schema of object permanence. Children of 12 months or older typically do not make this error.
Competing explanations
Traditionally, this phenomenon has been explained as the child seeing an image and remembering where it was, rather than where it is. Other accounts deal with the development of planning, reaching, and deciding things. There are also behaviorist accounts that explain the behavior in terms of reinforcement. This account argues that the repeated trials with hiding the toy in box “A” is reinforcing that specific behavior, so that the child still reaches for box “A” because the action has been reinforced before. However, this account does not explain the shift in behavior that occurs around 12 months.

Smith and Thelen[1] used a dynamic systems approach to the A-not-B task. They found that various components …


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