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Woman! Women of the Earth!
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BEATIFUL-BREATHING-FRAGILE-LIFE

YOU are more than

eye

candy

Altan Sekerleme

for others to salivate over!

You are more than

a toy

Thanks for the help! Problem solved!

 to be played with and discarded when done!

You are more than

a pawn

Chess | Black pawn, isolated

manipulated by physical, mental and emotional force!

You are more than

some BODY

Shooting de Mannequin !

somebody’s:

Mother

SISTER

Daughter

WIFE

Girl

You are WORTHY

worthy of


LOVE

RESPECT

HONOR

as a fragile vessel

a piece of porcelain

a piece of lace

Änni. Dreaming.
a piece of velvet

and

a piece of grace!

Red curves 2

Ceci n’est pas…une poeme!

According to the U.S. Department of Justice’s National Crime Victimization Survey –there is an average of 207,754victims (age 12 or older) of rape and sexual assault each year.

There are 525,600 minutes in a non-leap year. That makes 31,536,000 seconds/year. So, 31,536,000 divided by 207,754 comes out to 1 sexual assault every 152 seconds, or about 1 every 2 minutes.~Rainn (The nation’s largest anti-sexual violence organization.)

Ceci n’est pas…une blague!

Types of Sexual Violence:

Sexual harassment: unwelcome sexual advances, requests for sexual favors, and other verbal or physical conduct of a sexual nature in which submission to or rejection of such conduct explicitly or implicitly affects an individual’s work or school performance or creates an intimidating, hostile, or offensive work or school environment.

Stalking: The impact of stalking can be profound and life altering. Individuals who are stalked often change many of their behavior patterns and have strong emotional responses to the stalking. ~Rainn

Defintion: The exact definition of stalking varies by state, but in general, stalking refers to “a course of conduct directed at a specific person that involves repeated visual or physical proximity, nonconsensual communication, or verbal, written, or implied threats, or a combination thereof, that would cause a reasonable person fear.” Examples of this behavior include: Repeated undesired contact (phone calls, emails, letters, showing up unexpectedly, etc.) Following or laying in wait for the individual. Making threats to the individual or her/his family. Any other behavior used to contact, harass, track or threaten the individual. ~Rainn

 Ceci n’est pas…Fini!

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Sexual violence and gender-based violence is associated with a host of short- and long-term problems, including physical injury and illness, psychological symptoms, economic costs, and death(Lifetime Prevalence of Gender-Based Violence in Women and the Relationship with Mental Disorders and Psychosocial Function, Journal of American Medical Association 2011).

Speaking and Living Compassion means Non-Violence: sexual or otherwise. Please, People of the Earth– Let’s Live Love…let’s cherish all breathing-fragile-life!!:)

Let’s give and not take. Let’s forgive and not hate.

FYI: This piece of writing denounces violence and pornography!…which degrades both men and women as pieces of meat! Like gangrene both violence and pornography must be cut off!

Ceci is: Dedicated to ALL Breathing-Fragile-Life that has suffered and is suffering due to abuse and/or sexual violence.

Profile of a Potential Rapist
□ Emotionally abuses you by insulting you, ignoring your views, or getting angry or annoyed when you make a suggestion.
□ Tries to control elements of your life, such as how you dress and who your friends are. Wants to make all the decisions on a date, such as where to eat or what movie to see.
□ Gets jealous for no reason.
□ Talks down about women in general.
□ Gets drunk or “high” and tries to get you to do the same.
□ Pressures you to be alone with him or to have sex.
□ Won’t let you share expenses on a date and gets angry if you offer to pay.
□ Is physically violent even in subtle ways, such as grabbing or pushing.
□ Intimidates you by sitting too close, blocking your way, touching when you’ve said not to, or talking as if he knows you better than he actually does.
□ Can’t handle frustration without getting angry.
□ Doesn’t view you as an equal.
□ Enjoys weapons and likes being cruel to animals, children, or people he can bully.
From I Never Called It Rape, by Robin Warshaw.

Excerpt from article How to Prevent Rape:

“Not all rape situations can be anticipated. Unwittingly, you may find yourself alone and facing a man who is stronger than you and who is intent on forcing you into sex. What then?
Act quickly, and remember your goal: escape. A rapist often tests his victim before deciding to attack, so it is important to derail his plans as soon as possible before he gains enough confidence to act. Rape experts offer two courses of action: passive resistance or active resistance. You can try passive resistance first and, that failing, move to active resistance.
Passive resistance may involve anything from buying time by talking to the rapist to pretending you have a sexually transmitted disease to vomiting on your assailant.

“Tactics are limited only by one’s imagination,” wrote Gerard Whittemore in his book Street Wisdom for Women: A Handbook for Urban Survival.

If talking doesn’t work, don’t be afraid to move to active resistance. That doesn’t mean you’re more likely to be harmed or killed, nor does submission guarantee your safety. Therefore, most rape experts advise putting up a struggle. Fighting back can be difficult for women because they have been conditioned for a lifetime to be polite, passive, and submissive even when threatened by physical force. Therefore, you need to decide ahead of time that you will resist so that you won’t lose precious time by hesitating during an attack.

You need to feel outraged that anyone would threaten or pressure you. You need to realize that this attack is premeditated, and the rapist is counting on you to submit. Get angry, not afraid. “Your fear is an attacker’s most powerful weapon,” said researcher Linda Ledray. Don’t worry that you are overreacting or that you may look foolish. “Better rude than raped,” as one expert put it. Women who have successfully resisted rapists usually did so actively and tried more than one tactic, including biting, kicking, and screaming.

If you are unable to fend off the rape, concentrate on being able to identify your assailant later. If possible, scratching him or tearing his clothing will leave blood and fabric evidence with you. But at this point, you may simply be unable to fight any longer. In that case, “do not berate yourself that you ‘let’ him rape you,” said Robin Warshaw in I Never Called It Rape. “You do not need to sustain injury or death to ‘prove’ you were raped.

MERCI/THANK YOU for choosing PEACE over Violence!:) Choosing peace involves protective and preventative measures of well-being. THANK You for viewing ALL Breathing-Fragile-Life (in your life and in our global family)–worthy of Compassion, Care and Genuine Love!:)

Hand N Hand

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Hoping this Song will get You to Move (i.e. dance, stand up–Act for humanity/compassion!) or at least, play some air guitar -lol:) (think about it!:)

A practical Biblical thought:

“In Showing Honor to one another take the lead.”—Rom. 12:10.

Are You taking the lead against violence (including gender-based)?!…then You’re HAPPY!..You’re doing what You can!:)

 

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