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Okay SignHAPPY Monday to You!:) Thank You for nurturing seedlings and for joining me here! (Have you had the opportunity to read Nurturing Seedlings 1?)

Is your day going well? Is everything OKAY? What do i mean by okay?

Well, IF you’re living love, your day may not be an easy one, but it will be fulfilling, satisfying and purposeful: OKAY!:)

An Okay day of living love will involve inconvenience, discomfort, sacrifice, work and most likely a bit of pain (i.e. pain in the neck and/or pain in the butt!:) You may have to do something for someone you really don’t feel like doing! You may have to do something you don’t want or like for someone you don’t like…Yet!:)

(Funny how we learn to like…blog fodder for another post, eh?)

We all have our limits and thresholds for pain, etc….Can you afford 1 act of unselfishness or 1 deliberate act of kindness toward breathing-fragile life?!…Start with 1 act (step) and work your way forward…on your personal path of compassion. YOU CAN DO IT!:) You can live compassion…1 small act of love at a time!

Compassion involves freedom from arrogance and pride.Arrogance and pride can hinder and limit unselfish love expressed toward others. Humility can make life easier for those around us. When we are less demanding, we give more…if we view others as inferior, their needs are less important than our personal needs. When we cultivate a humble, respectful attitude, we give others our full attention, we empathize, we console, we forgive…we encourage and support fragile life…All of Us need encouragement to keep going. We need to know: “It’ll be OKAY!”:)

i LOVE the following quote:

“Most people can bear adversity. But if you wish to know what a man really is, give him power.”~ 19th Century author, Robert G. Ingersoll

Each of us has a measure of power over someone or something in our daily life. It’s important to consider: do we wield or do we yield?! and the manner in which we do so. Living Love… one does not abuse power. (Most abusers of power– don’t consider themselves as such.) If you are in a position of authority, how do those subject to your authority view you?! Do you have the guts to ask them? (How we view ourselves and how others do is quite different. It’s sad some overemphasize superficial, temporary, external appearances.) Do you place a lot of importance on your status? Do you put your status and authority over the well-being of others?

THANK YOU for using your power for the Good and Wellness of those around You! THANKS for contributing to a peaceful environment by not taking yourself (or your status/position) too seriously!:)


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Thinking back to my childhood…Very THANKFUL my parents were avid readers and collectors of books and danced to the beat of a different drum. What are you thankful for? What did your parent(s) or caretaker/caregiver instill in you that you value? If you are a parent, what are you teaching your kid(s)? (Should parents teach the language of love and compassion at an early age/from infancy?)

What do your parents value? I’m thankful my parents value life and truth! They were “honest” to me from the start (which isn’t an easy course: honesty, a realization/revelation now as a parent myself)…they didn’t fill me with false hope, fantasy or second-hand smoke…They taught me “positive” coping skills at an early age.

I don’t recall ever getting spanked by my parents. (I do remember losing privileges as an older kid/teen.) I remember my parents entrusting me with responsibilities (i.e. chores). I remember the warmth, affection and respect my parents showed while instilling a love of learning. They didn’t expect from me what i could not give. We ate meals together, read and learned together, laughed and cried together, worked and played together and volunteered together as a family.

We were not well off (materially) by any means! (we were considered “poor” the working poor…to us, we had everything we needed.) My parents valued relationships over possessions.They were hospitable people. We had many visitors/guests/friends (aka mentors to us kids) to our home for meals. These visitors/friends came from differing ethnicity and cultures/language groups. We see/saw people as individuals/fellow humans/inner persons/family of fragile-breathing life…not black, not white, not rich, not poor, not male, not female, not old, not young, not literate, not illiterate…not fat, not skinny, not pretty, not ugly, etc. That’s not what truly defines a fellow being; temporary circumstances and/or temporary outer appearances. Of course, our family of friends were made up of the old, young, male, female, etc. but they were and are so much more!!…(i would hope–i’m much more than my freckles -lol:) You are so more than your outer appearance!

Unselfish love (Agape) and compassion can give one super powers (i.e. x-ray vision, heat vision and micro-vision, but not a cape or tights!-lol:) Actually, i don’t like being judged and/or misjudged/interpreted or misinterpreted by my outer appearance whatsoever!! What about you? i would rather be “seen” from the inside out. One can “think” what they want about me…reading my writing–do you “see” the real “me”?!

Of course as honest people, my parents,tempered knowledge/info according to age-appropriate, practical, on a need-to-know basis for us kids. (With resolve to practice truth, they “tried” their best to protect our innocence without resorting to deception.)…unlike many of my peers, however, i did not grow up believing in a tooth fairy, easter bunny or santa claus, etc. (i’m odd, i know) I did not grow up deprived…

I grew up free…free to use my mind to question, study, research, think, disagree, discuss, brain dance, conclude, practice–truth…an open mind not filled or cluttered up with lies, racial or other prejudices, superstitions or fears based on false beliefs, religious or otherwise. Yeah, truth can hurt, but i know…its way less painful than lies/inaccuracies. Truth is progressive “accurate” knowledge involving change…takes on-going work and diligence, flexibility and constant adjustment to acquire…still/always working on it…my personal life-long endeavor. What are your endeavors?

Respecting younger life and older life is a compassion value my parents taught…not just in the way they treated me, but in the way they treated my grandparents and other relatives, friends, community members, animal world.

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OOPS, SORRY to ramble so about my parents and myself..(Thanks for putting up with me)…was pretty fortunate and privileged to have parents that cared for me and others. They made their share of mistakes like all parents. They tried their best (like every kid, i didn’t completely agree with everything they said or did.) It’s just my appreciation and love  and respect for them has increased since becoming a parent. (i’m missing my parents right now, can you tell?!) Who do you miss?? What did the ones you miss teach you?!

Parenthood such a daunting task (inadequate description, but you get the point?) What have you grown to appreciate more fully about your parents, caretakers or grandparents?? What can you share from that knowledge that will add positively to someone’s life?!

Here’s some “quick” (no, really:) summary points (Hope you enjoy) from a practical article recently read: “Fulfilling Your Role as a Parent

  1. Misinformation from media and/or peers can confuse/harm kids. TALK to your kids. Tell them the truth. “Research shows that when it comes to major decisions in life, many adolescents place higher value on their parents’ viewpoints than on those of their peers.” Share/inculcate positive, compassionate values.
  2. Help your child understand consequences. “The principle of cause and effect can be observed in virtually every aspect of life.” “Do not Shield your child from the consequences of his or her own mistakes.”
  3. Build Positive Traits.“Help your child think about the character traits for which he or she would like to be known.” When facing a challenge: “What type of person do I want to be?” “What would a person like that do in this situation?”

As breathing-fragile life, we develop a pattern of conduct that characterizes or defines us either positively or negatively. As parents, we can set a positive example and help our kids build positive character traits. How can you build a pattern of COMPASSION?! Please, Continue Nurturing Seedlings!!

THANKS for reading my blog and making my day OKAY!!:)

 

 


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Winifred, J. (2012). Nurturing Seedlings 2. Psych Central. Retrieved on April 23, 2014, from http://blogs.psychcentral.com/wellness/2012/12/nurturing-seedlings-2/

 

 

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