2 Keys to Happier Relationships & Partnerships
That is how we are wired, or created, if you will. If you want to be loved, are you lovable? If you want respect, are you respectable? We cannot control how someone else acts or feels. We may influence, motivate, encourage, lead, push or pull them in the direction we would like them to go, but ultimately, they have to go there themselves. And to go there they have to want to.
Do you want to go there; move toward more love and more respect in your life? I do! Do you?
Lead by example: What example am I personally setting in my life? Work? Friendships? Family? Partnerships? Care-giving? Am I loving? Kind? Helpful? Forgiving? Am I respectful?
Upon self-examination, I must take responsibility for my words, my actions and the effects, as well as reactions these may be producing in the lives of those around me. Positive effects or negative effects? It’s not always everyone else’s fault…it may be mine!
Oh no! Better do something about it! Yes, for things to get better takes doing something — ACTION:
Treat others the way you want to be treated!
Yes, the golden rule….have I applied it, tried it, practiced it? My son had a wonderful teacher who would say: “Practice makes better” (not perfect). Better is attainable, realistic and measurable. Make it better.
When sick, we all want to get better. We do what it takes or what we think it will take to get better soon. Who likes being sick? I don’t! We rest, take vitamins, enzymes, eat chicken soup, drink tea with lemon/honey, etc.
When you have a cold and/or allergies, you know you are feeling better when you stop sneezing. Perhaps relationships are like that? You know it’s better when you stop yelling and fighting; having negative interactions most of the time and when you share a positive moment, a hug, loving word, or laugh. Symptoms of a sick relationship simply stop!
It might just be a matter of time…some things need more time than others. Some things need more love. Some things need more respect. We have to WORK at keeping “important” relationships/partnerships as healthy as possible, as well as non-toxic or damaging. However, it starts with self. We all have issues, imperfections, “symptoms” (myself very much included!). If we don’t work on getting better inwardly, or less symptomatic, are we spreading our symptoms/issues around?
What do you think?
Wellness seems to be a common goal and ideal. Don’t we all want that in our relationships and partnerships?! Take the initiative – don’t hesitate: show love, show respect, see what happens.
I can change me (my words, my actions) not you or anyone else!
RESPECT: “esteem, honor, show consideration for, acknowledge, accept, obey, have a high regard for…”
“Love” this definition: “Love is long-suffering and kind. Love is not jealous, it does not brag, does not get puffed up, does not behave indecently, does not look for its own interests, does not become provoked. It does not keep account of the injury…It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.”
“Love never fails,” but sadly, people do. People fail to show love, or unselfish love. People fail to show respect — genuine respect. Right now, this moment in time, today, tomorrow, they all offer many “wellness opportunities.”
Seize opportunities before they become regrets!
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Winifred, J. (2012). 2 Keys to Happier Relationships & Partnerships. Psych Central. Retrieved on December 1, 2015, from http://blogs.psychcentral.com/wellness/2012/08/2-keys-to-happier-relationships-partnerships/