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a day with-OUT

Friday, April 11th, 2014

shutterstock_143105233A day with-OUT


a day with-out


a day with-out


my last chance,

my last straw

2 draw


NOPE!!!…actually, gnaw.

and Y

i want to cry..have shed all the tears?!…you wouldn’t hear them;                             any                                                                       way

do you even ask…no care?

you won’t give them to me!!

how cruel (it feels to a sensitive/loving heart) with a capital CRUEL..

too unfair

to the fair










a soothing

harp; tight


when i am gone (forever out of sight and no translation for my wordless words)

and gone

for good…(this body dead) and the song is sung (don’t they say: the good die young?) and it’s paid….(and paid WELL)

don’t try then

it’s understood: remember

(the stomping will be


i want NOTHING

no flowers from u then

it will be



“GREAT!”…it will be over.

the pain, the suffering of with and with-OUT and of what is and what is not


my conscience clear

here…NO FEAR.




running dry? sigh, sigh, sigh



it’s heavenly!

tell me

what’s life with-OUT any

flowers at all?

no consolation, no comfort

no empathy (for me: a little pity?)


in my hand

the power




how come



OUCH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!……………………………………………………………………………………………………….healing heart(s)…

“You have examined my heart, you have inspected me by night; You have refined me, You will find that I have not schemed anything bad, And my mouth has not transgressed.” (Psalm 17:3)





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Don’t Judge this Blog by its Title!

Thursday, March 27th, 2014

shutterstock_161486987I have roughly/approximately 75+ drafts in limbo*…waiting to be published, deleted, or edited. I WISH…oh, that would be a FUN game!

You like games, right??

How about I randomly list some blog titles and You, Dear Reader:)…can choose which one(s) You like. Then, according to Your preferences/responses, I will tweak/work the “specified” draft-post(s) and publish.

Mind You: some of the draft titles were just “quick” brain bubbles/ideas/thoughts. (Some needing popping.)

IF You choose NOT to participate, this bleeding heart may just cry -lol:) THANKS for leaving a comment/participating aka helping me organize and decide which blog(s) You would like to read!! I say: Give the reader power over what they want to read, eh?!
Power to The Readers!:)
AND remember, don’t judge unjustly any bfl: Breathing-Fragile-Life by outer appearances and THANKS for not judging any blog by its title!;)

Here’s my draft-blog random list:

 I’m NOT rolling my eyes!

15 Things I learned as a Parent for 15 Years!

Accountability–a Dirty Word?

Listen, Believe, Do, Ignore, Avoid, Go

12 Ways to Help a Bipolar Loved One Cope

My Gratitude List #25-37

The Humble Wife

Multi-Level Learning Smart(s) Broad & Granular

45 Things I learned in 45 Years of Living!

2 Partners on the Road of Relationship: Pave & Pace

Loving Someone with Bipolar Disorder

Homeless & Honest

Caregiving & Coping with Disturbing Behavior: NSSI: Part 3

Neem Tree

Feeding My Animals

No Ogling Objects Here: Keep Your Eyes & Comments to Yourself: PLEASE!

Coping with Emotional Pain

Green Tea Therapy TV: Q & A with Joan Winifred


PEACE & THANKS again for Reading & Choosing! :)

P.s. Here’s why I don’t like limbo*…(aka don’t believe in unscriptural doctrine: made-up stuff designed to scare/manipulate):

In 2007, the Catholic Church officially signed Limbo’s “death certificate” in a document mentioning “theological and liturgical reasons to hope that infants who die without baptism may be saved and brought into eternal happiness.”–International Theological Commission.

 Why this change in position, this theological U-turn? Basically, it allowed the church to free itself from what French columnist Henri Tincq …

I just…don’t know!

Tuesday, February 25th, 2014

I just…don’t know!

but…that’s OKAY!

I won’t act, move…I’ll just STAY…

put. my mind.

Other thoughts and worries will fill the space…the space I don’t know


I won’t forget YOU


“You” know.

Trust is

my MUST.


how can I understand


and will.

It’s not an either/or



NOW and then and

why? not?

Don’t look! behind

look ahead





thinking and moving…

another day

another shuffle, eh?

learn it/do it!!!


Kick what??

You know!…

representin’…i need the “g”… OH YEAH!!:)

(and/or/maybe? coffee/caffeine for this migraine)

Interesting “new” (perhaps?) passage(s) for meditation(s): THINK about it:

“For he says to the snow ‘Fall to the earth.’ and to the downpour of rain, ‘Pour down mightily.’ God puts a stop to all human activity (puts a seal on the hand of every human) So that every mortal man will know His work. The wild animals go into their dens and remain in their lairs. The storm wind blows from its chamber, And the cold comes from the north winds. By the breath of God, the ice is produced, and the broad waters are frozen solid. Whether it is for punishment (or “of the productive land of the earth”) or for the sake of the land or for loyal love, he causes it to happen. Listen to this, Job; Stop and consider carefully the wonderful works of God. Do you know how God controls (commands) the clouds And how he causes the lightning to flash from his cloud? Do you know how the clouds float? These are the wonderful works of the One perfect in Knowledge. Why does your clothing become hot When the earth is still because of the south wind? Can you, with him, spread out (or beat out) the skies As solid as a metal mirror? Tell us what we should say to him; We cannot answer because we are in the dark. Should he be told that I want to speak? Or has anyone said something that should be communicated to him? They cannot even see the light, (That is, of the sun) Though it is bright in the sky, Until a wind passes by and clears away the clouds. Out of the north comes golden splendor God’s majesty is awe-inspiring. Understanding …

Catching the Buzz

Friday, February 14th, 2014

What’s the buzz?
the bees?
(No, the stings.)

What’s the fuss?
the mees?
(uh-huh, the rings, the chains!)

What’s the cares?
the yous?
(spellin’ it use?)

What’s the fairs?
the fuse?

Accept the TRUTH

What’s the cuts?
the temps?
(thinkin’ they’re permanent, eh?)

What’s the guts?
the makers?
(NOT the fakers, that’s for sure!)

Not the dreamers?
the live-rrrs or the die…rrrs!

Run, run, run
for fun

Less is Strength

Friday, January 17th, 2014

shutterstock_92746561Less is strength. More is weakness.

WHAT???!!!! are you talking about girl (unnamed mind) behind the boney fingers typing this text?!

Oh, wouldn’t you like to know. (insert wink now)

Let me think. How to explain in less than…words.

Well, words are all I have to work with for now.

Well, words are all You have to read with for now.

(Hey, we all gotta work with what we got…an obvious truth.) My mind may need more words to find understanding/clarity/explanation/peace. Your mind may need less words. It’s all about vocabulary. Differing minds needing differing vocabulary. United minds use United vocabulary. 

Don’t be fooled, I’m into simplicity.

Rabbit Fence.

WHAT???!!!! are you talking about girl aka being (unnamed mind) behind the boney fingers that just typed “rabbit fence.”

Yes, I love rabbits and Yes, my neighbor almost finished his fence. NO! I mean something else figuratively/abstractly…

It’s aboriginal.

It’s a first love. Change is about losing that first love. IF that first love is healthy: emotionally, physically, mentally and spiritually than you fight to keep it burning. You hold on to it. This first love fences.

Some like visible fences. Some are comfortable with fences that are tangible. Some like invisible fences. Some are comfortable with fences that are intangible. (Each kind of fence serves a kind of purpose.) Some do not like fences whatsoever. Each way of living with fences or without fences is learned.

Fence Rabbit.

Oh, you need more words for clarity of this post. Here’s 1


Unless You have proof…no one abandons a first love aka comfort zone aka place of refuge (and not just talking person you first loved i.e. Mother, Father, God), it could mean any long-cherished belief or practice, habit, ritual, thought, house, tradition, religion, country, state, school, institution, ship, mind-set whether negative or positive.

Some neighbors/fragile-life need fences for protection. Some carry weapons and guns for protection too.

I carry the intangible.  My neighborhood/globe is a mine/mind field. Walking through my mine/mind field carrying my protective gear?! I have never owned a gun and never will. Yet, my intangible gear (wisdom/compassion/spiritual sword) protects me. It’s guiding my path.

 “You are the salt of the earth, …

168 Reasons for Happiness!

Wednesday, January 15th, 2014

shutterstock_107413697Hi Psych Central & Beyond!:) You know the deal. You know what day this is??

It’s the day you: WAKE UP!

It’s the day You get out of your comfy bed and toss your comfy pillow.

Toss what’s keeping you down.

It’s the day for shedding some sticky skin. (It’s a day to get fresh skin.)

Don’t worry, shedding some tears is good for you.

It’s time to sweat! It’s a day of NO REGRET! It’s a day for Compassion Action!

(Passively sitting on the sidelines gets you nowhere…you must move. Move mind then move body!)

We all need some exercise including me…let’s flex our Agape (Brotherly/Sisterly) Love.

Whether we watch the clock or not…it’s still ticking. Are You a clock stopper?! Sunset will come even for you.

What will you accomplish today?! Your life/time is too precious to waste on the irrelevant, mundane and petty.

So…forgive and

Get out there and do something kind and not just for yourself!:) You know who needs You. You know who needs something only you can give… A smile, a hug, a word, a gift.

Please: GIVE it. You’re a giver: We need more givers like You:) in this desperate world of despair run by takers, takers of time, takers of life, takers of money, takers of homes, takers of family, takers of preciousness!

Whose heart can you help heal?! When you help, you heal your own heart too!:)

It’s the day to venture out of your drowsy, comfort zone that’s keeping you tired and exhausted mentally, emotionally, physically and spiritually down. Get UP! Get Happy!

It’s time for a diet change aka mind surgery. Cut out the negative. A change from the negative and violent to the positive and peaceful (aka healthy spiritual food) will add to your wellness and the wellness of All-Breathing-Fragile-Life.

Today, you don’t take lies for answers and fake medicine for your real pain. Today, you control yourself. You don’t let yourself be negatively manipulated by junk-food media or …

Shedding Thick Skin

Monday, January 13th, 2014


When grass is tall, you cannot easily spot a snake. Time to cut some grass?? Short grass protective.

I don’t particularly like snakes, I respect All fragile life. Snakes fall in that realm of existence.

I’m careful to avoid them, though. Are You? I’ve learned over time to appreciate certain things about snakes. (Doesn’t make them my preference, however.)

Over the years, by exposure, I’ve shed my phobia. Can You blame me for not liking them so much when as a young preschooler, almost had a rattler bite me in the face. During my formative years, my family moved from the city to the country, though I spent my schooling years in the city. Growing up in Somerville, MA, then we would vacation/camp in the mountains of NH during the Summer. (Best of both worlds?!)

I have vivid memories of playing in the woods (of Virginia) out in the boonies as a small child. Mostly of warm sunshine filtering down upon me through the shadows of leaves from beautiful, big trees or memories of a horse named “Molly!” …and a scary snake -“unnamed” lol:) (Oh, and the red clay dirt and making many mud pies.)

I picked up a round abandoned container in the woods behind my house, curiously put my face close to see what was inside and out pops a mad snake! Dropped container and remembering seeing a snake slither out and away while hearing a noise.

See, outgoing-friendly-curiosity aka fearlessness or lack of scary experience can get ya in trouble, eh?;)

Guess, years later, I haven’t completely learned my lesson?? Being a friendly outsider looking curiously into containers…watch out, joanie.

I’m exhausted (not defeated: BIG difference) trying to expand the non-thinkers. The boxers keep boxing. The conformers keep conforming… (aka Close-Minded-Thinking-Claustrophobia-Sufferers who keep on resisting new thoughts!)

Obviously, I’m suffering too…THANK God not from that!!

The beaters of a different drum keep beating… away and the non-hearers just don’t wanna listen, no matter how loud or beautiful the sound cause to them: it’s just NOISE!!! To me, it’s MUSIC. (i love pure music.)

Instead of learnin’ to listen–they tell ya to STOP! …

Finding (Knowing) Love in 2014

Wednesday, January 1st, 2014

Anything or Something unearned is/or/and undeserved…is a GIFT!

APPRECIATE Everything/Anything or Something and do not expect anything/everything or something.

For a little clarity aka understanding: This symbol “=” is aka “means” (in this post anyway):

Time = Love

Cell = Love

DnaA = Love

Pink = Love

Blue = Love

Green = Love

Every Color of the Rainbow including the Rainbow = Love

Black = Love

White = Love

Grey = Love

Gravity = Love

Earth = Love

Universe = Love

Space = Love

Atmosphere = Love

Dirt = Love

Grass = Love

Water = Love

Wind = Love

Ant = Love

Spider = Love

Worm = Love

Snake = Love

Bird = Love

Lion = Love

Cat = Love

Dog = Love

Flower = Love

Butterfly = Love

Tree = Love

Plant = Love

Banana = Love

Orange = Love

Spinach = Love

Snow = Love

Rain = Love

Breath = Love

Light = Love

Day = Love

Night = Love

Stream = Love

Pond = Love

River = Love

Ocean = Love

Mackerel = Love

Mountain = Love

Beach = Love

Sand = Love

Shell = Love

Eye = Love

Nose = Love

Ear = Love

Brain = Love

Mind = Love

Mouth = Love

Heart = Love

Lung = Love

Fingertips = Love

Toes = Love

and on and on and on…

Sunshine = Love


Guess What?


Where/when did love begin? Where/when did love originate?

Source ? !

No Guesses: You had a beginning...You were not here first! Don’t forget that “FACT!” -lol:)

So, let’s not get all haughty about it:



 “Let Everything You do be done with LOVE.”




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My Gratitude List 13-24

Wednesday, December 25th, 2013

shutterstock_140694610Peace Psychcentral & Beyond!

Partners in Wellness have lots for which to be Grateful!


Today is December 24th and here’s my Gratitude List:13-24: (For related context check out: My Gratitude List 1-12)

Special THANKS to my Son, L-P, for helping me video the evening of the 23rd. THANKS to Hubby, Chato Stewart, Mental Health Humor for his editing today: December 25th!

13. Flowers: fresh and silk

14. Snow

15. The Genuine aka Pure in Heart: The non-deceivers.

16. Minds on Music

17.Tradition Breakers and Truth Seekers aka SURVIVORS…YOU!:)

18. Guitars…air or other

19.FREE Outsiders living (AGAPE aka Real Love) outside popular boxes shaped by conformity and fake ritual (that’s a mouthful)(i.e. box(es) of non-compassion, materialism, fake religion, etc.) notice: it’s just an empty box stripped of its fancy wrapping paper…worthless…a box worth tossing and not worth recycling, eh?!

20. Non-compulsory giving aka Year-round Cheerful givers (and cheerful receivers)!:)

21. Silver rides aka safe family transportation that picks up only compassion (hitch) hickers

22. Long-lasting classic, (Bubblicious) sugarless gum…i pop my own bubbles. Come on, you know you have some bubbles to pop…go for it!

23. Token(s)…of affection(s)

24. Hot Chocolate/Coco…YUM…mmmmy!

Going my way? I’m looking for compassion riders: Let’s leave this violent/dieing/selfish/deceptive town behind, okay?? Choose Narrow (Authentic) LIFE HIGHWAY…now!:)

Ready? to pop some bubbles? say (toxic) soapy ones…Sure, You are: with toxic soap in your eyes, how can you see clearly or clearly choose??

For me, the pursuit of accuracy or honesty IS the pursuit of compassion. It’s the pursuit of shedding (discarding) the false/fake. It’s choosing the REAL life…real/awake living/awake choosing.

(Well, IF you’re not up for any bubble popping right now–PLEASE don’t read on.)

The roots of Christmas are found, not in Scripture, but in ancient pagan festivals, such as the Roman Saturnalia, a celebration dedicated to Saturn, the god of agriculture. Likewise, according to their reckoning, devotees of the god Mithra celebrated December 25 as the “birthday of the invincible sun,” …

144 Reasons For Happiness!

Sunday, December 22nd, 2013

shutterstock_151580969144! I’m liking that number: a LOT! Counting and wondering IF I’ll make it to 3 zeros?!

I started this Happiness List as a coping tool in the aftermath of a not-so-happy (August) 7th day.

Thankfully, off the top of my head, I can’t recall “any” specifics which had me sooo upset and why I was shedding sooo many tears that distant day. It is a “forgotten” mystery now…aka the precursor to:

8 Reasons For Happiness published on August 8, 2013.

1 week of time living/learning = 7 days + 1 day/next day number 8…buying out time for stopping, reflecting, meditating, recording, listing, ruminating, appreciating, expressing, rejoicing: another 8…

HAPPINESS FACTORS/CONTRIBUTORS multiply and no matter what the matter??! whatever the unexpected/emergency and/or Special weekly circumstance(s) or weather (fleeting/changing emotional climate or otherwise) that may arise in our lives.

Obviously, this coping tool helped! It has shifted my dwelling on whatever negative(s) of that past, tough day and now, here we are: fast forward to December 22, 2013 and my emotions are tenderized by focusing on the positives in life experienced since: August 7th.

I know You have positives happening in Your life as You read this.  I encourage YOU to focus Your thoughts on these. I also know, You are experiencing something not-so-happy in Your life as You read this. Tough challenges we experience, as fragile life, can serve as a disciplining and refining tool for polishing us into positive change(s).

Periods of growth and change can be painful and pleasurable, annoying and enlightening; adjustments of the necessary in order to continue living.

EnJOY the ride…while You can ride.


Keep Counting/Measuring Happiness:

144. Angels (aka messengers: Greek “Ag’gelos”)

143. Kept Promises

142. MC’s, DJ’s & LP’s (musical & other)

141. Hand held dust buster: making cleaning car interior easier

140. Wild Life & Domestic Life (i.e. Breathing-Fragile-Life Living in Peaceful Harmony (in all circumstances)! :)

139. Quiet and Solitude

138. Talking and Association

137. “I”nsight & “I”ron: “As iron sharpens iron, So one man sharpens his …


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