SolitudeSeeking solitude but avoiding isolation is a tricky skill to balance. Solitude at times can be beneficial — too much can be dangerous isolation. Especially if your partner or loved one is severely depressed and/or suicidal!

Of course, when one is not feeling well, who wants to be around tons of people? Usually, we seek quiet, solace and solitude. As a busy mom of four, I like to enjoy quiet, peaceful “moments” alone, which are rare! When something is rare, you tend to appreciate it more, right? When something is rare, you make the most of it.

Do you seek solitude or isolation?

Moderation

“The limiting, controlling, or restricting of  something so that it becomes or remains moderate; reasonable limits, and never to excess.”      

Too much of anything is not too good for you!

Time alone in moderation can help us recuperate as caregivers and partners, but too much retreating (not retweeting!) away from others may turn us self-absorbed and selfish. As caregivers and partners, selfishness does not help us interact well or care well. Are family relationships becoming fractured and are loved ones becoming alienated from one another because of too much isolation?
How many families, partners eat even one meal together daily/weekly/monthly/yearly?
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Positive interaction and positive communication — not just quality, but quantity, is essential to build strong relationships between caregivers and those in their care and between partners and loved ones! Self-examination and honest analysis of daily habits and routines can determine whether or not we are becoming isolated from one another. Finding ways to spend more “positive” time together may help us unite!

Basic human needs like love, communication, interaction and association can keep us well and on the right path. Please consider this Proverb and its implications:

“One isolating himself will seek his own selfish longing; against all practical wisdom he will break forth.”

Something to think about: Are we singing the “Me, Me, Me” (putting self, “me” first) song? See what kind of trouble one can get into singing “me, me, me…”

Ode to Joy Vis-à-vis Beaker from the Muppets.

OKAY, you guessed it, my family enjoyed a Muppets movie-athon after a meal together. Who knew (insert “slightly” sarcastic tone) we could find guidance from the Muppets?…he, he, he, ha, ha, ha…Come join the fun via this blog and get a little lift, I know you’ll smile! You don’t have to dance if you don’t want to. Do you sing?…la, la, la…

Don’t be alone too long ’cause:

“When you’re alone, life can be a little low
It makes you feel like you’re 3 foot tall
When it’s just you – well, times can be tough
When there’s no one there to catch your fall”

Check out this Dancing with the Stars Clip: http://youtu.be/7NzQ0A1stEY

Keeping ourselves healthy and our relationships healthy, communicative, interactive, helpful and happy takes work and self-sacrifice, but it’s well worth it because:

Life’s a happy song when there’s someone by your side to sing along!

Click and check out this cute couple, Carl Oser and Paola Navarrete, jazz up singing this sweet song…A BIG THANK YOU to THEM and THANK YOU for Listening and Reading my blog!!:)

 

Keeping a positive attitude, appreciating whomever is by your side and avoiding isolation is important. We all need someone to catch us when we fall! Seek solitude in moderation. Keep open lines of communication. Avoid isolation.

You’re singing?! I HOPE it’s a HAPPY song! You have a “NICE” voice (in other words: use kind, loving, healing, uniting speech), so let others hear it – especially those close and in earshot! I like Happy Songs, don’t you??

Creative Commons License photo credit: Premnath Thirumalaisamy

 


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    Last reviewed: 8 Aug 2012

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Winifred, J. (2012). Seeking Solitude and Avoiding Isolation. Psych Central. Retrieved on July 25, 2014, from http://blogs.psychcentral.com/wellness/2012/08/seeking-solitude-and-avoiding-isolation/

 

 

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