There's a lot of confusion surrounding self-compassion: We see self-compassion as self-indulgent. We see it as selfish. We see it as weak. Which is unfortunate because a) this means that we don't practice self-compassion and b) self-compassion isn't any of these things. I asked several individuals who specialize in self-compassion to clear up the often misunderstood concept by answering this question: What do you wish people really understood about self-compassion? Last week I shared several of their truths in this piece. Below, you'll find several more truths from another therapist and a nutritionist.
The average American gains X number of pounds between Halloween and Christmas. It takes just a few meals to gain weight but many months to lose it. Don't eat the cheesecake! That's way too many calories. For every "treat," you need to do X number of push-ups and burpees and cardio and.... You'll be paying for that pumpkin pie! Never have a second helping! Don't forget about bikini season!
Since I started writing Weightless (in 2009!), every year around this time, I’ve shared a list of last-minute gifts we can give to our loved ones and ourselves—whether we’re celebrating Christmas or Hanukkah. I’ve combined those lists, updated them and added new ideas.
There are so many (too many) misconceptions about what self-compassion really is and what it looks like. And it's precisely these myths that stop us from practicing self-compassion. It's these (erroneous) assumptions that lead us to being self-critical and dismissing ourselves. Which is why I asked several therapists to answer this question: What do you wish people really understood about self-compassion? Below you'll find responses from two therapists, which just might have you reconsidering your thoughts on self-compassion.
In November I started a mini interview series all about caring for ourselves while caring for our kids. As a new mom, I'm interested in seeing how other moms navigate self-care. Because it's funny how when you need self-care the most---parenting, of course, can get overwhelming---may be when you're least able to provide it.
Right now I don't recognize my body. There is a fresh scar well below my belly from my C-section. There is more weight. There are blemishes and bigger thighs. There are curvier curves, an extra softness, and something I jokingly refer to as my marsupial pouch. I notice myself talking more and more about my appearance, and feeling uncomfortable in my own skin.
Last week I shared 50 quick journal prompts to help us get to know ourselves a bit better. Below you'll find 50 more prompts, which focus on your favorite things. As you're gathering with your friends and family for the holidays, consider asking them to share their favorites, too. Often there are so many things we don't know about each other because we simply don't think to ask. This holiday season, consider asking---and be sure to share your own responses.
We often think that the only path to accepting our bodies and treating them (and ourselves) well is to embrace everything, to embrace ourselves from head to toe. And you might be wondering: But what if I still hate my thighs? What if I can't get over my nose? Does that mean I'll be miserable in my skin forever?
I think the path to...