Got Lemons, Now What?
“EUREKA!” I got it!… lemons, that is and the standard market variety at that! Do you like lemons? Do you like sour things that make you squinch and pucker?!… a sconce* really (is what I got)–*”sense, brain, wit” or “a protective screen or shelter” or “In medieval architecture, a detached earth-work, that serves as a small defensive position, providing additional protection for a fort.” or “any device serving as a source of illumination.”
Ah, illumination is good. Shelter, protection is good. Some common sense…ah, that’s good, too! Guess lemons aren’t so bad after all.
Yes, life serves them up (Lemons in all variety, but this post will concentrate on “Eureka”) and frequently to some of us! What do you do? Got Lemons – Now what? Let your lemons serve you well! There is a lot to learn from lemons (the kind you like to eat and the kind you are force-fed.)
Do You make lemonade? or add Lemon to Green Tea with Honey?
Yummy, my beverage of choice…which I’m sipping as I compose this post. What are you sipping? May be, that’s the key to all things unpleasant or sour…learning to sip it up and not gulp it up and choke. A “little” sugar doesn’t hurt either. Sweet n’ sour tastes good to me. I can hear Mary Poppins singing now: “Just a spoonful of sugar helps the medicine go down! In the most delightful way!” Oh, so there is a “delightful” way to take medicine?! Sometimes, Yes! depending on your attitude; keep it real, positive and pleasant for the sake of the kids please. As Care-givers, Partners or Parents, let’s gently teach the kids we can’t always get our way and that’s okay! We’re all grown-up, we can take our medicine, right? Sure, we can!:)
Awareness and Acceptance come in stages. Sometimes, “lemons” are thrust upon us from concealed places…ooh, that really hurts! Sometimes, a bunch of lemons simply come with the territory. I’m learning to not be too territorial. I’m willing to share…you know, pass the lemons around -lol…No, Thank You says You! I’m willing to share the illumination, the enlightenment of my lemons is what I mean. What have you learned from your “lemons”? What’s your favorite lemonade recipe? What ingredients help you tolerate the sour?
Here’s my lemonade STAND…stand-up and Don’t Give Up when things get a little rough/tough or sour….Take it 1 Lemon at a Time! Trying not to pout…too much:)
Do you have a plan or do you have a purpose?
Lemons definitely serve a “purpose” though they may sour/thwart your “plan!” Plans. People make lots of them. As Caregivers or Partners, we may have a Plan A-Z…but we all know what happens to the “best laid plans of mice and men”…Lemons teach us to be versatile and flexible and purposeful. Are you versatile? Are you flexible? Are you purposeful?
I’m sure you know, lemons are used as medicine, disinfectant, cleaning agent, etc. A lemon provides Vitamin C. Vital for the body’s growth and maintenance. Some countries/individuals recommend a daily intake for healthy adults about 100 milligrams. An average-size lemon should provide you (an adult) with about half. Wow, an average-size lemon doesn’t sound too intimidating. Now, if our problems or challenges/lemons (depending on your perspective) were just average-size!
How do you react when your plans go awry? Do you play the blame game? Unrealistic expectations could be a reason. When things don’t work out well, go amiss or worse, it could be a matter of timing. Being in the wrong place at the wrong time or accidents/unforeseen/terrible events (not an act of God) befall many of us. Some unfairly blame others for their poor choices and the consequences of such. Some (who believe) even go as far as blaming God when “their” plans don’t work out well. Do you tend to blame? or Do you tend to take responsibility? Being careful, cooperative, responsible can help us all avert….
Disaster… happens when you mix corruption, greed and poor choices. Speaking of…Time magazine said that “corruption and carelessness” were at least partially responsible for the heavy death toll in the earthquake that hit Haiti in 2010. “Buildings rise with little if any input from engineers and plenty of bribes to so-called government
Instead of a plan, may be You need a purpose?
My hubby, family and I were discussing our goals and read the following together that was very helpful:
“Imagine that two men are each preparing to take a trip by car. One maps out a specific, detailed path to his destination. The other has his destination clearly in mind, but he also knows many alternate routes. He is prepared to adjust his course as necessary to deal with any contingency. In some respects, the different approaches of these two men illustrates the distinction between a plan and a purpose. A plan might be compared to mapping out a detailed path, whereas a purpose may involve having in mind a goal but not necessarily one specific manner of reaching it.”
EUREKA: When you live life with a purpose rather than a plan, you make provisions for lemons (contingency)!
Winifred, J. (2012). Got Lemons, Now What?. Psych Central. Retrieved on April 26, 2015, from http://blogs.psychcentral.com/wellness/2012/09/got-lemons-now-what/