Some Thoughts on the New Year And Being a New You

By Margarita Tartakovsky, MS • Less than a min read

yiddish proverb

It is a new year.

But this doesn’t require being a new you.

Of course, you will see this phrase

in many places:

TV, magazines, websites.

You will hear it in conversation

at work, at the checkout line

maybe even at home.



Top 14 Weightless Posts of 2014

By Margarita Tartakovsky, MS • 1 min read

Philly, bubble fixtures

Every year I share the most popular posts (as judged by pageviews) on Weightless from January to December. This year’s favorite posts include everything from dealing with a loud inner critic to coping with guilt after eating to 10 reasons to love our bodies.

Overall, 2014 was all about exploring kindness; getting curious about our bodies, our needs and our identities; navigating negative thoughts and roaring inner critics (instead of trying to banish them, because they only return that much stronger when we try to dismiss them); seeking stillness and adding pleasure to our lives; turning to gratitude (genuine gratitude) when we need it most; and letting go of what no longer serves us.



Self-Care Sunday: Reflecting On 2014 And 2015

By Margarita Tartakovsky, MS • 1 min read

bed, mac and planner  photo, b and w

With 2015 almost here, it’s a great time to reflect on 2014. To think about what we’ve learned from the triumphs, trials, gains, losses, mistakes, and missteps.

For instance, I always reflect on the lessons I’ve learned on my birthday. (Here are 35 lessons I shared this year.)

Spend this Sunday or the beginning of January reflecting on what you’ve experienced, what you’ve learned, and how the year went in general.



60 Last-Minute Body Positive Gifts For Your Loved Ones & Yourself

By Margarita Tartakovsky, MS • 5 min read

snowman ornament, 2013

Since I’ve been writing Weightless, every year around this time, I’ve shared a list of last-minute gifts we can give to our loved ones and ourselves — whether we’re celebrating Christmas or not. I’ve combined those lists, updated them and added new ideas.

Below, you’ll find a combination of presents you can purchase and gifts that don’t cost a thing. I hope these give you some good ideas.

And, if you’re celebrating Christmas, I hope you have a beautiful holiday. I’ll be celebrating with my very soon-to-be hubby and our family. And, if you’re not, I hope you have a beautiful day.



Body Image Booster: Laugh!

By Margarita Tartakovsky, MS • 1 min read

Philly flowers

I haven’t written a body image booster post in many months. So what could be better than reviving the series with a list of silly quotes?

Because humor heals. It can help us to feel better. To set a sweet tone for the rest of our day or week. To play. To take care of ourselves. To put troubles into perspective. To be in the moment. To feel the joy of laughter in a single, beautiful moment in time.

And, often, to remember the truth.



Self-Care Sunday 12.21.14

By Margarita Tartakovsky, MS • Less than a min read

NYC, early July 2014

On some Sundays I share my favorite links on everything from taking compassionate care of ourselves to embracing imperfection to leading a meaningful life on our own terms.

“I remember that this life isn’t meant to be perfect.”

Try an “End of Year Personal Summit.”

Self-compassion is most definitely a verb.



When You’re Overwhelmed Try these Words

By Margarita Tartakovsky, MS • 2 min read

beach, dunes, taken by mama, july 2014

I’m a person who tends to get triggered easily. It doesn’t take much to make me overwhelmed, to trigger the “what if?” “holy crap” pile of thoughts. I’ve gotten much better throughout the years, but lately it’s been tough with so many things to plan and do.

So lately, I’ve been thinking of ways I can talk to myself without making matters worse. Because the dialogue in our heads can and does make matters worse. The words we use can create tidal waves, explosions, catastrophes inside our minds, which complicate our coping and incite our already stressed-out bodies.



Creating A Supportive Daily Ritual

By Margarita Tartakovsky, MS • 1 min read

pomegranate candle from mama, november 2014

When life gets busy and overwhelming and hard, it’s the simple and small rituals that can ground us. That can serve as an anchor. That can remind us of what is important. Of what is us.

Rituals become familiar actions, gestures we can lean on. They can calm us. They can help us to reflect. To get quiet when chaos swirls around us. And they can become a time we meet all kinds of needs (our need for stillness, serenity, solitude, spirituality).



Self-Care Sunday: Make A Date with Your Feelings

By Margarita Tartakovsky, MS • 1 min read

expectation hangover, christine hassler

In her book Expectation Hangover: Overcoming Disappointment in Work, Love and Life Christine Hassler includes a valuable tip for honoring our feelings. Sometimes, when negative feelings arise, we might not be able to experience them fully. We might be at work or with others.

That’s when scheduling a date with your feelings can help. Because setting a date means you’re not avoiding or suppressing your feelings. You’re honoring them at another time.

As Hassler writes, “Our feelings have feelings. I know that may sound strange but it’s true. When our feelings don’t feel they are acknowledged, they end up being recycled and coming back later, snowballing into a more intense feeling, or even manifesting as a health issue, to try and get our attention in another way.”



Meeting Your Needs When You’re Super Busy

By Margarita Tartakovsky, MS • 2 min read

amelia island, red flower

In the last few months Brian and I have been planning our wedding (while experiencing some unexpected drama with our venue), and making improvements on our house.

I’ve been revising my book while working on my normal writing projects. Brian has been swamped at work. And, of course, we have the holidays.

Things have been hectic, to say the least. (And we don’t have any kids or pets!)

What I’ve realized during these busy times is the importance of meeting my own needs (and letting others meet theirs). I’ve realized just how critical it is to my well-being, productivity and sanity. Because you can’t go wrong with focusing on your mental, emotional, physical and spiritual health.



 
 

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