Archive for January, 2013

Don’t Be Scared!

Wednesday, January 30th, 2013

Don’t be scared! It will be alright! Hang on tight!:)

This blog is Dedicated to All Fatherless and/or Motherless Children. All Beautiful-Breathing-Fragile-Life on this planet that has suffered any type of abuse and/or neglect when young or even now. All Beautiful-Breathing-Fragile-Life that is trying to make their way through their suffering and pain to the other side.

 
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 My head is pounding. My heart is beating. My eyes are tearing. My nose is breathing. My ears are ringing. My mind is thinking…

My body is aching…for the helpless, hopeless and homeless. Young ones who have not received the help they need at a tender age. Young ones who have been betrayed by the selfish role-models (adults) in their lives who have left them without trust and hope of any kind. Young ones (and others) who have no home/place of comfort and security in which to dwell in peace.

It’s the lost boys and girls i cry for…lost because of a lack of education. Lost because of a lack of love. Lost because of a lack of compassion. Lost without hope of any “real” future beyond here and now. Who hasn’t been lost?? YOU?! ME?!

Don’t be a faker. This world is so full of fakes. Frauds with fake ideals. Frauds with fake meals. Fake food don’t fill you up. Lies make you throw up! Sorry but i’m not swallowing…i’d rather starve…

Have you heard of Robert Boyle? The “Father of Chemistry?”

“Boyle’s approach to scientific research is summed up well in his famous book The Sceptical Chymist. There he recommends that scientists avoid being arrogant or dogmatic and be willing to admit mistakes. Boyle insisted that those with strong opinions should carefully distinguish between the things they knew to be true and the things …


Maintain Peace in Various Situations

Sunday, January 27th, 2013

Morning GloryHAPPY Sunday!:) A day to contemplate some ancient counsel. Counsel that’s not too hot, not too cold…just right Goldilocks!:)

Hope You’re not in a hurry?!:)…

“Do not hurry yourself in your spirit to become offended,” says Ecclesiastes 7:9, “for the taking of offense is what rests in the bosom of the stupid ones.”

I know you’re NOT stupid!:) No matter how intelligent one may be, it’s still difficult, at times, not to take things soooo personally!

It’s part of “Waking UP!” to the reality that: Life (and most other Breathing-Fragile-Life on this beautiful planet) does not revolve around YOU or ME (or our particular set of emotions). Reality of ANY seemingly “negative” offense: You probably do not have all the facts! Everything is not always as it seems on the surface. You cannot read somebody’s mind or heart. You cannot truly know somebody’s motivation or thinking unless they specifically spell  it out…and even then, if you’re like me, you may not “completely” get it!…you may not be the spelling bee queen..get what i mean? -lol:)

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All i’m saying is: there is “practical” wisdom in patience. There is wisdom in giving someone the benefit of the doubt instead of rushing to judgment and anger/destruction!! i truly appreciate it when my friends do that for me!:) There is wisdom in holding back your anger before you hurt yourself or somebody else.

When/if you have a negative encounter with anyone…even driving…Preserving Your LIFE (and All Breathing-Fragile-Life in general) is way more important than saving face/your pride.

Today, my family and i were reading/studying some encouraging material that serves (partly) as the inspiration for this blog… Basically, encouraging one to calm down and view a particular situation or event “dispassionately” …


Will You Wait a Minute?!

Friday, January 25th, 2013

My last post: Art Fun was introductory to the topic of patience. (Patience needed with kids. Patience needed with the messes kids make, etc. Patience when life doesn’t turn out exactly as planned. Patience when the colors get blended and blurred beyond recognition. Patience when unexpected/uncontrollable event/s alter or ruin your work. Patience to create art fun.)

Realistically, what art (or life imitating art:) actually turns out “exactly” as planned??!

(That’s why i live life with a Purpose–not a Plan!) Are you living a “purposeful” life?!

“A plan might be compared to mapping out a detailed path, whereas a purpose may involve having in mind a goal but not necessarily one specific manner of reaching it.”

For context see: Got Lemons, Now What?

How would you define Patience? What terms or descriptions come to your mind when you think of a patient person? May be a name comes to your mind? Do you know a patient person who can serve as a role-model? What scenarios can you think of that call for patience? What relationships could/would improve IF you tried to exhibit more patience? Can being more patient contribute to better decision making? Sure it can!:)

Patience can help us go with the flow….of the day’s events…both seemingly positive and seemingly negative. (On the surface, certain things may appear negative. However, if you take the time to dig deeper and analyze things that you initially viewed as negative are actually positive or vice versa.)

Perhaps a patient person sees things in a more positive light. (It takes patience to find your way out of the dark…funny/interesting how truth does that..sheds light. Are you patiently finding your way out–finding out the truth?!) A hiccup is an “opportunity” for a drink of water… (or holding your breath -lol:) Water …


Art Fun

Monday, January 21st, 2013

Hoping this artwork sample brings a smile to your day!:) Art therapy is a good, healthy stress-reliever and stress-manager. The kids had been asking to do some painting (with me) for a while. So, this mama decided to enjoy some “relaxing” (whatever that means:)–art time with my girls…(usually they do a lot of art stuff with Daddy!)

What fun!…What a mess!:)

A week later and i’m still finding “traces” of colorful, acrylic paint in odd places. You cannot get creative without a mess. I live with VERY creative people!:) It’s like i blinked and walked away for a split-second and…OH NO!-lol:)

The kids did GREAT cleaning up and mopping the tile for me, which i appreciated!! Let them paint inside and outside…grass looks great green and other colors, too.

Before kids, i was a neat freak…sorta, everything organized and in its place…sparkly clean!! I still “prefer” organization and cleanliness. Though, i’m “realistic” about the natural messes kids need to make in order to learn and grow. Learning and growing requires mess to a degree. Creativity requires a measure of mess and i’ve learned to adjust. Making adjustments is an essential part of life.

I’m still constantly cleaning and trying to keep organized and get the kids to do their fair share. (FYI: i don’t expect kids to do the share of an adult nor be able to organize or clean like an adult.) I just “try” to set an example of organization/cleanliness and hope they follow…fast!

At times, keeping things organized and very clean…is like trying to shovel in a blizzard! “Almost” impossible…i just work harder.

The snow constantly keeps coming at you. Working “smarter” means: You gotta wait till the snow stops then clear it away!:) I strive “not to let” my need for clean encroach on their need to create (within reason)! I don’t want to stifle their learning processes…taking things apart, making new things out of  junk or baking, cooking. My kids like creating with junk, etc. i don’t mind some junk/stuff…i “prefer” less stuff…minimalist at heart…sorta.

I’m always …


Plat-”O”…didn’t know!

Saturday, January 19th, 2013

As Caregiver, Partner, Friend, BFL (Breathing-Fragile-Life inhabiting this earth:)–Death is a difficult topic. All of us have lost a dear, loved one in death.

SORRY for your loss!:(

Your pain is my pain, truly! Hope You are coping in a positive manner and are finding the comfort you deserve!

I don’t fear death…not my death. I’m not “controlled” or “exploited” by that fear. (May be, by another fear…which i will not confess here.) I choose to face my fear/s. When you face fear-it is not so scarey anymore.

Do you face your fears or run away??

Millions have been profoundly “influenced” by so-called smart men and women (and poets) through the centuries. You and i are among the influenced…whether we openly acknowledge it or not. Every day we come under somebody’s influence (positive or negative)…most likely via media. I refuse to listen* to the lie box aka TV. (*listen or accept and obey without question as truth to follow.)

I carefully choose what I watch–then I weigh the information/discern and decide what is reasonable to believe. I just don’t blindly accept everything I see coming at me. My thinking is not being molded by mass/popular opinion. What is molding your thinking? Is the popular course the best course?

Of course…Sure, you know it, this writing is an “attempt” to influence You, my Readers:)–to Open your mind, Open your heart further…to Compassion and to Truth and shut off the lie box every now and again!:)

You have a choice as to what you believe and how you act on any particular belief. That is a gift of life–choice! Choose Well My Friend!:) and Choose your friend/s well! Our friends have a real impact on our choices. I’m truly THANKFUL to have “genuine” friends in my life who help me in a “positive” way!

Our “faith” in media, our faith in each other/humanity, our faith in government, our faith in religion, our faith in medicine, our faith in science, our faith in education…is constantly being tested; tested as to accuracy, honesty, practicality. We do well to examine the evidence objectively. The evidence can lead to …


Ceci n’est pas…Un Blog!

Thursday, January 17th, 2013

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Woman! Women of the Earth!

BEATIFUL-BREATHING-FRAGILE-LIFE

YOU are more than

eye

candy

Altan Sekerleme

for others to salivate over!

You are more than

a toy

Thanks for the help! Problem solved!

 to be played with and discarded when done!

You are more than

a pawn

Chess | Black pawn, isolated

manipulated by physical, mental and emotional force!

You are more than

some BODY

Shooting de Mannequin !

somebody’s:

Mother

SISTER

Daughter

WIFE

Girl

You are WORTHY

worthy of


LOVE

RESPECT

HONOR

as a fragile vessel

a piece of porcelain

a piece of lace

Änni. Dreaming.
a piece of velvet

and

a piece of grace!

Red curves 2

Ceci n’est pas…une poeme!

According to the U.S. Department of Justice’s National Crime Victimization Survey –there is an average of 207,754victims (age 12 or older) of rape and sexual assault each year.

There are 525,600 minutes in a non-leap year. That makes 31,536,000 seconds/year. So, 31,536,000 divided by 207,754 comes out to 1 sexual assault every 152 seconds, or about 1 every 2 minutes.~Rainn (The nation’s largest anti-sexual violence organization.)

Ceci n’est pas…une blague!
Types of Sexual Violence:

Sexual harassment: unwelcome sexual advances, requests for sexual favors, and other verbal or physical conduct of a sexual nature in which submission to or rejection of such conduct explicitly or implicitly affects an individual’s work or school performance or creates an intimidating, hostile, or offensive work or school environment.

Stalking:


Peakaboo — Eye See You!

Sunday, January 13th, 2013

Peak-a-BooPeak-a-boo! Eye See You! “May You Be Well and also Your household Be Well and All that You Have Be Well!” :)

Every baby loves the game Peak-a-boo…(and some adults, too!:) an early game of early, morning trust and early, morning (new) relationship building…between mother and child, etc. The game/fun never gets old! Whether you’re hiding behind a pair of binoculars, a telescope or computer screen…an “early”/encrypted form of communication, language, laughter and learning. Fun! (who…m–doesn’t enjoy some…fun! No matter what your age!:)

Peak-a-boo–the (young) game of innocence and learning…the game between teacher and student…

Is it A or B or an Enigma?! Mystery…s…olved:

An experimenter hides an attractive toy under box “A” within the baby’s reach. The baby searches for the toy, looks under box “A”, and finds the toy. This activity is usually repeated several times (always with the researcher hiding the toy under box “A”). Then, in the critical trial, the experimenter moves the toy under box “B”, also within easy reach of the baby. Babies of 10 months or younger typically make the perseverance error, meaning they look under box “A” even though they saw the researcher move the toy under box “B”, and box “B” is just as easy to reach. This demonstrates a lack of, or incomplete, schema of object permanence. Children of 12 months or older typically do not make this error.
Competing explanations
Traditionally, this phenomenon has been explained as the child seeing an image and remembering where it was, rather than where it is. Other accounts deal with the development of planning, reaching, and deciding things. There are also behaviorist accounts that explain the behavior in terms of reinforcement. This account argues that the repeated trials with hiding the toy in box “A” is reinforcing that specific behavior, so that the child still reaches for box “A” because the action has been reinforced before. However, this account does not explain the shift in behavior that occurs around 12 months.

Smith and Thelen[1] used a dynamic systems approach to the A-not-B task. They found that various components …


Spend Less & Read More

Friday, January 11th, 2013

“Spend less. Read More.” Awesome slogan from Thrift books…yeah, that’s it…READ more!:) Not to stereotype women, but i’m “not” a shopper! I do it when i have to: run in/run out…get what i “need” at a cheap price.

Well, unless it’s a bookstore or i’m talking to somebody interesting, then i may linger a little. If held captive in a store -lol (cause of hubby and kids or whatever)…just read or find somebody to talk to! I don’t leave home without reading material.

The other day I “had to” go to Walmart…walk through the door and…a GIGANTIC mountain chain on each side greets/meets me! Stacks upon stacks ceiling high of doritos/chips/junk food/soda…Wow! this is really contributing to wellness and moderation on so many levels;)…and then rows and rows of endless items to clutter my mind and my home. Like with 4 kids and hubby, 2 cats, etc. to take care of already…get me out of Walmart quick…more stuff = less time. More stuff = less freedom! Walking into Walmart is an exercise in self-control. (So is composing this blog!:)

Self-control is a positive trait to cultivate. Learning when to speak up or shut up…for somebody like me, can come in handy!:) Learning when it’s safe to stop or go or proceed in tiny, cautious increments is essential. Exercising self-control is critical to preservation of life and relationships.

Actually, my mind is swirling and whirling with various topics for posting consideration. Between reading, research, real-life experiences of late, etc. i’m compiling a list or organizing my writing/learning which is a time-consuming process/event all on its own. Do you find yourself in various states of organization (self-control)? (i’m in the middle of reading a quick book: Organization for Dummies and of course, like a dummy, i’ve misplaced/lost it among my other books!:)

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I LOVE organization and order…the beauty of precision and efficiency and conscientiousness, but not to the …


Think about it!

Monday, January 7th, 2013

Prince sang: “I would die 4 U” and the Gingerbread man (yes, Gingerbread man:) sang: “Run, run, run as fast as you can. You’ll never catch me I’m the Gingerbread man. He trusted the fox to help his plan and that was the end of the Gingerbread man.“~by Shauna Tominey (www.storytimesongs.com)

“Let me help you. I’m your friend. I can take you away from all this. Hop on my tail and I’ll take you across the river.” So the Gingerbread man jumped onto the fox’s tail. A while later, the fox said-”Jump onto my back. I’m sinking, you don’t want to get wet.”  So the Gingerbread man jumped onto the fox’s back. A while later, the fox said, ‘Jump onto my head. I’m sinking, you don’t want to get wet.’ So the Gingerbread man jumped onto the fox’s head. Finally, the fox flicked the Gingerbread man up in the air, opened his mouth and gobbled him up with his sharp, sharp teeth. When he was done he laughed and licked his lips. Gingerbread, gingerbread that’s stuff for me. Gingerbread, gingerbread I’ve had some for my tea.” ~The Story Museum “Gingerbread Man”

i “would” die “for” You! (if You want me to) Would you die for me, too?! (Think about it! I’ll get back to that in a few…a few words or so. Besides, your answer “would” depend on your view of death…oh and life, too and your view of me and you, (relationships in general)…and whether or not you eat (or are tempted by) gingerbread-lol:)

Do you run away from problems/challenges or face them/endure them /resolve them? Who do You trust as “friend”? Who do you trust for guidance/help? (It’s a lonely life with no one to trust.)

Would your “friend” die for You or gobble You up when sinking?!

Yeah, you may be “thinking” who is this chick and WHY is she asking such (life/death) question(s)??? Where is this post headed?? Read on/find out. (Though, not sure if i can round out this topic in 1 post or not?) All i can do …


1313

Thursday, January 3rd, 2013

1313 aka 1.3.13 aka January 3, 2013…

A “Bird’s Opening” for this new post:

1: Poem (discussed with my 3 daughters):

Not in Vain~by Emily Dickinson

If I can stop one heart from breaking,

I shall not live in vain:

If I can ease one life the aching,

Or Cool one pain,

Or help one fainting Robin

unto his nest again,

I shall not live in vain

3: Corny jokes that made my daughters and me chuckle:

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What does an educated Owl say?

WHOM!:)

What is a polygon?

A missing Parrot!:)

What’s the difference between a jeweler and a jailer?

One sells watches and the other watches cells. (cute play on words)

~Everyday Fun Games and Cards by Brighter Child

13:  Writings by Poet/Wise-King Solomon, (i shared w/my kids):

“Happy is the man that has found wisdom, and the man that gets discernment, for having it as gain is better than having silver as gain and having it as produce than gold itself. It is more precious than corals, and all other delights of yours cannot be made equal to it. Length of days is in its right hand; in its left hand there are riches and glory. Its ways are ways of pleasantness, and all its roadways are peace. It is a tree of life to those taking hold of it, and those keeping fast hold of it are to be called happy.” (Proverb 3:13…14,15, 16, 17)

“A Wise person will listen and take in more instruction, and a man of understanding is the one who acquires skillful direction, to understand a proverb and a puzzling saying, the words of wise persons and their riddles.” (Proverb 1:5,6)

“Do not say to your fellowman: “Go, and come back and tomorrow I shall give,” when there is something with you.” (Proverb 3:28)

“Go to the ant, you lazy one; see its ways and become wise. Although it has no commander, officer or …


 

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