sunset loop Ups and downs are a reality of life. They cause us stress. Are you having a stressful day? I hope not! Are you on a rollercoaster ride, screaming to get off?! Oh, the thrill of the ride and the terror of the speed, the twists and the turns…what a rush.

Good and bad stress eventually takes a toll. Caregivers and partners are not immune to the daily stresses, the highs and lows, the rollercoaster ride of caring, cleaning, loving, giving, helping, forgiving, working and volunteering. Learning to manage it all successfully, including the stress it all causes, leads to wellness…one day!

Have you thought about what positive, simple tools you can use to manage your daily stress level? How do you get off this ride, and quick?!

Music is one tool some use to cope with ups and downs of life. They drown their stress and their sorrows in song. Do you do that? Do you have a favorite song or artist that you commiserate with or celebrate with? I view music as a gift. Do you? Perhaps you play an instrument.
Music exerts a very powerful influence, either positively or negatively, on the heart and mind. It’s an effective teaching tool as well.Toronto Taiko Festival 2012 Bang On!! Concert 50

Music may influence us in ways we may not fully comprehend yet. For example, if I’m having a tough day and listen to a depressing song filled with someone else’s problems and issues, woes, and their damaging reactions to these that hurt and don’t heal, guess what? I don’t feel well, emotionally and otherwise. I feel worse. It doesn’t relieve my stress; it adds to it.

For me, filling my mind and heart with more negative stuff on top of the negative stuff I personally may be dealing with that day just overloads me and compounds my problems. By choosing to listen to something uplifting and positive with a good message of hope, I’m encouraged to carry on and take healing action. It empowers me!

What empowers you to continue on and not to give up?!

When UP–give me more to keep me up! Why return to music that brings me down that’s bad for me?!

Please notice the following quotes about music:

“Music expresses that which cannot be said and on which it is impossible to be silent. “

~ Victor Hugo

“Music is everybody’s possession. It’s only publishers who think that people own it.”

~ John Lennon

“Music can change the world because it can change people.”

~ Bono

Are we letting music change us for the better or for the worse? Is it healing us or hurting us? Is it molding and shaping our thoughts and actions? Are we managing our stress with music or adding to it by the music we listen to?! Food for thought. This is an interesting Proverb:

 “Death and Life are in the

Power of the Tongue.”

CThe Beauties At Yonge-Dundas Square 05hoosing our words, lyrics, songs and music carefully can heal us, and help us learn to manage stress and difficult things and emotions. Music can help us manage positive, happy emotions, too.

What words will you use today? What music will you choose? Thank you for choosing well!

Do you and your partner share a special melody of happy times together? Choosing life, love, healing over harming, hating and hurting means positive change and wellness!

As Partners in Wellness, can we keep our relationship healthy, strong and alive by using our tongue wisely and our music, too?

Enjoy this Song:

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